roundisashape

Oh wow, that must have felt AWESOME, @@OKCPirate!

If a guy is going to have a problem with it, I prefer to find out as soon as possible...I'm 38 and running out of time to waste on guys who are going to get weird on me, lol. I usually bring it up on the first date if it doesn't come up in conversation before we meet...just casually. Like going bowling and he goes, "You want fries?" and I'll say, "Oh, no thank you! I had weight loss surgery, need to stay away from those"

Sometimes it backfires and the guys get weird, sometimes - surprise - they'll go, "Oh me too!".

Sometimes - true story - they'll ask a bunch of overly intimate questions about the state of your skin and how it felt to be "so huge", then they'll disappear. Better to know now than a month in after you start to catch feelings, right?

I have a new one (for those aware of the old one, I finally got that weirdo out of my house, lol...it took him 3 days to find another girl to mooch off of).

Tried a new site and got a response before I finished setting my profile up. He seemed nice! I wanted to be fair because I'm still not thin and my first picture was just my face, so I asked him to go look again since I'd added full body pics and make sure I was what he was expecting. He said he did and it was great! He really liked me! We didn't talk a lot but kept in touch over the course of about a month while both of us had stuff going on and didn't have time. Finally we were supposed to meet on Saturday. I got there, paid for parking, went into the pretentious coffee shop of his choosing, paid for my overpriced "flower scented" coffee and texted him to let him know I was sitting by the front door.

He sends back a message saying he's not interested, and pretty much accused me of trying to lie about what I look like, and he was calling me out on it for my benefit of course. The whole thing was a setup to embarrass me because that's somehow supposed to help me magically be a size 0?!?

Slap in the face after losing this much weight, and the fact that this 40 year old loser put the time and effort into pulling this off just astounds me. What gets me more than anything is that this jerk is supposed to be a teacher. How does he treat the chubby girls in his class?

Between that, the weirdos, and the "sure I want a relationship and a family! Except I really just want a booty call and btw I had a vasectomy" guys, I can't do it anymore. Deleted all my online profiles. I'm tired, lol.

Ah, I'm sorry - yeah, that dude was just looking for an out for whatever reason, and would've hit you with anything that seemed like a viable excuse in his head to make it your fault. You're beautiful and you deserve better!

As for the cats, well, over the summer I met a great guy. I thought he liked me back. Around that time, I found a very tiny kitten and was hand raising it. He was playing with the kitten and about to head out for work so I knew I wouldn't see him for a while (he was military) and instead of just saying, "Will you be coming back or is this it?" I said, "So I'm kind of at that intersection where I either need a relationship or more cats to keep this guy company."

He puts his arm around me, says, "Don't get more cats...you're a great girl, you'll find someone."

To add insult to injury, not 20 minutes after he left my neighbor's granddaughter showed up at my front door with another stray.

There was a hilarious meme on Facebook a while back about that - the conclusion to why we're still single? We're overqualified!

Thanks! It sounds like I still have a lot of researching to do. It's funny, when I started I thought, "I'll be happy to be under 300". Then, "maybe I can get under 200". Now it's, "why not be as close to normal as possible?!?"

Sorry for the delayed response - I thought I answered but didn't.

It seems that it mostly is a hydration issue. I was hitting my Water goal earlier in the day but not drinking much in the evening around gym time. I'm trying to do better with this and noticed it doesn't happen as often or as much.

We're also playing with my blood pressure meds, I needed to step down again.

Just curious - for those who have had skin removal, do you know how much it weighed? I know the variation is going to be pretty wide from person to person, just trying to process in my head at what point I might want to start heading down this path (like, when I have 20 pounds left to lose, is there a good chance that's skin and I should probably start thinking about getting some consultations, etc).

Glad you dealt with it! I ended up with a fissure early on and it was probably in the top 5 most painful things ever.

I'm about 15 months out and still take 2 fiber gummies and a fish oil every morning. The combo helps keep things moving without sending me in the other direction.

Kathy - he's not!!!!! I can't make him leave. It's seriously getting to the "get the police involved" point, he's got some mental health issues I just wasn't aware of.

At this point, I'm seriously considering moving and leaving him there, lol.

6 days later he showed up with all his stuff, and now he won't leave...it's been almost a month.

@@roundisashape

is he gone yet??

i hope so

1 month is one too many months

keep up the great weight loss

good luck

kathy

Oddly, lettuce was one of the first veggies (other than canned green beans) that I could eat from the minute I was allowed that texture - but it IS awfully fibrous so I can see where you might have issues! I'd wait another few weeks and try again

Wow! Impressive job!

This is usually my time to grab a shake - most days I'm a stick in the mud, I throw a fist full of frozen berries into some chocolate Matrix and call it done. If I'm really hungry I might have an egg or something.

Then, there are days when I completely fall off the wagon and stuff a Peanut Butter and jelly sandwich in my gaping maw. It's a process, lol.

Next up, I THINK, might be the "Freeze Your Buns" 5k for special olympics in January.

I like the taste and they seem to be fairly comparable on the label to flintstones...but 2 of them makes a serving and it seems like I'd go through them pretty quickly at 4/day. Also checked them against the recommendations from my center and there's no Iron, and they come up short on thiamin and copper.

Good info - thanks!

I plan to follow up when I see the surgeon too, but he rescheduled me for January.

The sugar/protein thing is worth a shot too. Gummy bear Protein shake? lol. I get the dizziness and lightheadedness too, usually after cardio (especially if I change positions, like if I do my cardio on a bike and then stand up).

At this point I'm willing to try anything, I stall when I don't exercise enough and this kinda sucks.

Thanks! I know I need to do better with hydration, but didn't consider the blood pressure situation. I'll try that, too, and see how it looks!

Especially any kind of lifting - not that I'm lifting anything really heavy or anything, but basically any weight bearing exercise. It doesn't last too long, but it's very sharp and unpleasant.

Anyone else experience this? Better yet, anyone find a resolution??

Late to this party, but I can tell you I felt like I'd been hit by a truck for almost 2 weeks. The last thing I wanted to do was go to a party, unless it was a nap party.

TBH, if you're just friends of the benefits-only variety, I wouldn't bother telling him OR making something up. Been down that path a couple of times since surgery, I didn't volunteer and they were too busy looking at other things to ask

Sounds like it could be, or whatever similar thing we sleevers tend to get - I still get it from time to time and it's pretty much always when I have something sweet.

Hope you're feeling better

Obvious / dumb question, but how well are you staying hydrated? Is it clear?

I don't go as much or as often as I used to, but worry more about the color as a backup indicator that I'm getting enough Fluid even if I'm probably not ingesting as much as I did pre-op.

@@irene2760, I honestly don't think you're doing anything wrong! Some of us need to stay on the shakes longer than others to make sure we hit Protein every day. I don't need to do it all the time (though they're usually a part of my day), but some days the sleeve just doesn't want as much food (or I screw up and eat the wrong stuff and have to hit a Protein shake or two through the day to make sure I at least hit that number).

I just partially ran the Zoo Zoom 5k at the MD Zoo...with an energetic 6 year old...then walked it all over again when the animals came out .

Now I'm working up to the Ugly Sweater Run and hoping to at least jog for half of it.