kariz845

Thank you Green. After he saw how upset I was. He came and sat down and asked me more questions and listened instead of judging. He read the material from the LB website and is being very supportive. I am pretty sure he still has his reservations as he referred to it in the beginning as "taking the easy way out". He says that he didn't marry me because of my size and doesn't care how big I get. He just wants me to be healthy. A lot of men (husbands) say that, but I think they just do it to appease their wives. I explained to him that it's not about him - it is about me. I have made the decision to go forward and I am very excited. He is being supportive, whether he agrees with it or not - that's what's important to me. Portion control is a huge problem for me. I can eat and still feel full, but still eat until my stomach hurts. It's an unsettling feeling that I eat the way I do and I get upset with myself afterwards. Have you told anyone when you were going to do it?

I was with Jenny Craig this year for about 6 to 7 months, but I honestly got tired of going further into debt by paying them money for food every week that I stopped going. I lost about 18 lbs. with them and have gained about 5 lbs. back. My problem with weight is portion control and I can be an emotional eater. I have tried everything for the past 6 years, programs like Weight Watchers, Atkins, South Beach Diet, and Nutri-System, just to name a few. I was dedicated to all of the programs between one and two years, losing weight, but not being able to keep it off. I felt like I had tried all that I could and nothing was working for me and I needed a little extra help - a better tool. My husband and I have been together for two years, and married for one - our anniversary is today. He asked me, out of the blue (he says he was thinking about it for a while), how am I managing my weight? I hadn't discussed with him my plan for the Lap-Band because I know how he feels about surgery. I told him that I was thinking about having the Lap-Band done, that I had did my research, spoke to doctors, and feel comfortable with the surgery. He says he doesn't feel that I need and that I should try something else - have more willpower and dedication. He said that he doesn't think that I have tried hard enough. WHAT?! I instantly grew angry. You see I was going to talk to him about the surgery, but knew that this was going to be the reaction. I, for one, would have thought that my husband would be the most supportive even if he didn't agree with it. I have been dealing with my weight since I was 16 and I am 32 now. You see, someone looking at me from the outside would never think that I am the weight that I am on the inside, but I feel it. It is an emotional struggle and a physical one. I have gone to the gym. I have given it my all and who is anyone to say that I haven't tried if they haven't seen it for themselves. Right now, we are both upset at eachother because he wants me to listen to what he has to say and I would like him to not judge because it's surgery and to read the material about the pros outweighing the cons. I really do not know what else to do. I still want to have the procedure done.:help: