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LipstickLady

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  2. Posted

    It may seem very difficult not to be able to partake in all of the food festivities, but you can still enjoy the company of loved ones and friends.

    This is the first holiday season after the passing of two immediate family members. There are worse things than not being able to enjoy the holiday goodies. I hope you had a Merry Christmas and were thankful for the things you have; I was, or at tried to.

    Same. Hugs to you.

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    I need to be mindful about being honest in my responses --- as passive/aggressive behavior is one of the things that got me in this situation. So in the future when asked a question like "do you mind if we get pizza," I need to learn to say -- "actually, I do -- I am just not ready for this yet. But you guys need to go ahead -- and I will catch up with you later. My choice, my decision -- and I hope you can understand." I need to know it is OK to say that I DO mind things, and to take actions into my own hands. Thanks for helping me work through that, even though that wasn't your goal!

    Sorry to say, but I still think this is a a bit on the P/A side although I do think honesty is best. This kind of feels like a guilt trip and again, this was your decision, so it's not fair to your friends to make them feel bad about their decisions. If you can't go along with it, simply opt out of social situations until you can. If you choose not to opt out (I didn't), bring something diet friendly for yourself and eat when they eat.

    EMPOWER yourself to make great decisions. "Catching them later" is only going to make you resent yourself and your situation. Asking for their understanding? Meh. I didn't even understand what I was putting myself through until I was actually going through it. :)

  6. Posted

    You have the RIGHT to be anything you want, but you don't have the right to dictate the actions of others.

    They didn't have surgery, you did. They aren't post op, you are. food surrounds us no matter what stage of the game you are in and that's not ever going to go away. It's up to you to adapt to your new world, it's not up to the world to adapt to you.

  14. Posted

    You've made it this far, you can do it. How many more days until you are allowed mushies? Have you tried egg drop or miso Soup for a change? How about strained bean soup?

    As @@Sai said above, you are still healing. Your good health is worth much more than a few bites of ANYTHING before your body is ready.

    Chew some gum, brush your teeth, rinse with Listerine (the nastiest liquid on earth), use those nasty Listerine strips -- nothing tastes good after that. Helped me make it through for sure...

    I have been gone for a couple of days simply popping in and out and missed this rather interesting chain. I almost felt like I was back on my Jr. High School playground with the name calling.

    Yes, I am over 50 too......so maybe that is why I found the name calling absolutely ridiculous. Lets hope that part of this post is over. Sometimes people read tone in these posts. I know this because i myself have done it but I have learned that if something really irritates me, that I take a break before responding. I reread the post and try to give the poster the benefit of the doubt. Then other times it is clear that a poster is trying to get some drama going.

    At the end of the day this was about someone who was struggling with head hunger, which for me has never gone away. It is important to recognize it, give them advice on what can be done to settle it down and offer them support.

    The only thing that works for me in regards to head hunger is distraction and sticking to a high Protein, lower carb, well balanced meal plan. It keeps you full longer and can get your head out of all the stuff that can slow or stop weight loss. I have even learned in the maintenance phase that if i give in to too many carbs, the head hunger really does get worse. Plus honestly eating alot of carbs makes me feel really crappy and I mean physically.

    Name calling is absolutely not supportive. Let's not scare people away who need support.

    Just my two cents......

    The very first post my "old ass" made to the OP, for the record. ;)

  16. Posted

    ok broth is not working I feel like my stomach is full of gas and I drink the hot broth but does not seems to help I see that someone else took gas x so am going to try that and see. I know I am making a big deal I will force myself to do what I know is need I knew what I was getting into when I chose this path

    Gas is normal! Walk, walk, walk. If you have steps, climb them. Every time I felt a burp or toot get stuck, I climbed our house stairs. Worked every time. Take a GasX and then lay in you left side. Pull your knees towards your chest and relax.

    And don't let the dog snuggle up to your butt. He might pay you back.

  17. Posted

    I am reaching out to anyone that can offer me some advice I am 5 day out of surgery and the broth is not working I feel like and can handle some soft butter Beans but I am scared as its has not been 7 to 10 days is what they recommend before going to that. any advise on how to also get down my Water as I am so scared I am going to over do it and stretch my stomach back out

    What do you mean when you say broth is "not working"? What makes you feel as though you can handle butter Beans? What's on your surgeon's prescribed diet for you right now? Have you contacted him or her about your feelings?

    liquids won't stretch your sleeve but eating something (especially something with skins like beans) can an leave food particles stuck in your unhealed suture line. You don't want to create a possibly hazardous situation with a newly cut stomach, I assume.

    Head hunger is real and it sucks. Creating a leak or an abscess would suck even more. Stick to your plan. You are worth it.

  24. Posted

    Hi guys,

    I just had a popcorn and biscuits bing eating episode and it wasn't fun, I had stomachache and nausea,

    I don't know what to do, my mental health is not in the right place but dam it I love binging and food so much.

    I think im going to break up with my lovely food/friend.

    Any thoughts?

    Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

    Find a therapist before you seriously hurt yourself. A popcorn kernel lodged in you staple line could cause serious complications. You are too new to binge eat, especially foods like popcorn.

  25. Posted

    Merry Christmas everyone.

    Im 5 months out and today i had a tiny piece of sweet potato pie i feel fine but i do feel guilty and right after i ate it told my mom i dont plan to eat anything like that for a long time. Because i just hate the guilt i felt after eating it even though it was such a small piece

    Sent from my LGMS330 using the BariatricPal App

    Was it yummy? Was it a one (or two) time thing just for the holidays? Can you go take a long walk to work it off?

    No biggie! Let go of the guilt. You enjoyed it, your stomach is healed, you took a controlled piece. Much better than you would have done in previous years, right?

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