lessismore67

I'm interested though how much everyone lost on average every week?
I'm not trying to compare myself to anyone just interested if there is a big variance in weekly averages.
Hi Ditdee.Mine varied and I am currently in the middle of a three week stall after gaining then losing 1kg over Xmas
My monthly losses approx after July 2013 when I was sleeved are:
Aug 7kg
Sep 5kg
Oct 5kg
Nov 3kg
Dec 3.5kg
Aiming to break the stall even if only by 1kg.I have lost 60% excess weight which is surgical goal but hope to lose another 20% which doesn't look likely atm.

March 19th yayyyyyyyyy :0)

Oh man, there has to be a link. But I do believe in the power of modern medicine. If you need them they are a god send. You might be lucky and only need them for awhile until you get your old self back. I'm on them for life, which I'm fine with. Antidepressants really do help. Sadly so does creamed filled donuts. Lol.

I'm interested though how much everyone lost on average every week?
I'm not trying to compare myself to anyone just interested if there is a big variance in weekly averages.
Hi Ditdee.Mine varied and I am currently in the middle of a three week stall after gaining then losing 1kg over Xmas
My monthly losses approx after July 2013 when I was sleeved are:
Aug 7kg
Sep 5kg
Oct 5kg
Nov 3kg
Dec 3.5kg
Aiming to break the stall even if only by 1kg.I have lost 60% excess weight which is surgical goal but hope to lose another 20% which doesn't look likely atm.

I gained a kg this week! I'm taking it in stride and just continuing to work my plan. I think the next 10-15 kg are going to be much tougher to lose.
I'm going to try Zumba on Thursday! I'm nervous I will look like an idiot but I'm excited too. A friend is going with me. I'm not sure if I would rather do it on my own or not but it is what it is.

I am also stuck at my final 7-10kgs Lissa!! So frustrating those scales won't budge lately :-/
I'm really happy with everything however and if I didn't lose another kg is still be happy, ecstatic really, about the positive changes in my life and weight! It would be such an achievement to reach where I want to be...the surgeon set my goal at like 90kg - quite high too...think it was 80% of excess body weight or something...

I am not sure what I lost per week but I started at 103kg, my surgeon set a goal of 65kg (which seemed impossible at the time) and I think I was at around 60 kg at about 10 months. I found it quite easy to lose and didn't have any stalls but I know I am the exception. Everyone is different. I have been maintaining around 60 but have noticed that my fluctuations between 58-60 have turned into fluctuations of 59-61 - so I have had a slight weight gain. Just over the last few weeks I can eat significantly more in a sitting so have had to reign in my eating between meals. I am 18 months out now so am hoping there won't be too much increase in eating and hunger which I do feel now - nothing like hunger pre sleeve I might add, but it was so nice to not have hunger at all for a long time.

I think I could have lost faster. I have not been very extreme with myself. I am trying to make this a lifestyle not a crash diet. So some people have lost heaps faster but I am hoping I will give myself enough time to get really comfortable with my new lifestyle and that I will be able to sustain this for a lifetime. People don't realize in the beginning that while losing is easier with the surgery, maintaining is mostly YOU. Especially it is up to you to fill up on Protein because most of us can eat and drink a lot of carbs.

hi ditdee. I am nearly six months out and have lost 30kg. It is far too early for you to feel unhappy about your stall but I understand your frustration. Hang in there. There will be more stalls in the future. Some people, like me have lots, some don't. Stick to "the rules" and it will work for you over time. You are already with us all on the losers bench and your new health and vitality (and wardrobe) is closer than you think

Ditdee I am 12 weeks out and have lost 20kgs since surgery, some weeks I haven't lost anything though so don't be disheartened, as Misty said stick with your plan and it will work for you,and try not to compare yourself with others, we are all on the same journey but each of us has to travel our own road.

Thanks Lessismore
The plastic journey so to speak is very different. Mine was made much harder due to complications with the surgery (which almost cost me my life but thankfully did not). It is definitely not something to under take lightly.
But in the end result (now 4 months afterwards) I am fairly happy with the result, I would have liked to have seen some more skin removed as I still have some over hang and also have a recurring issue with numbness and pain in my arm from the arm reduction.
There are days when I am like, really there isnt much difference but I was looking at photos that I took just prior and the difference is significant, need a reality check sometimes eh. But shopping is definitely much more fun, my last trip to the US I went on a dress shoppng spree (like 13 dresses and most of them tight fitting) and I feel good in them.
Ditdee, as everyone has said the 3 week mark is notorious for being a stall period where you may not loose weight and may gain weight, it is just your body reajusting. Just keep working it and eatting smart and the weight loss will return

Thanks, everyone!

Mr. Lipstick was not nearly as excited as me this morning. Perhaps it was my running leap back into bed followed by my punch punch punch punch while bellowing, "WAKE UP!! 100!! WAKE UP!!! 100!!!!".

He's not a morning person. And he doesn't like to be punched.

Fiddle, are you not reading my every word? I posted this last month! This was about 8 pounds ago.

I totally understand and agree! We are at a similar point post-op and I keep having the same thoughts. I feel like I can actually succeed at whatever resolutions I make this time. I no longer feel like a failure with regard to keeping my promises to myself.
Happy new year!

This will be the first year in the longest freaking time that I do not make weight loss my biggest and most pressing resolution. Hell's bells. I chose to no longer make New Year's Resolutions just because I knew the weight loss one would be my biggest and best failure.
NO.MORE.
Now I want to get healthier and fit. I know the weight will come off. The health and fitness will come if I work towards it and I am.


Happy New Year to you and yours! Make this year the best you've had. I know you can and will.

Thank you for all your sensible advice and honesty with sharing your journey misty. I am glad you will be still here. Happy new year.

WOW. I am speechless. Your husband is an awesome guy. I'm really glad you asked him to write this because we (at least me) sometimes forget that we're not the only ones going through this. Our spouses/partners feel it as much, if not more because for them, they are physically still the same, but have to change as if they themselves had the surgery.
Your husband is also a great writer. I think you should let him guest write more often.
To our moderators: Maybe it would be good to have a thread on here for spouses/parents/our support networks to find support and come to for advice. I'm sure my hubby would love to talk with others. Just a thought. :-)

Hi guys. I asked my husband to write something for my blog. Like a "WLS from a spouse's point of view" sort of thing. I will preface this by saying, my husband is my rock and I love him to pieces (sure, some days I want to push him off a cliff, but...).
This is what he sent me - I wanted to share with this audience because we all have loved ones that drive us crazy at times. I think sometimes we open up in a different way when we put pen to paper as opposed to speaking to one another. What would your spouse or significant other write if you asked them to? I was surprised by what I read here...
The wife recently asked me to write a little something for her blog. Not much on writing more than witty quips in response to my friends Facebook posts, my first response was a “oh sure” and then to politely ignore the request. It’s a tactic that works I’d say 75% of the time. I was hoping that she would be so excited (or distraught) about weight loss/lack of weight loss/not pooping/pooping/someone else pooping or not pooping, she’d forget that she asked. So a week passed and then I get a, “So I’d really like you to write a post for my blog. You know, from the spouses point of view.” I thought I was home free with her focus on the stall. Guess not.

My wife's weight has never really been an issue for me. We met over the phone and had a 3000-mile long distance relationship before the Internet and unlimited phone service. We worked in the same industry and developed a relationship over months of hours-long, bank-account-crushing phone calls. We have always said that if we had come across each other in a bar or other typical meeting place, we wouldn’t have been each other’s type, physically. Since we fell in love before we ever met, we got what we got. Which by the way, I was pretty happy with upon our first meeting. So when she informed me of her thoughts on surgery I tried hard to keep the slack jawed WTF look off my face as much as I could. I initially thought, “Your going to cut out most of your stomach just to lose a few pounds. What?” What I didn’t realize is that it wasn’t a few pounds. Much like your surprise when someone comments on how much your child has grown because they only see him once a year, I hadn’t noticed she had gained a hundred pounds since we first met. She had always just been my wife, my best friend, the person I would spend a long wonderful life with. My attachment to her has always been so much more than physical, and when I look at her I still see that 25-year-old girl I fell in love with. So when she told me how much she weighed I thought, “Holy shit, when did that happen.”

My blessing of the surgery wasn’t without hesitation. I know what obesity does to a body over time and have witnessed it first hand in my father and mother-in-law. The breaking down of joints, the insulin injections, heart issues and on and on…I know, preaching to the choir. But what if something happens during surgery and I lose the love of my life? What if our boy loses his mother? The mere thoughts made my heart hurt. How would I ever cope if something tragic actually happened? But you can’t live life on the basis that something bad MIGHT happen. Its what kept my mother from fully experiencing life and I always hated that. I wanted to have the healthiest wife possible as we get older. I wanted her to be comfortable in her skin. I wanted her to wear clothes she likes, not just the ones that hide the most. I wanted her to not feel awkward around others. I’ve never really struggled with weight. Sure I could lose more than a few pounds, but it falls off with little effort. I don’t fully understand the angst that the weight causes my wife but I know she isn’t as happy as she could be because of it. Life isn’t a dress rehearsal. You gotta make the most of it. So I agreed, reluctantly.

After coming to grips with the minimal risk involved and nervously waiting for good news from the operating room, it’s been a pretty easy journey for me. I’ve had to do very little except listen. Listen about the surgery, shakes, stalls, pooping, not pooping and then pooping again. My wife is hard-core about obtaining information off the internet. So much so, she once gave her GP a tutorial on thyroid testing and the latest acceptable ranges for each test, which came as news to her doctor. Still not sure why we had to pay for that office visit. So nothing came as a surprise. It made my life easier knowing that if anything came up post op that might freak me out, she had the stats on how many patients experienced the same thing, why it happened, how long it will likely last, and what the next day, week, month has in store. Easy for me, but I know it hasn’t been easy for her and that each day brings a new challenge. I am so grateful for what she is willing to put herself through for a healthier future with our son and me. Recently she’s been in the dreaded stall, but it’s subsided, and she has a little pep in her step. I love the gleam in her eye when the scale tells her what she wants to hear. I love how she gleefully shows off how crappy her clothes fit. Mostly I love that each day she seems to feel more comfortable in her skin and happier with herself. What more can you really ask for?

That's a bit harsh. Let's try to be supportive when people ask for it.

Welcome back. I am glad you have reached out. That is a great first step.
First, it sounds like you know you have a problem with eating. I would encourage you to talk to a therapist about this. You can find therapists who specialize in all kinds of eating problems. Google for NEDA, National Eating Disorders Association. There is a directory of service providers there. If you are outside the US, let us know where you are so we can help you find a similar organization in your area.
Second, about the mechanism of eating with the sleeve. The sleeve doesn't expire or stop working. You have asked for the "rules" and I will outline them for you. See the link in my signature to a list of all of the major post-sleeve diets I could find from various surgeons and hospitals. They go into details. But here are the rules:
1. Protein first, every time you eat. You want more than 60 grams a day.
2. Denser Protein is better. Chew your protein as much as possible. You will feel your restriction and you will feel full longer.
3. After protein, vegetables are most important, then fruits, then other things only if you are on track with protein and gave room.
4. No drinking with your meal or for at least 30 minutes afterward.
You might look for the Boot Camp diet which OregonDaisy posted. It is basically those rules. Good luck!

toocheeky
we can't change the past - its over and done with
today is a new year - you want to get back on track, good for you
the Protein et al are very, very important rules
eat small meals, little pieces, chew thoroughly
put utensil down a couple of minutes before you eat again
as said by OP, never drink with meals
people have been shot for less
stop drinking about 15-30 minutes before you eat
after you finish eating - do not drink for 45-60 minutes
and drink, drink, drink all day - as much as possible - but at least 64 oz
you are taking responsibility for "screwwwing up" - so now you can get your act back together
its not easy, but no one ever said this voyage was easy
and it is sooooo worth it
how much weight did you initially lose - reached goal??? how much did you regain???
stick to the rules again, with the knowledge that once you lose, you need to make a life commitment to eating correctly
this is your new way of life
i see the determination in your face and i know you can get your act together again!!!!
remember, work with the sleeve, and the sleeve will work with you
"support group for compulsive over eaters, binge eaters, food addicts????"
who the heck are all of us on the board???
chopped liver!!!
we've got your back
we ALL know you can do this
keep reading the boards, come back with your questions
and you'll get plenty of that much needed support from all of us
thats what we're here for
2014 will be YOUR year!!!!
congrats on your return to improved health with the sleeve
good luck
kathy

Your welcome Ditdee, I know what you mean about thinking it isn't working, if I go for a few days or a week and do see numbers change on the scale I start to worry that maybe I am eating to much or that it just isn't going to work for me. Luckily I have a daughter who keeps reminding me that there are victories other than the scale like loosing cm's and having clothes getting looser. This really is an emotional journey as well as a physical one isn't it. I think we are so used to diets not working in the past that it is very easy to doubt that this could possibly work.

Happy new year!

Happy New Year to all!
Isn't it great to be off that "I must lose weight this year" roller coaster!

You are so right. It is easy to graze on things like chips and nibbles, even with a glass of wine and the restriction doesn't really kick in. Something all of us need to just be aware of, but not het stressed about.