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ElyQuint

Gastric Sleeve Patients
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  1. WOW. A. My house spouse is my a live in. He takes care of the house and I bring home the facon. Whether we are married or not is between us. Lol. B. Obesity is widely regarded in the medical community as contributing to a multitude of cancers for which chemo is a staple treatment. C. I'm not nearly as concerned with his weight as I am with his health which is dictated heavily by what you put in your face and hot dogs are bad and C. I'm not asking for anyone's judgment or even advice about whether to depart. I'm asking if anyone has had similar feelings. D. I never tried to make him be something he isn't. I expressed a feeling on a forum where people experiencing a similar life change might be able to shed some light on this new emotional experience I'm having. I'm not forcing any of my life choices on him (except the decor, that's all me.) Let me rephrase the question. I have a man whose health concerns me as I improve my own. Sometimes this concern is so overwhelming I feel like I have to end the relationship. Has anyone experienced similar feelings? (@Introvert: He's a chef. I'm not allowed to shop, stock or cook!


  2. I have an interesting issue with house spouse and I'm guessing I'm far from the only one. He took care of me through this process but still thinks it was a bad idea. He is a chef and has food obsessions. He is overweight (not like I was) and says that he'd rather enjoy life and die young than obsess about sugars ect. I really want him to be excited about getting healthy cause I don't want to spend my fifties pushing his wheel chair to chemo every day because he wanted to eat hot dogs. Sometimes I want to break up about it. Anyone?


  3. " I understand vsg is just a tool, but I hoped it would be a great tool for at least the first 8-12 months, giving me time to work on the mental part while I still lost weight. "

    This is precisely what is happening right now! Here you are, unable to over-indulge, and you have already decided you are a failure!

    Of course your enjoying the little food your eating! Of course you're obsessing over the things you can't have right now! That's your brain panicking about not getting a fix. Stop judging it and observe it. That's what working on the mental part means. Learning the ways that the brain gets you to cave and learning how to stop the little bastard from undermining your confidence. Get a journal. Write it down. Pay attention to the patterns. Learn your negotiation tactics so you can recognize your mental triggers. The weight will start dropping soon enough so focus on that voice in your head! Its not will power. Its self defense. Now is the time to watch how your "opponent" disables you.


  4. Pay very close attention to what feelings come up when you think about not being able to eat. That's the son of a ~itch that going to come barrelling at you post surgery. I'm willing to bet it feels something like panic. Something like "what if there isn't enough food to sedate my feelings, to assuage my pain, to fill this hole, to make me forget?" You can and will survive without eating 4 pieces of pizza but you will have to experience the anxiety you've been feeding. You will learn how to tell when enough is enough but you will have to learn to be Ok with that. In the meantime prepare your inner warrior to face the "not enough" you've been avoiding.


  5. 7/22/2013

    Sw:295

    CW: 209

    -86lbs

    At a total stall -- still want to lose 39lbs.. But I eat whatever I want

    Same boat. I have about 35 or so to go but have no real food limitations. At some point you learn to eat around the sleeve. I need the rigid journalling and measuring and structure. But I feel normal so I try to eat normal and then I don't lose. Also I get my period for two weeks a month and usually don't sweat what I eat but if its going to be that long I'm going to need to discipline myself.


  6. 7/22/2013

    Sw:295

    CW: 209

    -86lbs

    At a total stall -- still want to lose 39lbs.. But I eat whatever I want

    Same boat. I have about 35 or so to go but have no real food limitations. At some point you learn to eat around the sleeve. I need the rigid journalling and measuring and structure. But I feel normal so I try to eat normal and then I don't lose. Also I get my period for two weeks a month and usually don't sweat what I eat but if its going to be that long I'm going to need to discipline myself.


  7. My first month I spent convinced I was going to open a vegetarian culinary school. I would watch Jamie Oliver on YouTube and dream about food all night long. I learned that I had a physical feeling I associated with hunger that was really a form of anxiety. Without food to sedate it my mind panicked and started to obsess about "the precious". Don't fight it. Feel it. Observe it. But do not engage with it. Study its habits so you know how to stab it in its eyeballs a year from now when it tries to sneak back in.

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