EEsMom

Oh, you'll go nuts if you go around comparing you to someone else. Everyone's structure is different. Bones weigh different, muscles add weight. No one ever beileved my weight because I was always heavier than I looked. (And believe me they were NOT being nice to me!) You have to go by what's right for you. Don't make it more difficult on yourself.

That's fantastic!!!! All the best!

Haven't had surg yet but have heard of using child sippy cups. I suppose that is to regulate how much you get in one sip?

Oh you are loking great! 25 is a fantastic loss and losing like that is better for elasticity of skin!

I do hope your county has Women's Services in the Executive offices. They can be a big help. Do look into it even if you aren't doing anything now. Just to have the info for when needed.

Sweet! You're an inspiration to us all!!!! Nice!

Well, you have lots to think about now. It's up to you how and when after you look into whatever can help you and your children to get out and grow after this. You will be fine. Don't do what I did and hang in for 31 years until he left. Get your life started as soon as you can. Much strength being sent to you!

I can sympathize with you. But I am sure you both will find much better things to bond over now. More exciting too!

You're getting some very good advice here. Lots of smart ladies. I was married 31 years. I didn't see myself making it that long but in my case, we didn't have to see/be with each other much due to the way he worked. (left in afternoon and dind't come home till middle of night, about 2 or 3 AM) As to Social Security, are you talking disability? There are lawyers that will take you through it and will only be one month of your payment. Seems worth it in the long run. Each state, I would think has that. I agree a councellor for you, women's services in your county should have free services. I know I utilized mine. They have free financial services too. Please look int it, may be a big help. All the best to you and don't let this get you into a hole that you can't get out of. Take the help you can for yourself. Hugs

I can, and very sure most if not so many out there can relate to what you are saying. Almost all of us have our obsessions or triggers. Most wouldn't be dealing with this if it wasn't for depression. Why else let this happen in such a large way? I was married 31 years. If I was happy in my marriage and in my life, I wouldn't be just under 300 lbs. It's an addiction just like gambling, smoking, drugs, etc. Just not viewed in the same way by the masses. I don't have to tell you that. We live it. We're all here because diets and changing our eating habits/lifestyle won't work for us. We're too far into it to get out ourselves without choices, for the major amout we need to lose, being taken out of our hands. Just so we can take control in a real way. You see what's what and you know what has to be done. You'll be fine. I know it. Hugs

Lol Have to say that one really helps get you prepared. As to the kitchen? Step by step instructions on what to have to make easy on you from pre-op through real foods. It's my "WL bible". LOL

Sounds like you're doing great! Yesm have to make sure you're getting your water. I'm pre and waiting so can't help but love to hear your journey!

You and me both with the readings! Did you also get theWLS Cookbook for Dummies? Really loved that one! Will check out Skinny Jeans too. Thanks. All the best! OK just bought it.

Not sure if anyone else posted about this. In reading another post, I saw Weight Loss Surgery For Dummies. I'm sure I'm going for RNY bypass one but wanted to know more about others. So went to order it and saw Weight Loss Surgery Cookbook For Dummies. I am sooo happy I found it. It's already doggeared and highlighted and has colored tags all over it and haven't gotten to real food recipes yet. Really, this has the best info! It starts with your liquid pre surg diet. What to bring to hospital and how to set up your kitchen! Then just hits every other point from there. I can't recommend this enough. Everyone should look at this. Even think Drs should recommend it for reading before surg. I realize all Drs have their own guidelines and this may have stuff you don't have to do/use but still...what a help. Wasn't sure where I should post...here, post surg or cookbook? Reaches all of these really.

Thanks. Am going to try that one. Thanks to all the responses. I have some great ideas now!

Oh great! Thank you so much!!!! I will. Bought a tub of Unjury unflavored protein and was looking at it and saying, "What now"!

Thank you so much! It does help to hear from someone who has been there, Went to Dietician yesterday. Was hoping for more ideas of what I can use as substitutes for artificial sweetner but no...maybe I can get used to one of the natural ones I don't have such a strong reaction to?

When I ordered that book, I also ordered the weight loss surgery vcookbook for dummies. That's the best guidebook! Has everything you should know from pre to when you're on real foods. Even tells you how to set up your kitchen and what you need in it. That's gonna be my go to book. Bringing with me today for nutritionist appt and when I see Dr. Should suggest everyone gets it to his patients.