anne43

My food tolerance varies with the day- my band is very fickle - and one day I can eat everything -and the next everything gets stuck - my main foods I avoid are bread as in sandwiches or just bread- so sub sandwiches are out -and I do miss those -white chicken - unless really lubed up with a bunch of sauce- and salads - they used to be a never, no way food - which believe it or not I missed them -but lately I can have them if the lettuce is shredded and I use a lot of dressing...and eggs - scrambled or anyway - had a very bad stuck episode with eggs...foods I can almost always eat - steak, hamburger, crackers, anything soft or mushie, chicken nuggets that are processed - tortilla chips -

breakfast- left over prime rib from last nights dinner - yummo lunch - chicken with pesto - banana dinner - very light- probably just a salad - going out with friends - so don't like to push it as I tend to pb in social situations frequently.

Wow -you do seem to have a lot going on. I can offere a little advice - first off- it sounds like you could use a little medical help - anxiety attacks are brought on by a chemical imbalance - you are producing too much serotonin - and you produce even more when you become stressed or have anxiety -which makes it a vicious cycle -also - you sound pretty depressed. You may want to consider taking some antidepressant medication for a while - to get the chemicals turned around in your body - I too have anxiety attacks - suffered from them terribly for a while - finally my doc put me on zoloft - I took it for about 6 months - then was able to go off of it - and now I just take ativan prn(when needed) - to head off the attacks - I usually only need a few a month now - been doing this for about 20 years- it just seems to work for me - the zoloft got the chemicals turned around - the ativan keeps them from getting out of whack again. As for your other issues- every wife/mother goes through times like you are going through - and every marriage goes through a period like that too - I wouldn't be too hard on your dh - maybe you are not being very receptive - because you feel so unattractive - I know when I was at my highest weight - I couldn't even fake feeling sexy - and I too blamed him for not wanting me because I was fat - but here I was -griping at him all the time - dressing like a nun -and acting like a shrew - no wonder he didn't want me - and as for being a stay at home mom - god bless you honey - I teach and I stay home all summer - it is a thankless job - and would drive me nuts if I did it all the time -I can't wait to be back at work - it is soooo much easier being a working mom! Take heart - you are doing somthing for yourself and your family that will be the best thing you could do for them - getting yourself healthy - inside and out! And yes, come here and vent often -it does help! Hang in - Anne:smile2:

I had my band 2 years ago -and my insurance covered it - we have since changed insurances and now my new insurance says it will cover nothing that has anything to do with wls or complications from it - I guess my worry it now what happens if I should ever have any complications and require more surgery or band removal? I really don't have enough money to cover thousands of dollars if I would need emergency surgery or even something small like a port revision - should this be a consideration for everyone who is getting the band - even when it is covered by insurance - that one day your insurance may change and anything arising from the band would not be covered? I guess I had never considered this - and wanted to be sure that everyone else does - I mean I knew I would have to pay for fills and such - but never considered the possibility that I may have to pay for a revision surgery. I don't as of now - and hopefully never would -but I have thought and worried about it.

I had my band paid for by insurance - but we have since changed insurance companies and our new insurance says specifically it does not cover any surgery for obesity - now it covers all other dependancy problems - drug, alcohol, smoking - any other addiction -but it will not cover obesity - don't you think that is discrimination based on a person's weight - and don't you think a lawyer wouldn't have jumped all over this before now? I have always just wondered if anyone has ever tried to sue an insurance company for discrimination based on denial of benefits -

My bf is in the same boat - she has been my biggest champion when it came to my decision to do this - she supported me and went to all my appts with me - we even drove through a horrific snow storm to get to one - and she had to go to the bathroom so bad and we were stuck on the freeway - all we could do was laugh and it just made her situation worse - we went through a lot - anyway - she even went through the 2 week liquid diet with me - all though she drew the line at doing the whole colon cleanse thing - lol - but as I lost weight - and she didnt - it has put a space in our friendship. We are still bf - and she still supports me, but I think she is envious because I could do the surgery (my insurance paid for it ) and hers won't. I have kept my surgery very private and only she and my husband know about it - no one else does - and it has been 2 years- she shared with me the other day it is frustrating for her - because her family (kids and hubby) are constantly holding me up to her and saying look how good I have done with my diet and why can't she do it - I guess I am a real hero to them - and she can't say a word because I have asked her not to tell anyone. I did remind her that this isn't an easy way out - in fact it is one of the hardest things I have ever done - but it made losing weight doable. I try not to talk about it too much - support her when I can - I know she has gained quite a bit this past year - and doens't seem to even try and do anything about it -although she says she wants to - it is sooo unfair that insurance companies can discriminate against overweight people...I guess all we can do is support and sympathize - as we know what it is like.... it does break my heart that I can't do more for her. Anne

You are about to undergo a life altering event - it is only natural to be totally freaked out - I remember thinking on the way to the hospital that I still had time to change my mind - and physically putting my fist in my mouth to keep from yelling at my husband to stop and turn the car around - I am over 2 years out- down 70lbs -have about 30 to go - and I have never looked back and never had one regret - life is so much better- I feel better - I am more confidnent - and I know I could not have done this without this tool -I have tried umpteen million times before - I feel very lucky and fortunate that I was able to do this -and guess what - my life isn't soo different - sure I eat less then I did - but I can still have my favs in small amounts - I eat like a normal person now - I am a slower loser - but that is ok with me - I went from a size 22-24 to a 14w - and even those are getting too big - and to be honest, I don't exercise like I should - I am trying to change that and have begun walking with my dh to try and get the last 30lb off - but I still don't love exercise! good luck -it will all be good! Anne:thumbup:

Breakfast - I made a quesidilla with low carb tortilla sprayed with pam spray -added feta cheese, 1 slice montery jack -a small campari tomato and 2 slices turkey bacon - it was to die for - browned it in a pan - Lunch - probably just some hummus and lf wheat thins- maybe a salad - and a banana-am trying to up my protein.. dinner - not sure yet what I am in the mood for -need to up my protein for sure.... S - usually a glass of wine -

I had a glass of wine 3 days after my surgery -afterall I was on a liquid diet - and wine is a liquid. :thumbdown: Anyway - I do drink with my band - I have a glass of red wine every night - some nights more- Ienjoy my wine - and red merlot or a dry wine is lower in sugar - it is my one treat I allow myself - I did have to adjust what I drank in the beginning as I wasn't eating much - and I was losing weight - so I couldn't tolerate what I used to be able to - woke up feeling not so hot a few times and got it figured out - I do try and stick to wine - although on occasion I will have a margarita or martini - those have too much sugar in them so I save them for special occasions... your weight loss may be a little slower -but this is a lifestyle not a diet - so don't do things that make you miserable. Anne

For breakfast -banana and coffee and active yogurt Lunch - I made an incredible chicken bacon ranch salad- with campari tomatoes, grilled chicken, turkey bacon, cucumbers, beets and of lite ranch dressing - had extra time today so treated myself - oh yeah and feta cheese. dinner - not sure yet - probably some kind of chicken and maybe some grilled veggies - snack - hummus or hot peppers on low fat wheat thins

wine is a part of my life - I do know that when I was a die hard adkins person -the adkins guru himself recommended a glass of a dry red wine a day and said that the people who followed that actually lost more weight then those that didn't. Now I don't know if he had any basis to say that - but it made me happy! I drink a glass (sometimes 2) of red merlot wine a day. It is my one treat and indulgance - I am not much of a sugar person, I try and make good choices throughout the day - and in the evening if I have done my exercise and ate well thorughout the day I have a glass of wine - and sit down and relax. You gotta do what you gotta do to enjoy life and live - one can't live on protein water for life! Cheers - btw my favorite wine is cheap chuck - or 2 buck chuck - which is actually called Charles Shaw and is only available at Trader Joes - an excellent wine - never gives me a headache - tastes better then most expensive wines - and I can get a case of it in Ohio for around 40$. Anne

Hummus is a brown, creamy dip type of thing. It is kinda an acquired taste- but it is very good. Some people make it with lots of spice- like garlic or roasted red pepper or pine nuts - it has mediterrian undertones -with lemon and tahini in it - but it is kinda hard to describe the taste - it isn't spicy (hot) or sweet it has a very unique flavor- you can get a small tub of it at any grocery store - Sabre is the best brand - and you can eat it with crackers, veggies or tortilla chips - some people spread it on a peice of bread as in a sandwich spread - it is usually in with the spreadable cheeses and sour cream and feta cheese and chip dips. Hope that helped! Give it a try - a few times - and see if you like it - it is a little higher in fat (some brands) but very high in fiber and protein - so well worth it. Anne

Most often it is not how much you are eating - but what you are eating - you may not be eating enough - but try upping your protein - limiting your sugar and carbs to a bare minimum - and drink, drink drink lots of H20 - that may help - if you don't eat enough you won't lose weight - your body starts holding on for dear life - remember this is a lifetime journey - it doesn't happen overnight - so enjoy all the small nsv you are sure to be experienceing -and enjoy the ride down - it is all good - and you will have many stalls along the way - just take them as giving your body time to adjust - you will start losing again soon. Just make sure you aren't eating absently - or picking - or taking in liquid calories... write down for a day or 2 everything that goes in your mouth - and you may see any problems that are there - hang in t here Anne:smile2: