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Thanks ladies. Turns out, I was worried about nothing. I'm still not 100% comfortable with myself like I was before but he didn't burn out his eyes with a red hot fire poker after gazing upon my nekkidness so it's all good.

As someone who tried very hard to force it for 35 years and feeling "less than" because of my "lack of faith" I couldn't agree more. I do not consider myself an atheist there may or may not be a higher power.... but I will never EVER again allow a religion dictate to me how I should feel, believe, act or treat others.
There are some studies that suggest that belief in God is genetic. I think there might be something to it.. and that would definitely explain why I struggled so much with religion despite participating in all the indoctrination and genuinely wanting to believe it.

Thanks ladies. Turns out, I was worried about nothing. I'm still not 100% comfortable with myself like I was before but he didn't burn out his eyes with a red hot fire poker after gazing upon my nekkidness so it's all good.

I'm six months out and yes it's a struggle even this early on, but for the first time in my life it's MANAGEABLE. I had gotten up to 360 pounds and managed to lose 20 and just stayed there even when I was putting in effort. I don't MIND making effort to lose weight as long as I don't feel like it's insurmountable. Having the surgery didn't make things easy for me.. but it did make it less hard!

As someone who tried very hard to force it for 35 years and feeling "less than" because of my "lack of faith" I couldn't agree more. I do not consider myself an atheist there may or may not be a higher power.... but I will never EVER again allow a religion dictate to me how I should feel, believe, act or treat others.
There are some studies that suggest that belief in God is genetic. I think there might be something to it.. and that would definitely explain why I struggled so much with religion despite participating in all the indoctrination and genuinely wanting to believe it.

I'm six months out and yes it's a struggle even this early on, but for the first time in my life it's MANAGEABLE. I had gotten up to 360 pounds and managed to lose 20 and just stayed there even when I was putting in effort. I don't MIND making effort to lose weight as long as I don't feel like it's insurmountable. Having the surgery didn't make things easy for me.. but it did make it less hard!

I'm six months out and yes it's a struggle even this early on, but for the first time in my life it's MANAGEABLE. I had gotten up to 360 pounds and managed to lose 20 and just stayed there even when I was putting in effort. I don't MIND making effort to lose weight as long as I don't feel like it's insurmountable. Having the surgery didn't make things easy for me.. but it did make it less hard!

I'm six months out and yes it's a struggle even this early on, but for the first time in my life it's MANAGEABLE. I had gotten up to 360 pounds and managed to lose 20 and just stayed there even when I was putting in effort. I don't MIND making effort to lose weight as long as I don't feel like it's insurmountable. Having the surgery didn't make things easy for me.. but it did make it less hard!

I'm six months out and yes it's a struggle even this early on, but for the first time in my life it's MANAGEABLE. I had gotten up to 360 pounds and managed to lose 20 and just stayed there even when I was putting in effort. I don't MIND making effort to lose weight as long as I don't feel like it's insurmountable. Having the surgery didn't make things easy for me.. but it did make it less hard!

I'm six months out and yes it's a struggle even this early on, but for the first time in my life it's MANAGEABLE. I had gotten up to 360 pounds and managed to lose 20 and just stayed there even when I was putting in effort. I don't MIND making effort to lose weight as long as I don't feel like it's insurmountable. Having the surgery didn't make things easy for me.. but it did make it less hard!

I'm six months out and yes it's a struggle even this early on, but for the first time in my life it's MANAGEABLE. I had gotten up to 360 pounds and managed to lose 20 and just stayed there even when I was putting in effort. I don't MIND making effort to lose weight as long as I don't feel like it's insurmountable. Having the surgery didn't make things easy for me.. but it did make it less hard!

I'm six months out and yes it's a struggle even this early on, but for the first time in my life it's MANAGEABLE. I had gotten up to 360 pounds and managed to lose 20 and just stayed there even when I was putting in effort. I don't MIND making effort to lose weight as long as I don't feel like it's insurmountable. Having the surgery didn't make things easy for me.. but it did make it less hard!

If I'm doing very low carb I do regular cheese.. if I'm eating more carbs then I cut a bit of calories by selecting a cheese with less fat... full fat cheese is very calorie dense and even with the sleeve you can rack up a lot of calories from cheese if you're not careful.

That looks sooooo yummy! My sleeve LOVES Desi food... I cook something from the region at least weekly!

Thanks ladies. Turns out, I was worried about nothing. I'm still not 100% comfortable with myself like I was before but he didn't burn out his eyes with a red hot fire poker after gazing upon my nekkidness so it's all good.

My doctor told me as soon as I wanted it.. but that I should bear in mind that I shouldn't lift anything heavier than 15 pounds... I spent far too long speculating exactly WHAT type of sex he though I'd be having where I was lifting more than 15 pounds.... Anyway I resumed my activity after 2 weeks.. but that was just because I didn't return home to my bf until two weeks after surgery because I was staying with my sister.... If he had been around.. I would have felt great to resume relations after three or four days.

My doctor told me as soon as I wanted it.. but that I should bear in mind that I shouldn't lift anything heavier than 15 pounds... I spent far too long speculating exactly WHAT type of sex he though I'd be having where I was lifting more than 15 pounds.... Anyway I resumed my activity after 2 weeks.. but that was just because I didn't return home to my bf until two weeks after surgery because I was staying with my sister.... If he had been around.. I would have felt great to resume relations after three or four days.

Thanks ladies. Turns out, I was worried about nothing. I'm still not 100% comfortable with myself like I was before but he didn't burn out his eyes with a red hot fire poker after gazing upon my nekkidness so it's all good.

Thanks ladies. Turns out, I was worried about nothing. I'm still not 100% comfortable with myself like I was before but he didn't burn out his eyes with a red hot fire poker after gazing upon my nekkidness so it's all good.

Thanks ladies. Turns out, I was worried about nothing. I'm still not 100% comfortable with myself like I was before but he didn't burn out his eyes with a red hot fire poker after gazing upon my nekkidness so it's all good.

I am going through the same thing. Granted, I've been with my partner going on 7 years...but it's not the same. At 250lbs, I was like you, lights on nothing held back. I was so confident and proud. And now....I can't even stand the sight of my body in the mirror. I feel like a shrivled piece of fruit
I often think I wouldn't be able to be with anyone else. If her and I split up, I don't know that I would let anyone see me... but the fact is, they need to love ALL of me for me... not just me with clothes on!!
i'm proud of the new me and love me.. and you should be proud too! Let it all out girl!!!

WOO HOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO! I'm so happy for you! I celebrated for like a week when I finally made it under 300!Fantastic job!

the worst is from one of my customers, an old Korean lady.."oh, you lose weight, you not so fat like before.. before you was SOOOOOOOOOOO FAAAAAAAT" (complete with hand gestures to illustrate exactly how fat I was.
The best was from my Aunt who is extremely weight conscious. I figured she wouldn't even say anything since I'm still 244 pounds which is unthinkable in her book.. But she absolutely gushed about how great I look and she said that if I continued to lose weight that would be great, but even if I never lost another pound I look fantastic.. then I proceeded to get phone calls from my cousins who called me because my aunt had gone straight home and called them and gushed about how "thin" I was and how great I looked.

I still adore EVERYTHING about food... eating it, smelling it, cooking it, shopping for it... Oh Glorious FOOD!
I watch food porn almost daily.. heck, on the plane ride home from my surgery, I watched food porn... the really seedy kind (diners drive thrus and dives)When I got back, I stayed with my sister to "recuperate" and I couldn't keep myself from doing all the cooking for her and her family.. even though I was on shakes only.
The only thing that I struggle with is making bread. I can not eat wheat products (not related to the sleeve, I found out a few months prior to the sleeve that I had this problem) and it SUCKS to have the smell of fresh bread which I know I can NEVER eat. grrrrrr. I was fine when I couldn't eat the food and I knew it was just temporary until my tummy healed.. and I was fine when I'm just low carbing it and there are foods I CHOOSE not to eat... but the BREAD drives me nutty because it's something I CAN'T have at all.

Interesting topic. I am newly out of a relationship since being sleeved and YES I had settled for this man.. I don't know that it was because of my weight or just my situation in general that allowed me to feel so beaten down that I would settle..As for dating, YES dating is different.. and I'm still fat at 244 pounds! I just started dating someone new and it's rather unnerving because I know he wouldn't have been interested in me at 360 pounds, and I'm having a hard time wrapping my head around the fact that he's so interested in me at 244 pounds because he's NOT a chubby chaser. He's also ridiculously good looking, financially solvent, no kids, a former elite athlete who still keeps in good shape, and he's 7 years younger than me...YES, I do feel he's way out of my league.. I posted in the powder room about how we haven't "done the deed" because I am having a hard time being comfortable enough with my body to allow that to happen. Which is TOTALLY new to me.. When I was 360 pounds, I was not shy about my body at all... and now all I can think is he's going to get one look at my flabby pannus and saggy granny titties and bolt!