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8 days post op I licked the seasoning off some wheat thins...I think it was the sun dried Tomato basil flavor. f**k it was good. My sweet dog Wrigley ate the licked crackers afterward. She was all too happy to dispose of the evidence for me.

Also.....I parked in a handicapped space at the dollar store while on my 2 week pre-op diet. I was running in real quick to get a Kit Kat which I may or may not have eaten. Honestly it disappeared so fast I'm not sure where it went.

LMAO @ the Kit Kat

Sounds like you need a doctor who's fully educated and have a understanding of both good and bad of this procedure. Plus someone who has more of a tactful manner discussing the risks. The rate he's going I would be scared to death too! Yes it has risks but we (pre op) are more at risk with the weight we are at.

Oh we don't play with HIPAA!!! I used to work for an insurance company (Amerigroup) HIPAA was branded in my brain. lol. Congrats and good luck to you!

Its sad when you tell your own mother and the first thing comes out her mouth is about someone else who had the bypass having complications. First off I said sleeve but all she heard was weight loss surgery and instantly spoke negativity. So that is a done deal I will never bring it up or speak to her about it. My husband and children know and my true friends which all have been supportive. Outside of that i'm not saying a word. That goes for work too! I'm just going to watch them try to catch up thinking diet and excerise was all it took. lol I'm so bad and love it!

Good question!!! I can do that! lol

Thanks to everyone that replied. I'm far from ashamed and diffenentily not embarrassed. Nosey people just erks me so i keep my personal business at a minium. If anyone asked and needed me by pulling me to the side of course i would be there for them. But if you are asking and have no intentions of being useful with the information i provide then yes thats a person i would not share my decision with.

Its your choice I am a teacher and didn't tell anyone. Sure some thought I had cancer. I told them I was sick when I had a bmi of 40 with high bp. I just say that I was tired of being unhealthy and made lifestyle changes. If anyone wants to know more I may tell them. But its a personal choice you will have to make. But it is possible to pass it off. I just wish I didn't even tell people I had Any type of surgery.

And thats where i'm at. I dont want to explain nor share my feelings AT WORK. My friends and family of course they will be my outlet.

This is a much debated topic of conversation here. You will get opinions from every side.

I can only give you mine. For me, I am a private person and have never discussed my health, weight or many other personal issues. It's just not up for discussion. My husband (who is my rock) and our youngest son know and that is all. Period. It's no one's business.

When people ask me how much weight I have lost, I reply with "a good amount" or "a bunch." If they ask me how I have done it, I simply say " a lot of hard work." All are true. If they persist, I will give one more polite reply. After that, my good graces are gone. It doesn't happen often but when it does, I will say something to the tune of "Wow, you sure are asking a lot of personal questions." They get embarrassed and will stammer something like "well, I was just curious." To which I reply, "yes, I can see that." I will usually walk away at that point.

I guess I'm just at the age where I don't feel like I owe the world an answer to any and all questions asked. Just because someone asked, does not in any way, shape or form require an answer of me. I just was raised in a way that personal things were just that, personal.

Do what feels right for you, and if you want to keep your private life private, do it and don't feel bad. You don't owe anyone an explanation. This is your journey and it's not an easy one. It's by no means the easy way out. Do it whatever way you think is best for you.

Good luck to you, you will love your sleeve and it will change your life! I was self pay and for me it was the best money I have ever spent on my health and quality of life!

I wish the same for you!

Thank you very much for your kind words. I have some demons first i'm trying to leave in the past so i can move forward. January looks like my target month to be sleeved. I'm really looking forward to having a healthy quality of life!

I work in an office environment with 20 people. I keep things professional friendly and short. I have no intentions of advertising my choice in WLS. I don't want to lie and just say diet and exercise but I don't want then in my business either. These days you drop weight fast people think you either sick or you are a crack/coke diet. Has anyone had any challenges discussing or not discussing with co-workers when your weight started coming off fast and it's noticeable?

Before was 4 months ago. The after was a few days ago

SImply Amazing!!! Congrats to you!

Just an update on me (the one who started this topic). I had my surgery just over 3 weeks ago. The first week - I totally regretted what I did - I didnt have any problems really' date=' but I kept thinking how can I live like this?? Now, Im 22 lbs down and starting to eat pureed foods and I am so happy! I still have a long way to go, but I really think this what the right thing for me! Thank you to all who encouraged me after I first posted this! I hope WE can continue to encourage those coming after us![/quote']

I literally teared up reading your update. Im thankful you started this topic because I've been feeling the same way. February 2014 will be my target month to get sleeved. All my fears and doubts have vanished reading all the support people have given. i wish you ALL well see you in the losers bench.

I don't get a feeling but I know how much I can handle. I never eat over 2.5oz of Protein and 1/4C of veggies in one sitting. I have only twice felt too full and it was very early on (week 2?) if I found I was getting hungry early (I drink at least 16oz of Water between meals and wait a minimum of 2 hours and up to 3 between meals) anyway my first thought would be what did I eat? Was it a slider? Am I thirsty? If I was really good I would add .5oz of Protein to my next meal. I started with 2 oz. I rarely make it thru all my veggies. If I find myself mindlessly eating I stop.

I should say I don't get the runny nose hiccups etc... I do feel full eventually

Congrats on your 1 month coming up!!

Yum, Bill Millers! what area of Texas are you from? I'm near Corpus Christi...

Anywho, about a week after surgery I felt like you, just had the need to chew something. You have to remember to take it slow though and give your tummy time to heal. Start drinking your Protein shakes and getting your liquids in and you'll be eating "real food" before you know it! My craving was more for chewing than anything so I also started chewing sugar free gum again. It helped a lot. Good luck to you!!

I'm glad you mentioned gum because i was wondering if that would be an issue. Sugarfree of course, but I was wondering if after surgery the gum would increase gas in the stomach or not and if it is ok to chew gum while on your liquid diet.

God Bless you JC444!

The best post i've seen on here that eased my heart about going forward. I'm with you i'd rather have my stomach worked on than my heart too!!

I have/am experiencing the feelings of departure. I feel so disconnected from my partner at times. Like you, we connected over food. We loved going out and trying new places to eat. And through no fault of hers, that has stopped for me. food isn't what is used to be, it's not my life focus. And it still is her for. I had hopes that when she found out she was diabetic a few months ago, she too would change and we'd be ok. But it hasn't. She wakes up asking where we should eat that day...my mind isn't on food. And as we're getting ready for the day, she's already thinking of dinner or a meal for the next day. I would say this is all just me and what I chose to do with my life. But a comment she made a few weeks ago made it clear to me, she's feeling it too. She said "when we met we both loved food, we bonded over food. Now that you don't eat, what do we have in common". Yes that was a kick in the groin. I'm thinking "umm we shared other loves but food".

I am still struggling with how i feel about her. I won't lie and say watching her eat doesn't sometimes disgust me, but again I made the choice to change my life. I cannot condemn her for what she's choosing. Will it ultimately split us up, deep down I think so. We're struggling to find other ways to connect. I never thought food would be the demise of a relationship...but apparently it is.

So my darling, that is my personal answer to your question.

Thank you for your honesty telling your story. I never thought about food vs relationship before but I can see how it can affect it. Thats a tough spot to be in. I wish you well in whatever decsion you make. Just know you can't live for someone else. I'm getting off my soap box.

I understand COMPLETELY what you are saying 2big! Honesty is part of this journey. If we can't be honest with ourselves and how we feel then what's the point of living. This is reality for some of us. Which is why i started this topic. I wanted to know did anyone else have those same thoughts. Yes marriage is a sacred bond through think and thin. However no one will understand unless you are in that person shoes. If you have a happy marriage then kudos to you. I thnk mine was formed out of love and convenivence for both of us.I have 6 months to go before i get sleeved. i'm taking this time to learn me again and what i really want in life. No regrets and no excess baggage on this ride.

Is that what that smiley face is doing? I thought it was just looking up and down. And actually my comment was not directed at you. No worries. we all have our options which is fine. I just wanted to be clear i was not asking for advice merely a question.

Appreciate the feedback. But if i do recall i was asking a question and not for advice. Just saying..

2 big good point which is why we have lasted this long. 12 years is a long time saying the same thing. The good does out weight the bad. This was my rant for today. Thanks

Thank you Jashantee and Shoopaie for replying. Let me clarify myself a bit. My husband does not have a weight problem. I'm sooo disgusted with him my post was not in pure clarity. We both work and I'm also a full time student. We have a set of 11 year old girl twins. I'm affectionate love attention and i give the same. When he does get affetionate and show me attention i feel like its because i've been complaining for so long its like a shut me up gesture. Any concerts or trips i have to plan them. If i dont the days and weeks will go by and before you know it 12 years have been put in. I'm outgoing he is not. I'm social he is not. Why I married him is because i truly love him and hes the smartest man (besides my daddy) I know. In my head i know how i want to feel by a man. When i watch tv or movies i'm always left with the thought damn i wish my man would do that for me. Shoopai were right when you said the issues go deeper. But what i'm struggling to rationalize with myself will i act like a fool once i get that attention else where? I don't know. I just wanted to throw this thought out there today. Hopefully with time, prayer, and counceling things will get better with us.

I've been married since July 1 2013 but we have been together for 12 years. The most we have in common is we both like to eat and eat good. I have already battled issues with my husband of wanting to go out and do things as a family. He's reluctant and lazy. Its sad to say even thou i'm starting my 6 month journey until the surgery but i can not see myself staying once its done. I'm dong this surgery to live life and enjoy it. Is it wrong for me to plan not only dropping my personal weight but his as well? I know to death do us part but i'm tired of complaining. I want to feel good and be with someone who makes me feel good too. I feel like our issues are in stone and I can not recover. Has anyone experienced feelings of departure with their spouse post op?