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I did not mean to insult Brits and the like across the pond. But in the U.S., we use Standard American English. For us, it's whine. If we were to adopt some of your catchy lingo, we'd have a lot of explaining to do, i.e. the loo.

When in America ...

And this is why Americans have such a bad reputation abroad. We expect the world to adapt to us when people are here (although I know Madam is not) but when then when WE travel to other places, somehow we expect them to adapt to us again!

Off topic......just sayin.......

I totally get it. I had to reschedule my surgery at the last minute because of a pre op test coming back whacko. It took the wind out my sails in a way I can't explain.

Good news, sleeved a few weeks later and SO worth the wait!

Good luck to you, it will be worth it!

Surgery is scheduled for Nov 13th! This past weekend I had one of those social days...birthday for the grandson and grand opening at..of all things..a hot new restaurant where my son is chef de cuisine. Ohhh baby! I enjoyed the family and the company and basically ate half of what I normally would and skipped the cake. I was simply "aware" and it was the most fabulous day!

That's what post sleeve can be but probably only be able or want to eat 1/4 of pre sleeve!

Life IS good!

Boy, I remember back. 3 weeks of liquids after surgery. Evening of day 21, I set out a can of refried Beans for the next day. It was the best food I ever had! I kissed the can. Of course it took me almost a week to finish the can but that's when I knew I was gonna be ok and not starve to death.

If possible, I will look at the restaurants menu online, lots of times they have the nutritional values and you can decide what you want by that.

I eat out often as we travel a lot. Never had a problem getting something healthy and lean. It's been there all along, we just have to look for it. If nothing else, I will ask for grilled chicken or fish and steamed veggies. Never been turned down yet and have not starved to death.

From what my fellow March sleevers are experiencing. YES! I have been stalled myself for over 2 months now and keep going up and down the same three pounds. A lot of the other ladies are experiencing the same thing and we are not liking it one bit!

Patience, patience, patience damn it! Ever realized how easy it is to tell someone else that but practicing it is a whole other subject!

Good luck, I know it will come off but come on now, this isn't funny anymore.

While I love beef Jerky, especially the teryiaki Jacks link. It it so yummy. I can eat it with no problems (I am 7 months out) but I only have it when I am traveling, which I do a lot of. I take that and roasted edemame for Snacks in the hotels or a Meal Replacement if need be. Both are high in protein.I don't have it at home because the bag will disappear one chunk at a time. No beueno. And the sodium content is rather high and I try to watch that.

I go and enjoy the heck out of each and every event! No reason not to!

Mindset just shifts. I sometimes eat before I go If I know that there will be nothing nutritional but mostly there is always something to eat that is mostly good for me. I can eat whatever I like, nothing disagrees with me, I usually just choose not to eat the worst things.

Life gets better after sleeve, not worse. You just won't have to focus so much on food, you can enjoy the company!

I eat out several times per week. There really is no place I can not eat. McDonald's? Check. Grilled chicken salad. Same as any other fast food. Applebees? Can't even count the number of yummy, stuff to get there.

The bottom line is, yes, we can eat out as much as we want AND keep it healthy, we just didn't know it and practice it prior to surgery.

Good luck!

Hang in there! Today will probably be the worst day. Once you get through today and tomorrow, it will be much, much easier.

The worst is almost over!

Good luck!

2 pounds is a normal weight fluctuation.

The deli and get a sandwich and take the bread off. Any of the chicken salads or sandwiches from Carl's Jr and take the bread off.

Popcorn! Git yer popcorn here!

I told people that NEEDED to know that I was having surgery for whatever reason that it was for "girly" things (truth--I'm a girl). I tell them I am doing a medically supervised high protein/low carb diet (truth), exercising a lot more (truth), I am measuring/logging everything I eat (truth), and that I cut out a lot of the bad stuff (truth-- my tummy!). I tell the truth about how much I've lost, too.

All that long drawn out subterfuge would make my head spin and quite possibly explode. When someone asks me a personal question that I don't want to answer, or one that is rude, I simply smile as if they are an idiot and respond with, "Now why in the world would you ask someone that?". Shuts 'em up every time.

Gonna steal that one wise lady with the awesome lips!

You make some good points and I do hate to get all caught up in a web of lies. One lie leads to another, when trying to cover-up the truth, and eventually it can all become apparent to everyone that I was lying. That turns into a lot of work for me (keeping track of all the lies) and for no net gain if everyone figures out the truth in the end.

This is what I'm struggling with in trying to determine whether to attempt to cover up or just be (somewhat) honest with everyone from the start ...

Do whatever you need to do to get through this journey. Trying to cover your tracks can be tricky. How about not saying anything at all? It has worked well for for me. The only people who know about my surgery are my husband on one of our sons. For me, I'm just a private person and never talked about my medical history or very personal things. It's just not who I am.

For work, unless someone asks, don't say anything. Legally, you don't have to disclose to HR anything other than medical issue. If someone asks how you are losing weight say "working really hard at it." Or how much have you lost? (a very rude question in my opinion) say "a bunch."

There are ways around it without lying. You just need to remember that just because you are asked a question, does not mean that you are obligated to answer it. People will get the idea that you do not want to discuss it. Some may persist, those are the ones that whatever you tell them, they will tell someone else so don't hesitate to shut those ones down. If someone keeps asking me I will look at them and say "boy you sure are asking a lot of personal questions." They will usually get embarrassed and say something like I was just curious and my reply is "yes, I can see that." It will shut them up.

What I am saying is don't be bullied into telling people things you don't want them to know, just because you are asked a question don't mean you owe them an answer. Then you don't need to keep any stories straight.

Getting sleeved and losing weight is not the easy way by any means. Do whatever you need to succeed. Sometimes though, we over think things and they can be quite simple. For me, closing down the conversation before it gets rolling has worked for me.

Good luck in whatever decision you make!

You make some good points and I do hate to get all caught up in a web of lies. One lie leads to another, when trying to cover-up the truth, and eventually it can all become apparent to everyone that I was lying. That turns into a lot of work for me (keeping track of all the lies) and for no net gain if everyone figures out the truth in the end.

This is what I'm struggling with in trying to determine whether to attempt to cover up or just be (somewhat) honest with everyone from the start ...

Do whatever you need to do to get through this journey. Trying to cover your tracks can be tricky. How about not saying anything at all? It has worked well for for me. The only people who know about my surgery are my husband on one of our sons. For me, I'm just a private person and never talked about my medical history or very personal things. It's just not who I am.

For work, unless someone asks, don't say anything. Legally, you don't have to disclose to HR anything other than medical issue. If someone asks how you are losing weight say "working really hard at it." Or how much have you lost? (a very rude question in my opinion) say "a bunch."

There are ways around it without lying. You just need to remember that just because you are asked a question, does not mean that you are obligated to answer it. People will get the idea that you do not want to discuss it. Some may persist, those are the ones that whatever you tell them, they will tell someone else so don't hesitate to shut those ones down. If someone keeps asking me I will look at them and say "boy you sure are asking a lot of personal questions." They will usually get embarrassed and say something like I was just curious and my reply is "yes, I can see that." It will shut them up.

What I am saying is don't be bullied into telling people things you don't want them to know, just because you are asked a question don't mean you owe them an answer. Then you don't need to keep any stories straight.

Getting sleeved and losing weight is not the easy way by any means. Do whatever you need to succeed. Sometimes though, we over think things and they can be quite simple. For me, closing down the conversation before it gets rolling has worked for me.

Good luck in whatever decision you make!

Does your plan that your surgeon and NUT have on mention it? There are many thoughts on alcohol. Some surgeons say never again, some at least a year some 6 months, 6 weeks.

You will just be getting to normal foods when you go so it can be a bit scary but just take it slow and easy. I traveled 6 weeks out and have been on 5 or 6 trips since and it gets easier.

Good luck to you!

I was sleeved in March and was on trip right at 6 weeks and have traveled a lot since. Eating is really easier than you think. I have yet to be a a restaurant that I can not find something healthy and yummy. I don't always order an entree sometimes just an appetizer. I was very nervous in the beginning but now it doesn't scare me at all. I always take Snacks on my trips such as roasted edamame, beef Jerky and prunes.

You will be more than 3 months out so you will have a very good idea of what works for you by then.

Good luck to you!

Boobs!

Specifically, perky ones.

Sorry, I couldn't help myself.

Yep, that pretty much sums it up. Getting tired of having roll the girls up to get them in my bra!

What PdxMan said! It took me the full week just to get back to my surgery date weight!

The weight is going to come off however fast or slow it does, as long as you are following the plan.

Some of the people in our Facebook of March sleevers have it their goal, mostly the men. It just seems to fall off them but everyone is a great clip down the road and we will all get there.

Be patient, it didn't come on over night and won't come off over night but you are taking a great step!

Be proud of yourself!

Best of luck to you!

Just be honest and tell them you need to be normal, that what you eat or don't eat is your responsibility, not theirs but that you are very touched by the support, but damn it, act like your crazy selves around me so I know life is normal.

Get your point across but throw in something light to make them smile.

Good luck to you, you will love your sleeve!

Thanks for sharing the imaginary friends! I am not scared at all. It's facts!!

I am indeed preop. That will change next Tuesday!

How about you?

I am 7 months post op and loving life! Have been on a nasty (although pretty typical) stall for the last 2 months but am thrilled with the results thus far! I was self pay and it was the best money I have ever spent on my health!

You will love your sleeve!

Wishing you the best!

I'll take you for a ride on my unicorn post op!

You don't even know how much that leprechaun ride means to me! Thanks for the encouragement and really scary statement about inevitable death! It's good to hear ( I'm sorry about your mom, though )

My leprechaun riding unicorn is YOUR leprechaun riding unicorn and happy to share anytime.

Be proud and Celebrate everyday. I was not trying to scare you, truly I was not, its just a fact with my mom.

Are you still pre op?

How about my leprechaun rides in on his unicorn carrying a pot 'o gold!

Seriously, the very best of congrats to you! My mother smoked for over 50 years and it eventually killed her. So to you I say, that is one of the hardest accomplishment one can do and guess What? YOU DID IT!

Wishing you the very best that life has to offer. You are an awesome person!

I tried to quit the coffee yesterday...the pounding started at 3-4pm.

6pm I felt like I was going to barf.

8pm if I moved at all I could see my heart beat with little spots in the outer edges in my field of vision.

3am I got out of bed to take another dose of Tylenol PM. Still had the pounding.

Needless to say I had one cup today. I see the surgeon tomorrow and get my surgery date.

My head hurts just reading this post.

Talk to your Doc and maybe see if they will agree with step down.

Good luck, it will be worth it!