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I am generally perplexed by the "I tell everyone my business and think others should too" mentality. Everyone is different & unique, everyone has their own reasons, feelings, likes and dislikes re: disclosure. I am just pro autonomy. We're not clones.

Hi I'm in SW Wa. Longview/Kelso area, not too close but here in the Pac NW!

I was told my my psychologist to write everything down as well as exercise this has help me a lot because I don't have to sugarcoat anything, I can get my frustrations out and I do not have to hurt anyone's feelings . Then when I'm calm I can address those issues in a positive way .

For Me. I really thought my emotions were more out of whack when I was stuffing myself with all the food I could eat every day. I haven't been sleeved yet, but have been on a very strict pre surgery diet for almost 1 month. So the pain of isolation, depression and blaming my husband for all my troubles is fresh. Not that I expect I won't have an ongoing need to work hard at dealing with emotions without food as a coping mechanism but as far as negative self talk, image, self loathing, victim mode, blame and depression. Nothing compares to when I am just eating and eating. Yes some of that is dulled with food- to a point- but then Bam it hits me and I can't escape it, no matter how much food I ate.

For Me. I really thought my emotions were more out of whack when I was stuffing myself with all the food I could eat every day. I haven't been sleeved yet, but have been on a very strict pre surgery diet for almost 1 month. So the pain of isolation, depression and blaming my husband for all my troubles is fresh. Not that I expect I won't have an ongoing need to work hard at dealing with emotions without food as a coping mechanism but as far as negative self talk, image, self loathing, victim mode, blame and depression. Nothing compares to when I am just eating and eating. Yes some of that is dulled with food- to a point- but then Bam it hits me and I can't escape it, no matter how much food I ate.

I also asked myself the same questions. The difference for me is that the sleeve gave me a jump start. It allowed rapid weight loss at first with minimal pain/misery of hunger, while showing me that in fact, I can lose weight. It allowed me to see what it will take for my body to actually lose. It allowed me the time to begin to establish new habits. It provided me with enough success that I gained more motivation, because losing the remaining 30-40 pounds is not so overwhelming. It's so fun to shop now, something I really didn't even consider in my decision to have surgery.
Now, at about 11 months out, I am losing slowly. I still don't know if I'll ever get to goal, but I'm SO much better off than I was a year ago. Now I have to put all the things I learned into action, because I could easily slide back into bad habits and gain. I have to watch everything I put in my mouth, I have to count every calorie, and I have to be honest with myself about it. I know that I need to eat around 900 calories a day to lose. Before surgery, I would not have been able to eat that little. So, in short, it is a tool, but in the end, it's still up to us to succeed. And if I can do it, I think most people can, and so can you:)

I usually avoid controversy, but I just can't let this one pass. I read on one thread after another an undelrying, or sometimes overt, debate about if we should call it a diet, people who "didn't do this to diet", it's not a diet, and I've even felt a little chastised for saying this is my diet. Even the people who say they are not on a diet report restricted calories and watching what they eat. Gotta say, that's the defnition of a diet.
What you eat is your diet!! The defnition of diet does not imply that there is an end point. That's just an interpretation. For me, if I am not mindful of what I eat, I won't lose weight. Being mindful for me means knowing how many calories I am consuming. It means limiting those calories if I am going to lose. It means not grazing between meals. It means following the general rules for succes for sleeve patients.
Look up the definition. Maybe everyone with a sleeve does not have to do this, but I do. I have to limit my calorie intake INTENTIONALLY or I won't lose. I could eat enough at 6 months out to maintain or gain. Sad, but true. If I want to get to goal and stay there. So, for me, it's a diet, and I'm on this diet for the rest of my life. What we call it is splitting hairs. Please don't judge.
http://www.merriam-w...dictionary/diet
http://oxforddiction...an_english/diet
OK, rant over. Have a nice day