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My husband told me to officially get over myself, he REFUSED to do anymore nightly scalp examinations. So I have taken matters into my own hands with a mirror. It's funny the OCD/Addictive behaviors that pop up, now that my old buddy "food" has been replaced. Seriously, shopping, realty TV you name it stuff is scaring me. One of the biggest reasons I have been MIA around here, staying up till 4 am on VST was getting out of hand. Just needed to rant

Girl don't make me show you my bald spot

My husband told me to officially get over myself, he REFUSED to do anymore nightly scalp examinations. So I have taken matters into my own hands with a mirror. It's funny the OCD/Addictive behaviors that pop up, now that my old buddy "food" has been replaced. Seriously, shopping, realty TV you name it stuff is scaring me. One of the biggest reasons I have been MIA around here, staying up till 4 am on VST was getting out of hand. Just needed to rant

I didn't name my sleeve but I named the part of the stomach that they cut out.
I called him "fat bastard" and kicked him to the curb....

< that is the wacko

Sorry, that was supposed to be Those are funny remarks and isn't it amazing that kids say stuff like that?
:wacko:Maybe I am getting old....

fat tummy?!?!?! Not as fluffy?!?!?!? Those is funny and amazing that kids say that.
Doesn't it make you feel good and make you laugh when they say stuff like that?

Awwww, from the mouths of babes!! My four year old asked me where my fat tummy went? Lmao!!!

While I was driving my daughter to school today, she was being a bit weird and became silent. I asked her what was wrong and she said, " Ok, I am just gonna say it. You look weird to me".
I asked her what she meant by that and she replied, "I am used to seeing my big, fat, old, cheery mom and not this skinnier old cheery mom."
So, I instantly retorted that I was not old, just old-ER than her. I also thanked her for the compliment on my weight loss and reminded her that I was still the same cheery person.
She said it was gonna take some time to get used to seeing me shrink.
HAHAHA!
That made my day and I hope it lasts all week.

I don't know whether or not to take it as a compliment or not when my youngest hugs me and says "Mom you're not a fluffy as you used to be". He is at that "truthful age", so I just accept the hug and I don't question it

I don't know whether or not to take it as a compliment or not when my youngest hugs me and says "Mom you're not a fluffy as you used to be". He is at that "truthful age", so I just accept the hug and I don't question it

Well wishes to you, I hope things run smoothly and expeditiously.

I think that a lot of people come here and read stories like yours!!
What I mean is, SOME new people come here and are naturally drawn to the "success" stories over the "regular" old people just here losing weight a a "slower" pace..
I saw your thread the other day, about losing 120 pounds in 7 months and almost at goal! (Still waiting for pics ) well that's exciting to newbies!
They don't chime In on any of the threads where We are talking about the all to true reality of losing 60 or less in 6 months. Or if the do they say things like "omg this is scaring me" or "what are you doing wrong" But for the most part they see those and think well "hopefully that won't happen to me" and keep on moving until they see the headline "I lost 140 pounds in 6 months!!! Now that's exciting?
We all now this is a "journey" but I also think we all secretly wish that we were miracle losers..

It is a miracle to me.... I mean with living with PCOS, it was a miracle that the scale moved even half a lb. I am TOTALLY happy with any results I get.

I understand it. Especially in the earlier days, when it's harder to just drink liquids and the surgery is so "fresh." I feel like the surgery was drastic, the results should be drastic. I know better...I took a year to lose 85 lbs with the band. It's also a bit about the worry, too. Worry that this won't work, worry that I'll stay hungry even after moving to solid foods, etc. So looking at the numbers on the scales is a way to offset some of that worry and the more they move, the more comforting.
I've been frustrated that the scales haven't moved since I've been home. I'm going to try to let go of that today and remember that they ARE DOWN from pre-op. I don't know what I weighed on my home scales before leaving, but they're down at least 5-10 lbs (in about 2 weeks). So I need to remind myself that I AM happy with that, I'm HAPPY that I'm wearing some blue jeans that I wouldn't wear before the surgery, etc.
Being unhappy just makes me want to eat more. So I have to focus on the NSVs of recovery, those jeans, etc.
So I don't think it's negativity at all...I think it's worry and frustration..just plain ol' being SCARED.

Please don't leave, we need more realistic folks in here! I do think that a lot of people think this is a magic bullet. Its not. At all. It's one of the hardest things I've ever done but the best thing I have done for my health and would do it again in a New York minute! I just commented the other day on poster who is considering the sleeve and she cited some examples on how she is in the mindset that losing 100 pounds in 14 months is minimal. All the examples she gave the loss was on average over 7 pounds per month! I commented that 7 pounds per month on average is ANYTHING but minimal! She disagreed with me and insisted that to her it is. A few do manage to lose 200 pounds in a year but those are usually very high BMI people. I do believe she will be let down if she "only" loses 75 pounds in 6 months. I would be dancing on the table for that!
Of course my favorite one was a poster who was about 7 months out or so and had not lost any weight in several months and was wondering why her sleeve was not working. Only being about 5 weeks out at the time didn't give me a lot of experience to draw from but I asked if she was following the the NUT eating plan? Was she working out? Drinking the necessary Water? Was she eating slider foods? Her reply was while she would love to be doing that, she had no self control and therefore was hungry all the time and following the NUT plan and working out was not a viable option. (I promise I am not making this up!) Wow. Just wow! What can you say to that?
We need to be patient, the weight didn't come on over night and it won't leave that way either. All I know is that at almost 12 weeks post op, I feel better, inside and out, I look better and I am so much healthier than I was pre surgery and even though I am only half way there, I know it will come off, it has no choice as long as I follow the plan. It's worth waiting for and celebrating the accomplishments along the way!

I am glad things are progressing, get your sleeve so you could join us here on the loser's bench. I am sorry if I came a lil too brash with my initial comment I have a days .

Truth can be hard sometimes, you did not gain weight due to been in " starvation mode" you gain weight due to eating too much of the wrong food, think slider food . If you are not truthful to yourself not even sleeve will help you. Good luck

Well I already know that when the weight comes off I will look the cover of Nat. Geo. lol but I am worried because I am only a DD and dont want to lose to girl

Maybe by someone......
Muahahaha!!!

We need to start a VST members most embarrassing moment thread.

I would pay the five bucks to see the hottie transformations..don't tell my boyfriend though.

I find the option that someone else should spend their time and money on something in order for me, an anonymous nobody as far as the site owner is concerned, to have 'support' quite baffling.
I don't come here for support, initially I came here for information and research. Then I stayed for learnings. I recently returned out of curiosity and as I am nearing the one year point and expanding my workouts more and more I have an increased need for new info. But support? No. I don't expect that and I certainly don't consider it an entitlement, particularly at someone else's expense.
I am happy to put up with ads in exchange for my information needs. I have never even been aware of a chat feature, or an IM feature, as I have zero need for it. If I did have a need, such as the support needs others expressed, then I consider that it would be fair to pay for that service.

I may need to go take a swig of my liquid Lortab.

Facebook is a very different business model with a much broader audience. It makes billions off of games & advertisement. Not to mention all of your information that is sold by Facebook. I'd really hate to see this turn into anything that remotely resembles Facebook.