podna

I never advocated breaking the law. My portion of this debate is over whether the law is right. As you well know, just because something is legal doesn't mean it's right. Also, I never said that I should be allowed to do anything just because my money is at risk. I frankly could care less whether or not Eharmony is inclusive or exclusive of gays. What I do stand up for is their right to conduct their business as they see fit so long as they are not taking actions to harm anyone.

Just so you know. I'm not anit gay. And I'm not racist. Also, us right-wingers care about a whole lot more than this little issue. Just think, if Hillary Clinton wins the oval office lap bands will be free to everyone.........you just won't be able to find a surgeon to do it. After watching Fred Thompson on Fox last night I was planning to send my $1000 donation to him today. After reading your posts I decided to double it.

What about Hooters not hiring MEN to serve tables for that matter? It would destroy their business model...wouldn't it? Put just one man in daisy duke shorts and a tank top and that place goes out of business cause most of the current patrons would rather eat the plants outside than look at THAT guy.

Pink hair and a nose ring are BEHAVIOUR just like my neonazi example. you sure werent born with those now were you? Like it or not, your appearance speaks for you as loudly as any words in a business setting. You still haven't addressed WHY if I put MY money at risk to start a business. Maybe I mortgaged my family's house and quit my job, for instance. I work night and day trying to make it a success. Why should anyone be able to tell me who I can hire or what type of clientele I must serve? Why would anyone have that right in a free country? Now, if you think I should be serving some segment of the public you are totally free to mortgage YOUR home and start a competing business that serves anyone and everyone.

Sure they should. What about a Jewish deli refusing to serve a group of neo nazis? What about a restaurant refusing to serve someone without a shirt on. What if their religion dictated that they dine without a shirt?

That's a pretty selective quote from my post. I don't support anti-discrimination laws when it comes to private businesses. Again, if I put my money at risk, why should you be able to tell me who I can hire, fire or cater to? It's not YOUR money. But you could use your money to compete with me...couldn't you?

This brings out the libertarian in me. In the United States we still have ownership rights. If I own something, I get to determine its best use. Eharmony is a privately owned company. Why shouldn't they get to cater to whatever market segment they so choose? Gay, straight, whatever? I feel the same way when it comes to no-smoking laws. If I put my money at risk to open a restaurant. I should be able to CHOOSE whether to allow smoking in MY restaurant. BTW, I'm a non smoker and hate it when the guy at the table next to me lights up! Eharmony is being unfairly targeted for this. It is their business and they should be free to run it as they choose. If they run it poorly then the market should respond by spending their money elsewhere. Vote with your pocketbook but don't use the courts to impose your will on someone else. No one has a constitutional right to a matchmaking service.

All pain is gone except for a little superfishal tenderness like you would have from any incision after a week. Range of motion is pretty much back to normal. I can cough or sneeze without wincing. Gas problems disippated yesterday. Digestive system feels normal now. I have posted (with much anger LOL!) about my surgeon's seemingly super-restrictive 2 week clear liquid diet (zero carbs and zero protein). After a conversation with the nurse on Monday she allowed me to move cautiously to yougurt, cottage cheese, etc. So, I began having just a few ounces...not even to the point of fullness. Just to get something in my system and it has made a TON of difference! It coincided with digestive system normalcy. Lethargy disappeared almost immediately. Anger about the diet is slowly disappearing (although I'm gonna have a "come to Jesus" with my surgeon when he gets back from vacation). I plan to hit the treadmill with moderation today...just to break a sweat. Funny thing about the diet and psychology: As soon as she gave me permission to have a little soft stuff I felt I could recommit to liquids somewhat. Meaning, I won't have soft stuff every meal. I'll still do Clear Liquids frequently. Just knowing I have control -- or an option -- makes all the difference for me. All in all, life feels pretty darn back to normal today!

My doc's verbal and written instructions were to cough cough cough. It does hurt some for the first few days though...primarily around the port. What hurts even more though is a sneeze. I have to say, though, 6 days out the pain totally disappeared and I can cough without worry.

Yeah no kidding! I spoke with the nurse this morning (my doc is on vacay) and she browbeat me for the apple juice saying it is empty calories. She did reluctantly allow me to move slowly to the phase two diet which includes cottage cheese, eggs, yougurt, etc. She reminded me though that I was to have absolutely no smoothies, Protein shakes, etc. I'm beginning to think my doc combines a few purposes with this post op diet. 1. Protect the pouch 2. Begin to retrain eating habits and expectations I have no issue protecting the pouch of course. But I wasn't a huge eater, sugar lover or anything like that before. Basically, I was a "bad" eater. Meaning that I would just not eat until I got so freakin hungry that I would eat whatever I could find to take the hunger away and eat it fast so it would then be too much. I understand the new "rules" about eating and have no issue with retraining to that. My problem now is that I'm starving, have no energy and must be losing muscle mass too. I do worry that I'm further damaging my metabolism too. Bottom Line: I'll do whatever necessary to protect the pouch. But, I think now is a poor time to retrain eating habits. I am grateful that she agreed to move to stage two. If I can just get a few ounces of yogurt or cottage cheese twice a day I'll be very happy!

Just 2 weeks for the preop diet.

I was banded the same day and have been really freakin hungry for 2 days now. In fact I've been posting about this miserable post op diet and how there's no way I can adhere for another week. Everything else seems to be settling out so I cheated a little tonite and had 3oz of low fat yogurt and a little diluted fruit juice and it made all the difference. I feel so much better! Not recommending you cheat but I'm having the exact same experience. My doc's diet has me on way less than 100 calories per day and zero Protein. I've lost 8 pounds in 3 days and 27lbs in about 3 weeks. That seems extreme to me.

Michelle -- I was banded on the 29th and that sounds similar to my experience except that I didn't have any pain from trapped gas. By the way, have you SNEEZED yet? The first time I sneezed it hurt like a mofo where they put the port!