Healthier2day1227

I'm going to be selective so I can try a sampling. I will skip stuffing bc it's too filling and instead have turkey, veggies and yams. I will probably skip potatoes. Hopefully my MIL doesn't do her usual and point out in front of everybody, is that all your eating?! Lets just hope she's too busy with family.
Actually we are doing two Thanksgivings because my Dad has to fly out of town on an emergency so we are doing hubby's family Thurs and mine Fri. I've already decided no tracking, I'm going to listen to my body but give MFP a rest.
Happy Thanksgiving everyone!

Thank you for this great thread. I have laughed, cried, and cringed in horror at peoples experiences.
Best Compliment - My 14 year old son told me he was proud of me.
Worst Compliment - My sister in law said I now look like I finally "go" with my husband. He is naturally thin.
The other thing is my mother in law is also Filipino and has absolutely not said one word to me about my weight loss (she doesn't know about my surgery). NOT 1 WORD... But I guess I can't complain since she never said anything about all the weight I gained either.

Good luck! I was a nervous wreck surgery day. My surgery went smoothly...my recovery was pretty easy. My hospital roommate situation not so much! My first roommate was an elderly woman who didn't speak English and pooped her bed...twice. Then she moved out and they gave me a lady who had nonstop around the clock visitors, some even spent the night. So those are my "funny" hospital stories. Haha not so funny but these people made me look forward to coming home and made my family look sane!

Gallbladder pain can be in your right upper quadrant, but more often than not people have pain in their back or upper shoulder. Appendix pain is in your right lower quadrant. What you describe does sounds like a peptic ulcer.... but gallbladder could cause similar problems. Blood in stool and coffee-ground emesis (vomit) is generally when it goes on for awhile. If it is that bad, I would definitely want my surgeon to squeeze me in asap and run some tests. My boss had bypass and had a GI bleed, but she kept taking NSAIDs after her surgery, which was a big no-no! But, there are a multitude of things that could cause it. Keep us posted on what your doctor says!

Good luck! I was a nervous wreck surgery day. My surgery went smoothly...my recovery was pretty easy. My hospital roommate situation not so much! My first roommate was an elderly woman who didn't speak English and pooped her bed...twice. Then she moved out and they gave me a lady who had nonstop around the clock visitors, some even spent the night. So those are my "funny" hospital stories. Haha not so funny but these people made me look forward to coming home and made my family look sane!

Lipstick Lady I think we have the same sister in law! Mine has made weight comments about me multiple times, such as "I know what it's like, I used to be huge too" and "even though you are big you are pretty."
None of them know I had the sleeve. While she still hasn't acknowledged my 75 pound loss, there will come a point where I am no longer the big one that she can always compare herself too favorably.

I decided not to tell anyone but my very close friends and some family, so when people ask how I've lost weight I just say in a very general way calorie control and exercise. I guess this is one instance where losing slowly is to my advantage, nobody is shocked by my weight loss. I had surgery in June and have lost 44 pounds so it could have been done "on my own."

Lipstick Lady I think we have the same sister in law! Mine has made weight comments about me multiple times, such as "I know what it's like, I used to be huge too" and "even though you are big you are pretty."
None of them know I had the sleeve. While she still hasn't acknowledged my 75 pound loss, there will come a point where I am no longer the big one that she can always compare herself too favorably.

SW. 226.6
CW. 224.4
Goal 220

SW. 226.6
CW. 224.4
Goal 220

Starting weight 226.6
Current weight 224.4
Thanksgiving goal. 220

Starting weight 226.6
Current weight 224.4
Thanksgiving goal. 220

Lipstick Lady I think we have the same sister in law! Mine has made weight comments about me multiple times, such as "I know what it's like, I used to be huge too" and "even though you are big you are pretty."
None of them know I had the sleeve. While she still hasn't acknowledged my 75 pound loss, there will come a point where I am no longer the big one that she can always compare herself too favorably.

I was in a store with my 12 year old son this weekend and I tried on a size medium hoodie and it fit. He could tell how excited I was and came over and gave me a big hug and said "I'm so happy for you!" It was the best feeling celebrating losing 77 pounds with my son.

So today is my first day back to work (13 days post op). I finally get to participate in this thread Here is what I have heard so far. I am not sure what category they fit into. None of them offended me. I just kinda laugh at the funny things people say.
1. A good friend of mine at work saw me today for the first time since August 1 (she was on maternity leave when I started my journey). So called me over so she could take a good look at me. Made me turn around and looked me up and down. Then this came out of her mouth. What size pants are those? I told her 16s. Not gonna lie. I just bought them last night so I had something to wear to work that fit. I said, "Why?" and she replied, "Because they are too big on you!" she told me they were too baggy and loose. Like I said I am not sure what to make of that. She was not mean about it. Quite sweet and all. I think she was trying to tell me that I have lost more weight than I think. I am down 41 pounds since she has last seen me.
2. Another co-work said, "you look good. It looks like you have had a facelift" Again not sure how to take that one either. But okay.
3. My other two closest friend at work were super nice and just said wow you look great you can really tell a difference.
These pretty much are the only people at work who know, but if others ask I will tell.
Thanks for reading. I have enjoyed following this thread while I have been home recovering.
Bonnie

I've been avoiding this thread as my posts have been regarded as being the rigid naysayer while nothing further can be the truth. I agree with Fiddle, this has, at times, been a dangerous thread.
We would love to believe that everyone thinks the same way we do, but that is not the truth. Sorry Cheri, but I couldn't disagree more with the statement I quoted from your post. People who truly are addicts cannot do this, otherwise, they wouldn't be addicts. Do you really believe the heroin addict can just quit whenever they CHOOSE to? One of the tenets of addiction is the power of choice has been removed. I believe this to be true for food addicts, too, and it doesn't take much for someone who is on the fence about using xxx (fill in the blank) to be pushed over to perhaps making a poor decision.
I understand the intent of the thread, but as I posted earlier, I believe the intent strayed and became something else. It has flowed back to what I believe the OP intent was, a confessional, but as you point out, there have been several posts that are just downright scary. As I stated earlier, I worry about the person researching the sleeve, reading this thread and thinking, "Oh, so I can still sit down and eat Cheetos after I get sleeved" or "I just need to spit out the Doritos after I chew them".
As I have shared, I am also in AA. It would scare the heck out of me to be sitting in a place I thought was safe and the discussion was glorifying what we drank last night. As I have done with this thread, I would get up and leave, but I have to ask if we have any responsibility to the person who is struggling and just happens to walk into the room?
Again, I am fine with the original intent of the thread, confession, as that is a large part of AA, too. But some of the posts are, IMO, dangerous and enabling. If I truly had a choice in my relationship with food, I would have never needed this surgery.

Lets all share our best and worst well meaning compliments about our weight loss.
My best was after returning to work after summer break: where'd you go this summer?! I mean where'd you go? Half of you is gone!
Oddest (considering it came from my mother in law): look at you! You're nothing but boobs!
Rudest: wow you lost all that weight and it found me. (Yes I am now responsible for others weight gain)
But the nicest compliments are the simple, you look great! I know they mean my weight loss and I appreciate the subtlety.
What are yours?

My junior year in college I came to terms with my alcoholism. I was so afraid to go to parties and not drink! I would drink 7-up or coke but put a lime in it to look more like a cocktail. People who didn't know me didn't even notice I wasn't drinking. My closer friends noticed but they were the ones who were happy I quit. And if I was at a bar to see a friend play, nobody even noticed. I think people are more focused on themselves than the details of others.
All this being said I gradually stopped going to parties and bars just because I had made new sober friends and different things interested me. I'm just sharing my experience and helping you see that people don't notice the details as much as we give them credit for.

My dad always used a compliment he picked up growing up in the Bronx:
For a fat girl, you don't sweat much.
Note: he never said it to me, it was more of a general line when I was growing up and neither I nor my sister were even slightly overweight.

My sister in law just tried to compliment me (I guess) by saying that when she used to be heavy she didn't look as pretty as me. And said even though I'm thick I still look nice. Ok, I've lost 78 pounds since January! And she doesn't know I've had this surgery so boy will she be shocked 6 months down the road when she can't say I'm pretty for being heavy.

My sister in law just tried to compliment me (I guess) by saying that when she used to be heavy she didn't look as pretty as me. And said even though I'm thick I still look nice. Ok, I've lost 78 pounds since January! And she doesn't know I've had this surgery so boy will she be shocked 6 months down the road when she can't say I'm pretty for being heavy.

I love getting the "Hey Skinny" comments and it's also fun to have people say, "Wow! You really look good," and have them keep staring at you doing double takes as if they can't believe what they see and it really is you.
One of the oddest ones I've gotten now twice is "I bet you're more confident now" and I'm sure it's just me but I kind of hate that one. It makes we want to say that no I'm not because it took a lot of confidence to put my 325 pound body out there like nothing was wrong with it and to like me for me at that weight. I don't feel more confident in that aspect -- it's just that they are seeing the real me that I've known I was all along.
I don't know -- maybe it is confidence. I know that I'm much more comfortable wearing sexy clothes now in the sense that I know people won't be talking behind my back and saying, "Look at that fat girl. Omg, I can't believe she is wearing that!" but it wasn't like I didn't want to wear those things earlier or feel like I was beautiful even when some people didn't see me like that. I guess it's the curse of being the fat girl with the pretty face that got away with some stuff.

I take care if a little girl who is almost 12. I've been with then since the day she was born. I decided it was time to tell her about the surgery. She said, "....but WHY? You're not THAT overweight!".
I'm 5'4 and 305! Lol.
Almost made me cry. She really just sees me and not my size! Love her, that was so sweet!