When I had my lap band I was alone too my husband was a total jerk !!!! But it was my choice as a person I wasn't happy with myself and he had a lot to do with it . But as time went on he got used to it . This year I had complications with my band I had it removed and graduated to a sleeve but my mom and sister have been great the first couple of days I would say 3/4 you will need someone to help u after that u are fine , at least I was because I had no help at night to get up to use the restroom he was nocked out and I am a lil hard A.. So I just did myself I'm 4 days out and I'm walking around have my meds right next to me I get up on my own , I showered the next day , make sure u have a microwave to heat your soups and teas or etc . You just got to motivate yourself he is being selfish and worried a lil but they have to support us in our life's journey as well them ! Hang in there u will be just fine keep your head up hope your friend is right there with u at least a week for whatever u need ????good luck