MississippiQueen

Don't tell! I've found far more people are judgmental than supportive and I would guess alot of that comes from jealousy or ignorance. Also, when people know you've had surgery they expect you to fail and you'll be forever judged by your size. It's just not worth it. 🤐

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I wish I hadn't told anyone. Prior to surgery I told close friends at work and one of them let it slip by mistake. Everyone knew within a week. At first I ran into overwhelmingly positive people, but then the few who seemed to know better about it all were warning me against it, telling me it was dangerous, telling me I "should" do this on my own. Those were very unwelcome opinions. The very worst comment came a few weeks ago. I have been having trouble with a stricture in my stomach and its been a gambit of unfun experiences still happening. One of those people said to me, "See, I told you so."
My husband told his family even after I asked him not too. I was so upset to find out he did this :/. I had to be forgiving, but that was hard for me.
Good luck with your choice.

I'm 3 years out VSG and the cravings were gone, like everyone else, at first. Weight loss happened so effortlessly, it seemed. But once you start eating poorly, it gets easier and easier to do. I still have restriction when eating Protein, but I can eat every junk food item with no problems. I know my sweet cravings came back really horribly strong when my ex and I split up. So I know I'm an emotional eater. I'm here for support. I never met my goal weight. Some days I feel like such a failure.
~MississippiQueen~

Its been a long journey ! I havent posted in a long time and I regret not posting my journey. Its been 10 months since my gastric sleeve, the first few weeks where very hard I will tell you that. I dont wanna scare anyone or even someone that hasnt done to read this and change there mind! Dont change your mind we all went through this path and its a life changer! I was a very very big guy in others words i was fat. Everyone used to make fun of me and it hurt me!! Like really bad, I use to eat to forgot my pain the more i ate the bigger i got witch got me bigger and bigger till my doctor told me to stop but i didnt listen to anyone didnt care i was very depressed all the time all i thougth about was food and sleep lmaoo ! I swear till dis day i laugth at myself. I was 325lb 150kg i was a bigg guys. I im currently 170lb 75kg. I got to my goal 2months ago and my goal was 85kgs :S. I droped 10kgs in 2months!!! My last check up was 3weeks ago and my doctor told me to stop dropping. He told me if i keep dropping i will have bone problems and back pain. He said i need to start eating more of a fat diet like Cookies fried stuff etc.. I can eat them twice a week and the rest of the week eat my diet. But dont get me wrong i fell bad that i have to eat those things again! And plus i can only take a few bits and im full !!! What im trying to say is that i had the gastric sleeve and im happy with it it had its ups and downs put make sure your steonger then it! If anyone ever need edvice im here for everyone noobie or not! Thanks for reading means alot leave a comment if you have any questions or even wanna share your store! Thanks again! Cheers.

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I don't know u, but I'll pray for u right now! You'll do great! ~MississippiQueen~

Having a bad night! Can't keep the food down. 9 months out. Looking at pix remind we why I had the surgery...
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You've already made the first step.
Now, start logging your food. That will bring you back to basics and help you figure out how to rebalance your diet.
Also, check Dollar Tree. They sell sugar-free lemon, caramel, and chocolate hard candies that are pretty tasty. When my family is eating dessert, I grab one of those.
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The past in in the past, and there is no amount of dwelling on it which will change it. Look forward to what the future brings, and resolve to be victorious one day at a time. You only have to do this for today, not tomorrow or the next. When tomorrow arrives, it is today, and you only have to do it for today. But if you dwell on the past, and contemplate the entirety of the future, it will crush you.

I haven't logged on in a very long time...I immediately went to your post because I'm a MS girl too. I'm 3 years out and lost 100 lbs. I've been feeling bad lately (physically and mentally- lots of stress in my life right now with an unruly teen) and almost as if I never had the surgery; honestly I've been scared to weigh. I finally did last night and I'm devastated. Ive gained 23 lbs from my lowest weight. I really needed to gain a little (everyone said I looked a little sick that small) butI feel like such a failure! I woke up this morning with renewed hope but I'm so scared I won't be able to get on track. I got a new exercise machine for Christmas and I know all the right things to do but what if it doesn't work? I will encourage you if you will encourage me
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I don't know u, but I'll pray for u right now! You'll do great! ~MississippiQueen~

Going in for surgery tomorrow at 5AM.
Anxious!
Just want to make it and have a safe & speedy recovery!
Thank you all in advance!
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You're only human ms queen! We wouldn't need the surgery if we were perfect! I would recommend writing down some goals you want to accomplish along with a grocery list for your next visit to the store. Maybe google some tasty vsg recipes to inspire your motivation!
Don't be too hard on yourself, everyone's journey is different and we all have bumps along the way. It's time to dust yourself off and try again.
What I recommend is trying some sugar free candy (have you tried the ice breakers sours mints? They're pretty tasty and sugar free! I recommend giving those a try if you're looking for something sour to have).
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Get it out of your house.
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It takes a lot to realize this and admit to yourself, Ms queen. Now that you have found Bpal perhaps it will provide the help and support you need. Where I live/work right now there are no support groups. I paid for my own surgery out of pocket so no doctor for follow ups. I am my own main support and it scares me. Especially now that I feel so lost. food and smoking were both my comfort in the company of others and my own loneliness. They gave me pleasure and made me relax. Now after my VSG surgery, it's taking some time to get used to without both, surrounded by others I have yet to confide in about my surgery. You see it's hard but I'm determined.!!!!
Weight-loss goals are life long goals. Don't feel like a failure. Instead use to refuel you in new year.
Oh and I'm here for you if you need help.

@@MississippiQueen
A new year and a fresh start for yourself if you want it.
Most of the struggle is mental. Just because you can eat a whole bag of lemon heads does not mean you should eat them. You can get back on track. It might be a good time to empty the house of temptation. Get back to your bariatric plan. take it day to day.
Without the struggle, there is no progress.

I'm just venting. I haven't been on here in a long time and I tried to do things on my own without a support group. Epic fail. I'm 3 years out and I still have restriction, but I've been eating all kinds of crap I know I shouldn't. I do get my Protein in, BUT I can eat a whole bag of Lemonheads candy in one sitting. I really need some encouragement because unless the people I talk to have had a VSG they really don't understand. Please help! Starting to gain weight and never met my goal. ????
~MississippiQueen~

Well, obviously something you're doing isn't working. Change things up.
Whether it's upping your excersise, upping or lowering your intake of calories, lowering carbs, sugar or processed food, something needs to change to shock your system enough to get things moving again. Sometimes just doing liquids for a few days will do the trick to get things moving again.
I'm a perfect example. Although I'm below my goal weight, I had basically stopped losing a few months ago and thought my body had settled where it wanted to be without doing anything too different.
Well, over the holiday season I had let too many carbs and sugar back onto my diet while allowing my excersise to decrease a little. I didn't gain luckily because I apparently was still moving enough to offset it. But I had decided to detox from the sugar and carbs and get back to basics for the New Year not really to lose weight, but to feel better and get back on track.
Between cutting out sugar and white carbs and eating nothing but clean, healthy Protein and veggies and picking up my excersise again, I have lost 2 pounds the first week. I also feel better, and noticed my restriction has increased, too.
I think as we get further out, we let things slip a little without even realizing it. We may think we aren't doing things too much differently, but when we start to really be honest and really track what we are or aren't doing, we can see where we are being hindered.

It's hard to offer suggestions without knowing what you think the issue is, what challenges you are facing with your diet, and so on. Here are the rules I set for myself when I find myself wandering off track:
--set clear goals and stick to them (calories/carbs/protein)
--weigh or measure everything that doesn't come in a single-serving portion (such as a Jerky stick or a cup of yogurt)
--track everything on MyFitnessPal
--plan what I am going to eat in advance each day, and write it down in a schedule
--no liquid calories other than Protein Shakes
--no grains, refined sugar, or high carb veggies (potatoes, sweet potatoes, peas, etc.)
--get anything that doesn't meet my nutritional goals out of the house
--don't take money or any way to pay for things to work with me (this effectively keeps me away from: Starbucks on the way to work, vending machines, the snack shop in the building, the grocery store on the way home, etc.). It's a harsh tool but it works!
Good luck to you.

Thanks, y'all. Just feeling really down on myself. I am the one accountable. I'm glad I logged back in here. I've been needing my fellow sleevers!

Thanks, y'all. Just feeling really down on myself. I am the one accountable. I'm glad I logged back in here. I've been needing my fellow sleevers!

Please don't feel like a failure. I know that is how I have been feeling too but I also have to realize I did lose weight and so did you and that's a huge thing. Sure we didn't get to goal but as we continue to try and get back on track, we may reach a more realistic goal for our bodies. When it comes to the food, yes, everything seems to go down easier but it's up to us what we put in our mouths. You can make the right choices. Remember we had this surgery for a tool and we have to use it to our full advantage. We may only get to a goal weight in another year. We have to keep going and still stay focused. We can do it MSQUEEN. We can!

Wow, its been a long time since I darkened the proverbial door of bariatric pal, for some reason I lost interest when the site changed over but I think I need to come back to you guys, because I have been feeling really comfortable, but not in a good way.
I'm about a year and a half post op, down about 90 pounds and for lack of a better word, really.... stuck? I'm probably not truly as stuck as I feel, but I've lost my steam and my weight loss as really leveled off to a halt.
Things have been great, never really been sick from my sleeve, down around what I think society considers "acceptable fat" meaning I'm around about a size 14 or 16 depending on the brand, except there are always a few that run small in my opinion (I AM LOOKING AT YOU, H&M, SCREW YOU AND YOUR SIZE 18 DENIM) I've experienced some huge emotional losses that I don't feel like getting into because its not really important here and I had a huge win in my book because I did not GAIN, so that was good.
I just need to get my focus back. I'm not 300+ pounds anymore so I think the months of losing 10, 15 pounds a month are gone. I think that this point I want to lose 30 pounds this year, and maybe 30 pounds next year and call it good. Anyone have any thoughts? tips? I feel discouraged. I cant mentally get out of 210-220 range. I bounce all over it but I can't seem to break 210. I would love to see 209 come up but that feels impossible right now to me for some reason.

I would say people who havent already lost 100 lbs. yet. lol

No offense to most veterans on here, but sometimes we newbies would like to converse amongst ourselves. Which is primarily why I go to the forums marked BEGINNERS. Most people on this site are very helpful but some are just plain ol assholes. lol

No regrets here either! I'm 4 weeks post op now...and losing slower than most, but more than I could have lost on one last serious diet alone. To be honest, I was taken off my diabetes meds (the day of surgery) and think my blood pressure meds will be the next to go.
Is there anything I miss about my old eating habits? Yes and no. Yes I miss drinking sodas but I know they were killing me. I was drinking about 6-8 real cokes a day (with all the sugar and caffeine). But this is a trade off I'm glad I made...no cokes=a healthier me.