rlm34

Just left the hospital yayyyyyy

I know you don't want to hear it but these people are right. You bf should be standing up for you. If he won't, no matter how you feel about it now, you will grow to resent him. You can't have a serious relationship with a man who lets his family abuse you. It will come between you and make you miserable. She is a Bitch, no doubt, but your bf needs to step up and be a man here.

I just realized today that I no longer hate my body. RNY 6/3, 65 pounds down. Now that's something.

Ok guys I can finally post not the post-op form!! I'm officially on the losers bench and I'm feeling pretty good right now!! Let's hope it stays this way after the pain meds have wore off!!

Music, you are a wise woman and I applaud you and your husband for picking your battles with his mother. He sounds like a great guy.
Unfortunately, the poster's boyfriend has not stood up to his overbearing mother on her behalf for the 3 years they have been together. That's a track record and not a good one. If he's the one, I hope they can work it out.

My advise will be a little different. I married the first born male son in a Hispanic catholic household. When I met him his family had decided he was never getting married and could take care of mom the rest of his life. His mom in my opinion consider him her husband.
I was doomed - but realized it had nothing really to do with me it was any woman that came into his life. She has told him she did not like me at the beginning and tried many ways to split us up. My husband was wonderful he stood up to her when he needed to, but let her rant when it did not matter.
We have been married 10 years and together for 13. Through the years I have had a lot of trouble with my MIL. However I had two choices let her run me off and miss out on the love of my life, or tough it out.
Finally about 2 years ago things changed. She got sick and I was the one who helped her out, and I think she finally realized I was not going anywhere. My love for her son was true, and that I made him happy. She still drives me nuts, but that is what families do!
Is it wrong what she said - yes, but you need to look at your boyfriend in this matter as well. If he is not standing up for you that's a problem. It was wrong of him to tell them what you have done when you asked him not to.
Finally time to put your big girl panties on and decide is this man worth the issues with his mother and sisters. If it is yes than you need to start accepting them or them, and have some long conversations with your boyfriend.

I'm assuming your boyfriend is her only son? Sounds like a serious case of a mother's attachment to her son gone wrong. She is most likely very jealous that you have her "little boy's" attention and time. There would probably be no woman deemed suitable in her eyes.
I do agree that your boyfriend needs to have your back over this. He needs to stand up for the woman he loves and let his mother know that carrying on like a vicious bully will not be tolerated.
I have kept my surgery to myself (except for my partner and my own mother) for fear of reactions like you've received. Not so much fear, but I can't be bothered with all the prejudice and cruel jibes some people feel they need to say. I have prepared myself though, if someone lets it slip.
You've given yourself a gift that will enable you to become healthy. I don't imagine any explanation of how WLS is NOT the easy way out, would change the ingrained attitudes of your boyfriend's mother and sister. I feel for you and hope your man stands strong by your side in regards to them.
Part if me just wants to say "What b**ches!"
Congrats on your loss so far. :-)
Rachel

I'm assuming your boyfriend is her only son? Sounds like a serious case of a mother's attachment to her son gone wrong. She is most likely very jealous that you have her "little boy's" attention and time. There would probably be no woman deemed suitable in her eyes.
I do agree that your boyfriend needs to have your back over this. He needs to stand up for the woman he loves and let his mother know that carrying on like a vicious bully will not be tolerated.
I have kept my surgery to myself (except for my partner and my own mother) for fear of reactions like you've received. Not so much fear, but I can't be bothered with all the prejudice and cruel jibes some people feel they need to say. I have prepared myself though, if someone lets it slip.
You've given yourself a gift that will enable you to become healthy. I don't imagine any explanation of how WLS is NOT the easy way out, would change the ingrained attitudes of your boyfriend's mother and sister. I feel for you and hope your man stands strong by your side in regards to them.
Part if me just wants to say "What b**ches!"
Congrats on your loss so far. :-)
Rachel

Well, isn't she a b*tch! I'm so sorry you have to deal with her, but it is long past time for your boyfriend to stand up and act like a man and tell his mother to stop her egregious behavior towards you. Now. Permanently.
He needs to tell her (1) he fully supports your decision to have surgery, (2) thinks you are brilliant and strong for taking responsibility for your health and well being, (3) she and her daughter are wrong about it being the easy way out, and (4) he will decide which woman is right for him, not her.
Being an adult means you stand up for yourself and especially for those you love. If he will not put this disrespect by his family to an end, you need to move on because your life will be unbearable if your marry into this family and their attitudes do not change (not just the window dressing either). You will find yourself disrespecting him and resenting the fact that he is not looking out for your best interests and happiness. The mother and personal trainer sister could both stand to be educated about the challenges and rewards of WLS, especially the sister who is in a business impacted by WLS. But the fundamental problem here is not the mother, but her son who is not giving you the respect and support you need (and the love you deserve) by standing up for you--and with you.
All best wishes for you on your journey. You've taken a brave step to secure your future health and happiness. Stay strong and don't let the tiny-minded people dissuade you from your dreams!!
Feel free to print this out and hand it to your BF.

Drop removed this morning. Surgeon is happy with fluids intake. Biggest issue at the moment is the drain on my left side. Sadly don't think it will be out until tomorrow.
Hospital staff are amazing.
How are you doing?

One week post op today! What a week...I have gone through a vast range of physical and emotional feelings.
The 3rd or 4th day after surgery saw me hit a "oh no - what have I gone and done to myself" moment. Thankfully, it has passed. (It kinda reminded me of the 3 day baby blues some moms get after having a baby).
It was a tad scary. I really began to feel quite down and questioned myself - the enormity of what I had done to my body took hold. I now feel so much better and the months of research and decision making suddenly made sense again. The way I have battled through life being obese became clear once more as the anesthetic fog wore off, and I realised again that what I had done, was in fact, given myself a most precious gift.
My first week of my Fluid post-op diet has gone well. Been getting in all my Water, (sipping all day) and tolerating the nuts plan of shakes with milk and thin Soups. Have not quite made Protein goals each day but I'm impressed I'm getting in the Water as I've never been a water drinker.
I dont miss my old habit of 5 cups of coffee each day either which is great. (Although will definitely be speaking to my nut about when I can go back to having a 'real' coffee as a treat in the future).
I have no pain as such, but Im tender in the largest wound site where they had to separate the muscle wall a bit larger for the stapling gun/slicer thingy. I haven't taken or needed any pain relief at all since being home.
One thing I am dealing with though. ..is some serious vertigo! Urgh, cant stand it. It comes on at any random time and the room feels like it's spinning - like I've just gotten off my 5th carnival ride. Have spoken to surgeon, he says it'll subside completely after 2-3 weeks. I hope so.
As for numbers, after one week I'm down 5lbs from the morning I had surgery. But I've also lost the additional 7 lbs I gained in iv fluids while in hospital, so 12 lbs lost total.
All the very best to everyone having their surgery this week. :-)
Rachel. RNY: 10/21.

I am almost 8 months out... Started this at 282 lbs. I am currently 165.6 lbs. I went to New York and co and almost peed my pants because I fit into a size 10.... I have never ever been in a size 10 and I couldn't see my but fitting in them but apparently my but is smaller than I think....I still see myself as the fat girl in a size 22 that's uncomfortable in their body all the time... It's def a change to get use to but I love the new me....

Hey everyone! Just a quick update of my exciting journey since my RNY on June 10th of this year. Thank you for all of the support this group has given me. For the newbies, check out my other Youtube videos as I have recoreded my entire journey starting pre-op.

Surgery went well! I'm in a room thinking about a nap.

Had my 2 week post op check up Friday. No problems at all. All glue of my incisions and I can tub bathe or swim if I want. Down 24 pounds since starting 2 week preop diet. Started two weeks of pureed diet. Have had refried Beans, thinned mashed potato, pureed tuna, cottage cheese and banana. This mornin breakfas was 1 scrambled egg cooked with little milk and 1Tbls of ricotta cheese. My side dishes 1 Tbls pureed green chile and 1Tbls refried beans. All eaten but it took me bout 30 mins. All sitting well. Still need Protein Shakes and powder to make Protein goal, but it is wonderful to have texture. Hope evryone is well. Take care and good luck. Respect the pouch! Respect it!

Well the last week for Oct surgeries, and I am the last one oct 31 almost done with the 2 week pre-op diet . Now just can't wait for the day to come !!! Good luck to us all and see you all on the losers bench ( sexy costume next year )

I had surgery on 10/21- Monday and wanted to give an update. So, I had the rny, and I also had my ovaries removed. I was in surgery a total of 4.5 hours. I guess they ran into a lot of scar tissue when working on my ovaries. I have 3 extra holes because of that. Day 2 was BY FAR the worst as far as pain. We were trying to remove the IV and keep my pain under control with oral meds. Bleck. I wanted to walk a bunch more than I did, but it was hard to keep getting someone in the room to unhook my leg massager things, and reattach my oxygen to the portable oxygen tank. For some reason my oxygen kept tanking. I finally started using the spirometer thing (spelling?) and was able to cough up a bunch of gunk.....that helped my sat's a ton.
When I came home I still needed a lot of help transferring. Getting up, sitting or laying down etc. Today is the first day I am doing it on my own. I havent hit my Protein goal yet, but will try again today. I am getting good Water however- so yay! Ooooh in the hospital they gave me this NASTY stool softener- and sent a huge bottle home with me. Turns out, I don't need it at all. Seems the more liquids go in, the same amount come out. The hardest part is trying to twist and get wiped and cleaned up. Sorry....probably TMI....but I try to time my 'bathroom' events to be shortly after I have taken a pain med so its more tolerable.
Hope this helps someone. I know I was sure craving these detailed stories before my surgery- so here is mine. Hugs and prayers to everyone!!

Good luck everyone! We are the last group of October!!! Losers bench is in the home stretch now. Prayers all the way around the world for everyone. We will All be united by something special. Lets enjoy our new 2nd birthday week!!

One week post op today! What a week...I have gone through a vast range of physical and emotional feelings.
The 3rd or 4th day after surgery saw me hit a "oh no - what have I gone and done to myself" moment. Thankfully, it has passed. (It kinda reminded me of the 3 day baby blues some moms get after having a baby).
It was a tad scary. I really began to feel quite down and questioned myself - the enormity of what I had done to my body took hold. I now feel so much better and the months of research and decision making suddenly made sense again. The way I have battled through life being obese became clear once more as the anesthetic fog wore off, and I realised again that what I had done, was in fact, given myself a most precious gift.
My first week of my Fluid post-op diet has gone well. Been getting in all my Water, (sipping all day) and tolerating the nuts plan of shakes with milk and thin Soups. Have not quite made Protein goals each day but I'm impressed I'm getting in the Water as I've never been a water drinker.
I dont miss my old habit of 5 cups of coffee each day either which is great. (Although will definitely be speaking to my nut about when I can go back to having a 'real' coffee as a treat in the future).
I have no pain as such, but Im tender in the largest wound site where they had to separate the muscle wall a bit larger for the stapling gun/slicer thingy. I haven't taken or needed any pain relief at all since being home.
One thing I am dealing with though. ..is some serious vertigo! Urgh, cant stand it. It comes on at any random time and the room feels like it's spinning - like I've just gotten off my 5th carnival ride. Have spoken to surgeon, he says it'll subside completely after 2-3 weeks. I hope so.
As for numbers, after one week I'm down 5lbs from the morning I had surgery. But I've also lost the additional 7 lbs I gained in iv fluids while in hospital, so 12 lbs lost total.
All the very best to everyone having their surgery this week. :-)
Rachel. RNY: 10/21.

Thank you so much for the update! I have been thinking about you and it sounds like you are getting through things well.
I am completely envious that you are no longer in pain. I still hurt from the two biggest sites....a lot!
Anyway...just wanted to say great job!!!
Chelle

I had a funny 'moment' last night that I wanted to share.
Just to preface......pre-surgery I looooooooooooooove pizza. I would do anything for pizza.< /p>
Ok...so its just me and my 15 yr old son who live here- and he starts doing the "please please mom, can I make a frozen pizza for dinner...please please please"
Pizza cooking in my house, one week after surgery...ummmmm bad idea.
Anyway...the poor kid has to eat right? So I relented and said yes.....but I told him that he had to cook it, eat it, do all of the dishes that he used, put the leftovers in a baggie in the fridge in a way that I cant see the toppings.....and if there was one crumb of anything ANYWHERE I would ground him for 2 weeks. Um....2 weeks really??? He rolled his eyes, and told me how I exaggerate....but guess what- not a crumb anywhere
Cheers to me over-reacting

Hey everyone! Just a quick update of my exciting journey since my RNY on June 10th of this year. Thank you for all of the support this group has given me. For the newbies, check out my other Youtube videos as I have recoreded my entire journey starting pre-op.

I had a delicious Sunday dinner! 2 oz steak, 5 small cocktail shrimp, 2 spoonfuls of cheesy potatoes, and a spoonful of spinach. I had a serious craving for surf and turf! This totally took care of that--- love Sunday dinner with my fiancé. It's one of our favorite moments with each other each week.