Healthygal

Sounds like a lot of people have moms that are less than supportive. I can understand being scared for your child, but that's not what I'd be dealing with. I'm sure that's part of it, in there somewhere. With mom, she just has to be right at all times and knows everything at all times. So there's a whole other motivation going on there.
I think I will wait until after it's done. As a matter of fact, I think I'll just wait as long as I possibly can. When she starts noticing my weight is falling off, I will mention to her at some point (via email) that I had bariatric surgery. She can tell me what a dope I am, but I will tell her that I made my decision and it has worked well for me, and look, ta da...see what I mean? Now I have a tool to help me control things.
Or maybe I'll just never tell her. This is MY life, after all. Since I know she'll have a bit fit no matter how I handle it, why bother? I don't require her approval. I love mom...but she makes it a really hard job. Ya know?

I think I'll just be so glad I came through the surgery and woke up that I won't care about the weight for awhile! There's no way it's not going to come off eventually with the way we have to eat after this surgery, so let your body heal and figure it all out. My plan is to not be in any hurry. The very idea that this weight is finally going to come off FOREVER is so wonderful, that even if I lose very slowly, it will be pounds I will never see again so long as I stick to the program and make the right choices. You will lose the weight...give yourself the time.

Pain in my feet upon standing up
Taking out small items on furniture with my hips when I walk by
People giving me a wide birth
Shrinking into airplane seats
Not living

NTVTXN,
I hope my situation ends up like yours! It sounds pretty great to be able to have so much control at last. One of the disheartening things is to have PCOS and other comorbidities that cause losing weight to be such a tremendous chore. Then you are eating less and less and getting hungrier and hungrier, and eventually you just get sick of being hungry and tired and having to fight so hard to lose just a bit of weight. I know I've always felt so overwhelmed by the idea of having to face so much hunger for the rest of my life to keep my weight down. The idea of NOT feeling that horrible, nagging hunger all the time sounds like heaven! The only times I've ever had my weight way down, where people were giving me compliments and I had lots of energy and looked good, I was STARVING all the time. It was just a matter of time before I ballooned up again, because I got tired of fighting that hunger and felt like everyone else could eat when they were hungry, why did I have to be punished for eating until I wasn't miserable anymore?
I'm waiting to hear back from the insurance, I guess...and the doctor's office is going to let me know. I really hope and pray my experience will be like yours!
Cara

Getting winded tying my shoes, feeling a little out of breath when I just roll over fast in bed, having been told by my doc NOT to get diabetes due to a past cardiac issue...and knowing I was already prediabetic...feeling so many things were off limits to me. Having people come up and ask me if I was "expecting" again, and having to laugh (faking being okay with it, like you do, you know?) and say, "No, I'm just fat." Ha. Ha. Ha. Ha. ....
I never get anything done. We have two stories in our home and I actually don't do anything in the second story because of having to climb the stairs! I feel like a sack of potatoes with no shape. Clothes shopping is pointless because nothing looks good on me anyway, so I have taken to wearing whatever big t-shirt I tossed on the floor from yesterday...
There are a million reasons I want to get this done. I have done the diet and exercise bit, and there isn't enough life left to live to waste on that nonsense anymore.

As I was writing on another post about the reasons why I have decided to look into doing this-the things that I miss out on and that have happened to me because of my weight-I realized it...
I'm really going to do this.
I'm not going to put the papers in the trashcan again. I am really ready for this change. I am really ready to find new ways to deal with life than food, like walking and biking and moving so much more. I'd like to learn how to make super healthy foods for my family and to be an example to my children before they ever become fat. They sit inside all the time, and I bet if MOM was outside doing things they'd be more likely to start going outside and moving, too. I have told them DON'T GET FAT, but their diets are crap and they seldom move. They are not healthy, even though they are not fat yet.
My husband is about 40-50 pounds overweight, and I think is watching me to see what happens. I can't ever see him doing this drastic step, but if he eats healther with me and goes out and walks more, maybe he will drop some weight and we can all feel so much better.
In which case, I am not just doing this for me, but for the health and well-being of my entire family. I'm really going to do this!

I know that as a nurse, there are actually shorthand notations we use for gastric bypasses gone wrong. It happens quite a bit. I also know a woman who had gastric bypass that isn't big but she's certainly not small, either. I know three people who have lap bands who have lost some weight but are not near their goal. The good thing is that VGS doesn't do the same rerouting that gastric bypass does, so there is less chance for infection. It is still a scary thing, but I really feel my life has to change and this is the only way to get it to change permanently.
Why is it that we have to make ourselves so miserable to get our weight down, I wonder? That's another aspect that sold me on the VGS, the reports that it decreases hunger so much and that diabetes and prediabetes can be resolved in nearly 80% of the cases within just a few months of surgery.
Because I have been obese since literally before kindergarten, I have never known how to eat properly. My body has been given the signal to overeat and those hormones have been at work in my body FOREVER. Part of me blames my family for this, since I look at pictures of myself as a little girl with huge rolls on my arms and legs and asked my mother and grandmother, "How did you NOT see that there was a problem? Why did you keep feeding me??" They just shrug and tell me that it was cute when I was little. NICE. Then they look at me like, so why don't you change it now, you're an adult and it isn't our fault your fat NOW. Well, science tells us it kind of IS. Setting all that into motion, the hormonals situations that my body has been bathed in since the beginning, the preprograming of the cells...well, yeah, they set me up for a lifetime of being fat or fighting like hell to change it. My body always fights back and wins.
Not anymore...

As I was writing on another post about the reasons why I have decided to look into doing this-the things that I miss out on and that have happened to me because of my weight-I realized it...
I'm really going to do this.
I'm not going to put the papers in the trashcan again. I am really ready for this change. I am really ready to find new ways to deal with life than food, like walking and biking and moving so much more. I'd like to learn how to make super healthy foods for my family and to be an example to my children before they ever become fat. They sit inside all the time, and I bet if MOM was outside doing things they'd be more likely to start going outside and moving, too. I have told them DON'T GET FAT, but their diets are crap and they seldom move. They are not healthy, even though they are not fat yet.
My husband is about 40-50 pounds overweight, and I think is watching me to see what happens. I can't ever see him doing this drastic step, but if he eats healther with me and goes out and walks more, maybe he will drop some weight and we can all feel so much better.
In which case, I am not just doing this for me, but for the health and well-being of my entire family. I'm really going to do this!

As I was writing on another post about the reasons why I have decided to look into doing this-the things that I miss out on and that have happened to me because of my weight-I realized it...
I'm really going to do this.
I'm not going to put the papers in the trashcan again. I am really ready for this change. I am really ready to find new ways to deal with life than food, like walking and biking and moving so much more. I'd like to learn how to make super healthy foods for my family and to be an example to my children before they ever become fat. They sit inside all the time, and I bet if MOM was outside doing things they'd be more likely to start going outside and moving, too. I have told them DON'T GET FAT, but their diets are crap and they seldom move. They are not healthy, even though they are not fat yet.
My husband is about 40-50 pounds overweight, and I think is watching me to see what happens. I can't ever see him doing this drastic step, but if he eats healther with me and goes out and walks more, maybe he will drop some weight and we can all feel so much better.
In which case, I am not just doing this for me, but for the health and well-being of my entire family. I'm really going to do this!

Does the have to be only 1 straw?!?!?! I could name soooo many.
1. Being a hermit and only going out into public when necessary.
2. Being able to do things that I want to do but dont because of the way I look and feel.
3. Being the "fat friend" and "fat co-worker"
4. Not being healthy
The list is endless!!!!!! I am sick of it and cant stand the constant shame and grief I put on myself. Just to name a few.
Wow that opened up a wound....lol.... I know all of the these things sound cliche, but isn't that why we all have seeked, or are seeking VSG?