Ready2tryagain

I can't believe it's here. I know this is what I need to do but I've never had surgery and I'm scared. I'm starting a new life.

I can't believe it's here. I know this is what I need to do but I've never had surgery and I'm scared. I'm starting a new life.

If you don't feel ready, I would trust your gut on that.
If you fear failure again - well - I suspect 100% of us had those same feelings. If you feel fearful of the surgery itself - well, lots of us had that too.
I do think a person has to be in a state of mind where getting control over their weight is a very high priority. This surgery demands alot from us... I am not talking about the first few weeks - I mean the forever.
I was banded in 2001 - well besides the fact that it was not a good "tool" for me, I also really did not understand what it would take.
By the time I was sleeved, I got it and I was just so OVER food as anything other than food.< /p>
This whole regaining your health thing has to be somewhere in your top priorities and you have to really keep your eye on the prize to get you through tough times.

I can tell you that the pre-op diet was the hardest part for me. I was mentally suffering every moment of it. Post-surgery, I never felt the same way about food again. The obsession and cravings for food completely went away. If I had to do the pre-op diet again, it would be a breeze - just because I don't "need" to eat certain flavors anymore.
Hang in there, I promise that a few weeks after surgery you'll look back and wonder why you thought the pre-op diet was such a challenge.

First of all you have to start seeing food for what it is. NOT a friend! It is a fuel we use for of bodies to build on and keep moving and living..you know the drill..
Some friend who allows you to get sick, over weight, have to take strong organ affecting medications to counteract its effects on your body. Then you go to the go to comfort, and it is only a temporary fix. After you feel worse then before. This action is followed by guilt, judgement, fear, betrayal and a whole host of other emotions that are negative.....
When you realize that it is an addiction like any other. You start to see food differently. Your mindset changes and you start to fix what is going on in your head. What drove you here. Why you have to take such a drastic step to save yourself from this so called friend.
It is not a red light moment. It is work. Real work to change a habit you started a long, long time ago...
But it will be worth it when you put food in its proper place and it no longer has a hold over you. You control it....You learn to eat to live, not live to eat!
Hope this helps hun.

Wow...thanks for responding.
I appreciate you responding. I need to lose ~225 lbs. It's literally horrifying to face the reality of what I've done to my body and what it's going to take to fix this. Thank God for this forum!

You guys are the best! Thanks for your support. Talking about binging has helped me get some perspective. I am more in control.