luckysmomma

Single here!

I like my men 6'5" and above! I like big guys. I always have & always will. I am a tall chic, and wls or not, I will always be a bigger girl. I like Hulk's size, Thor's size...and the guy from Magic Mike Joe Manganiello (excuse my spelling)... ...I wish I had a smaller stomach, firmer arms, toner thighs, and not such a flat butt..but other than that, I'm happy to be me. I lived my childhood/teen years thinking I had to be the same weight at Cindy Crawford - I no longer let such foolish things come across my mind. I am determined to help my self-image at thsi point of my life.

Call your dr and/or nut...always be cautious....especially in the first six weeks...

Me, too...I am 1 month out...

...5'10" ...11 shoe - used to be 10 prior to a hundred plus regain of weight a few years ago... ...303 starting weight of this process...287 the day of surgery (1 month ago) and 262 today.... ...Goal weight is 175 (would love to be 165 - high school weight - but though I haven't had children - I am just not built the same!) ...Last time I lost 100 lbs or so...I was down to 199 in a size 16 and was feeling great! ...If I could get to 175, be a size 14...I think I would feel so much more confident. ...I carry my weight in my gut, of course. I have wide hips, which I don't mind. I have thighs, which I hope to tone up with exercise. I wish I could do more for my arms, hopefully soon, I will be able to...I just want to look in the mirror & feel a 1/10 of what I used to feel....I never enjoyed my 'skinny days'...at 5'10" and 150 - I felt obese as I do this very second...I remember back in high school thinking the supermodel Cindy Crawford was the epitome of what a female should look like...she weighed like 120 - my bones weigh that! I am so glad I don't have that messed up way of thinking anymore! I will rock my new look now - and as this journey progresses! Take care, my fellow Amazon women! We are tall, we stand proud...we are hot!!!

I regret it. I would not do it again. Even when I meet my weight goal, which I feel I will in the next year or so...I am pretty confident - I will still regret it. I am not saying this to scare you. I am saying this to speak my truth & hopefully, help anyone who is like me - and should not have the surgery. This surgery or any wls surgery isn't for everyone. I am 1 month out. I have had no complications yet. I have been very lucky with having no thirst or hunger. I prepared for over a year. I knew the dangers. I knew the possible consequences. I didn't anticipate the shame and embarassment I feel - no way to prepare for that really. I didn't anticipate regretting it this much; I thought there would be some initial regret, then, it would subside..it hasn't. People slam me on here for speaking my truth, but I won't be quiet about it...it is not in my nature. So, the condensed version of why I regret it...I miss my life prior to surgery, unhealthy or not. I miss the life I had...there is NO going back after surgery. My goal is to move toward acceptance and make the best out of it. Please make sure it is the best decision for you and your situation. Don't let any negative comments here on this site or anywhere in your life keep you from doing what is best for you. I wish you the best of luck. Take care!

eggs, cheese, peanut butter, ff refried beans with ff sr cream, protein shakes (if I could stand them), sf puddings/jellos, whole wheat toast, flat out bread, fish was added this week...I am 1 month out...I am lucky I am still experiencing no hunger or thirst..but I can't stomach the shakes (trying to get protein by food) and I struggle with the water....

TES - I'd go into detail because I have on similar threads, but I get a lot of negative comments when I do & it has gotten a little too negative for me...so the condensed version - I simply miss my life with food. I miss the life I had. I am hoping & praying it gets better in time.

...I had my first month follow up today...I have struggled with fluids & protein...my total weight loss since surgery was 24 lbs....how did you do? I was expecting more...

I would mix up my exercise routine. I would mix up my food. If you have been eating the same things over & over and the same with the exercise, you just may need a new routine to jolt your body back into action. 90 lbs - that is so awesome! I am so jealous! Good luck!

I regret it every day. Every time someone posts a similar question about regrets. I respond & speak my truth...I regret it. I would not do it again. I hope I feel differently in time; I am 1 month post-op. I know myself, I don't foresee that happening...but my goal must be now to accept I have done it & make the best out of it. Best of luck to you! Everybody is different. Many, many people on this site are very happy with their wls decision. Do what is best for you & your situation! Take care!

5'10"...started at 303....down 40 (pre & post) and age 40...but I am only a month post-op. Water, Walking and Palmers firming butter lotion are 3 things that continually posted on threads that help with it.

Yep! Every day gets a little better.

Not sure about the issue you are having...but a standing-up workout...stand with your feet comfortably apart...raise your knee and twist your upper body, bring the opposite elbow to that knee...then, do the other knee, do three sets of ten. God luck to you!

I told everyone I was preparing for the surgery at some point for nearly a year. For the most part, friends & family were supportive. Many were worried for me ....about complications down the road & the amount of years that are shaved off your life expectancy by having wls. But, I told them I was having it anyway at some point. Within a week or so of my surgery, I became very ashamed and embarassed by my decision. I decided to tell no one. I told my co-workers and neighbors I was having a female procedure, so I wouldn't be bombarded with questions on why I wasn't at work. As far as family and friends, I told them I changed my mind abut the surgery & they never knew I was even in the hospital. I never stopped going to WW. So, as far as my weight loss, everybody thinks I am losing it for the millionith time with WW and exercise. Everybody is different. Do what you think is best for you & your journey. Don't let any negativity here on this site or in your life keep you from doing what is best for you. Best of luck to you!

I am not doing the shakes, either. I tried several brands & flavors...the smell & taste really got to me. My nut said my taste buds have changed & my sense of smell. I just had my 1 month follow-up - she really wants me to get in at least 1 shake per day, but I am getting in close to 70 grams of Protein now that I can have eggs, fish, cheese, Beans, etc...so I hope that helps me from losing lots of hair down the road when that time comes. I am going to try one more brand GNC total lean - a friend recommended it, but I don't have a GNC close, so next time I'm on a road trip, I am going to try them. They are already made. I am struggling with the Fluid, too. I started using a straw ( I know it is supposed to be a no-no), but it is helping me get in some more fluid. I am averaging about 32 oz a day. I hate Water & the flavors, but I am continuing to try. I know hair loss is worse if you don't get in the protein. I know weight loss slows without the fluid.

I am a food addict. I am a food lover. I am an any-emotion eater. I am a social eater. I am an alone eater. I love to eat, period! Now that love is gone...life is different...no point in looking in the rearview mirror...I gotta accept this decision and look ahead through the windshield...

The pain hit me the night of my surgery; I thought my shoulder was dislocated somehow...walk, walk, and walk some more - even if it hurts like heck - walk...it does and will make the pains subside.

Not telling anyone was the best decision I made in this terrible choice I made of having wls! If my friends & family knew - on top of how I am already feeling - I'd be full of more regret than I already am! "thanks" for asking!

I told no one. It was the best decision for me; everybody is different. Do what you feel is best for you. Good luck.

Laura - there was no surprise...I have been lucky I didn't experience many of the awful side effects I had read about, well, at least so far. My only 'surprise' if you want to call it that was the shame & embarassment I felt just days prior to my surgery. Everybody in my life knows I was preparing to have WLS since last May, but then, a few days before I decided to go ahead, alone & privately. I know me - I'd feel even worse about this new life of mine if a single friend or family member knew. I do miss my life, unhealthy or not, it was my life...now I go through the motions each day. And no, I am not craving any certain foods or anything, I am thrilled that I don't want to eat, but I know this can't last forever... Again, I am so happy for those who love the surgery; I simply don't. I am hoping to find some support from this site from those who regret it.

PDX - Nope, you didn't sound belittling & I do appreciate your thoughts. I was trying to show support to the one person I've seen post on this site who regrets the surgery, albeit for different reasons. I am happy that 99% of the people on this site love WLS and are happy; however, there is a few of us that make up the 1% Surgery is for some people; it isn't for others. Despite over a year of preparing, reading, & researching the sleeve, I thought I knew what I was getting into, but clearly for me, it isn't for me. Now it is too late. I have to deal with my decision and make the best out of my new life. I just hope to help those who are in the 1% to not go through what I am by speaking my truth. I knew surgery is only a tool. I am fat, not stupid. I never thought this would be easy. I never thought I'd magically lose weight. I know you have to routinely work with your dr, your nut, your dietician, etc - and I am! Despite my mobility issues, I am walking daily & hitting the gym. I struggle with Protein & fluids, but I do better each day. Losing weight takes 2 things - eating less & moving more. I didn't lose 100 lbs three different times in my life without realizing that...I am a food addict & food lover. I use food. I abuse food. I was even dependent on food. I chose surgery because of fear of becoming bedfast because of my mobility. To do it again? I still say no...even though I have no hunger, no thirst, no cravings ...things I prayed for...I would not do it again! People can say what they will about the mental/emotional stuff & they have some valid points - but at the end of the day in my world - surgery wasn't for me...but living with it is my new reality... I have lost 24 lbs my first month & been extremely lucky from everything I've learned since last May up to this very day on this site...and I think I will reach my goal one day in the next year or so (if I am lucky & don't develop problems)...but knowing what I know now...no, I'd not do it again...

PDX - I take full responsibility for the worst decision I've ever made. It is 100% my fault I had this surgery. I am totally accountable for my situation. I said nothing else!

.... I agree 100%...I regret it every day. I think you & me are the only two on this thread that said no!

CJ - I asked my dr today...she said to cover them for a couple of months...I could tell she isn't a tanning/tanning bed fan. She said I wasn't hurting my sleeve or anything, just my skin, of course. I tanned today!