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LMAO @ the Kit Kat

Sounds like you need a doctor who's fully educated and have a understanding of both good and bad of this procedure. Plus someone who has more of a tactful manner discussing the risks. The rate he's going I would be scared to death too! Yes it has risks but we (pre op) are more at risk with the weight we are at.

Oh we don't play with HIPAA!!! I used to work for an insurance company (Amerigroup) HIPAA was branded in my brain. lol. Congrats and good luck to you!

Its sad when you tell your own mother and the first thing comes out her mouth is about someone else who had the bypass having complications. First off I said sleeve but all she heard was weight loss surgery and instantly spoke negativity. So that is a done deal I will never bring it up or speak to her about it. My husband and children know and my true friends which all have been supportive. Outside of that i'm not saying a word. That goes for work too! I'm just going to watch them try to catch up thinking diet and excerise was all it took. lol I'm so bad and love it!

Good question!!! I can do that! lol

Thanks to everyone that replied. I'm far from ashamed and diffenentily not embarrassed. Nosey people just erks me so i keep my personal business at a minium. If anyone asked and needed me by pulling me to the side of course i would be there for them. But if you are asking and have no intentions of being useful with the information i provide then yes thats a person i would not share my decision with.

And thats where i'm at. I dont want to explain nor share my feelings AT WORK. My friends and family of course they will be my outlet.

Thank you very much for your kind words. I have some demons first i'm trying to leave in the past so i can move forward. January looks like my target month to be sleeved. I'm really looking forward to having a healthy quality of life!

I work in an office environment with 20 people. I keep things professional friendly and short. I have no intentions of advertising my choice in WLS. I don't want to lie and just say diet and exercise but I don't want then in my business either. These days you drop weight fast people think you either sick or you are a crack/coke diet. Has anyone had any challenges discussing or not discussing with co-workers when your weight started coming off fast and it's noticeable?

SImply Amazing!!! Congrats to you!

Congrats on your 1 month coming up!!

I'm glad you mentioned gum because i was wondering if that would be an issue. Sugarfree of course, but I was wondering if after surgery the gum would increase gas in the stomach or not and if it is ok to chew gum while on your liquid diet.

God Bless you JC444!

The best post i've seen on here that eased my heart about going forward. I'm with you i'd rather have my stomach worked on than my heart too!!

Thank you for your honesty telling your story. I never thought about food vs relationship before but I can see how it can affect it. Thats a tough spot to be in. I wish you well in whatever decsion you make. Just know you can't live for someone else. I'm getting off my soap box.

I understand COMPLETELY what you are saying 2big! Honesty is part of this journey. If we can't be honest with ourselves and how we feel then what's the point of living. This is reality for some of us. Which is why i started this topic. I wanted to know did anyone else have those same thoughts. Yes marriage is a sacred bond through think and thin. However no one will understand unless you are in that person shoes. If you have a happy marriage then kudos to you. I thnk mine was formed out of love and convenivence for both of us.I have 6 months to go before i get sleeved. i'm taking this time to learn me again and what i really want in life. No regrets and no excess baggage on this ride.

Is that what that smiley face is doing? I thought it was just looking up and down. And actually my comment was not directed at you. No worries. we all have our options which is fine. I just wanted to be clear i was not asking for advice merely a question.

Appreciate the feedback. But if i do recall i was asking a question and not for advice. Just saying..

I'm so thankful for this site. It proves i am not alone in my thinking. Morning and missing FOOD was my set back too. From what i've been reading it does happen. But i guess its like anything else you have to work at it and retrain your way of thinking. I'd rather eat a handfull of food a day then take 6 pills a day. I only shared my choice for this surgery with two people in my office. I already told them if anyone finds out i'm faulting both of them. Which they know i'm crazy so i'm not worried with them telling. I have no desire to share or explain this with only else. They will just have to witness the transformation. And being the Diva I am they betta watch out.....(saying that made me feel better too lol) Good topic.

2 big good point which is why we have lasted this long. 12 years is a long time saying the same thing. The good does out weight the bad. This was my rant for today. Thanks

Thank you Jashantee and Shoopaie for replying. Let me clarify myself a bit. My husband does not have a weight problem. I'm sooo disgusted with him my post was not in pure clarity. We both work and I'm also a full time student. We have a set of 11 year old girl twins. I'm affectionate love attention and i give the same. When he does get affetionate and show me attention i feel like its because i've been complaining for so long its like a shut me up gesture. Any concerts or trips i have to plan them. If i dont the days and weeks will go by and before you know it 12 years have been put in. I'm outgoing he is not. I'm social he is not. Why I married him is because i truly love him and hes the smartest man (besides my daddy) I know. In my head i know how i want to feel by a man. When i watch tv or movies i'm always left with the thought damn i wish my man would do that for me. Shoopai were right when you said the issues go deeper. But what i'm struggling to rationalize with myself will i act like a fool once i get that attention else where? I don't know. I just wanted to throw this thought out there today. Hopefully with time, prayer, and counceling things will get better with us.

I've been married since July 1 2013 but we have been together for 12 years. The most we have in common is we both like to eat and eat good. I have already battled issues with my husband of wanting to go out and do things as a family. He's reluctant and lazy. Its sad to say even thou i'm starting my 6 month journey until the surgery but i can not see myself staying once its done. I'm dong this surgery to live life and enjoy it. Is it wrong for me to plan not only dropping my personal weight but his as well? I know to death do us part but i'm tired of complaining. I want to feel good and be with someone who makes me feel good too. I feel like our issues are in stone and I can not recover. Has anyone experienced feelings of departure with their spouse post op?