LizTex2587

Walking on Sunshine-Katrina and The Waves

I'm single and worried also about a man seeing pics of me heavy and being turned off. I don't have have a man and have no idea on how to get one but I guess it could happen. Anyway I've been so focused on being a mom to m my son that I've spent the last 16 years just staying home and doing stuff with him. Well he is out and about now doing 16 year old boy stuff so that leaves me alone. I've never been lonely. I talked to other single moms that say they are lonely and can't believe that I just stayed home and didn't care about having a man in my life. Well now that my son is older I totally get what they mean about being lonely. Now that I'm thinner and have way more confidence I'm always wanting to go places the problem is is that I don't have anyone to go with. My girl friends are all married with kids. My single friends want to hang at bars and I don't. I have no idea how to find a man. So although I love my new body I for the first time ever am lonely.

I prepared myself for rejection...but that doesn't mean it didn't feel like I was taking a bullet. However, to the person who really cares, it won't be that big of an issue. There may still be some things to work through in regards to how heavy I used to be, but the same could be said of any issue regarding my past. I shared my experience because I don't want to see anyone lose their confidence over something like this...Do not be ashamed of what used to be...you have changed it!

I am sorry you had to deal with the ass end of my gender. I've recently had to deal with an issue myself and it is quite difficult sometimes to understand why people do the things they do. My girl of 10 years left me last month for someone else. She told me I had changed to much. She told me I look and feel different and she wanted to move on. For the last 3 weeks I have felt so guilty for losing 110 pounds. I have felt so ashamed for changing myself because that's the reason she left me. Because I changed for the good. I do things now that I thought I never could. I wanted to grow old with her. I know it sounds corny but I didn't expect this from surgery. I knew some things would change but I never imagined it would be this. Even other people such as co-workers, family and even some friends treat me differently. Almost as if I was invisible before and now all of a sudden they want my company. It is heavy on my heart that people are this way. But you know what, I do me. I have learned that I need to focus on myself and I have done that. Despite the issues at hand I work 2 jobs, work out twice a day and just stay positive. Thank goodness for my dog Oreo Thanks for sharing your post. It's always easier to talk to someone about something when they have to deal with BS as well. Good day to you.

I'm appalled at what has happened to you! I mean, it was tough enough taking this from someone that I didn't really know...but to be treated like that by someone you were with for 10 years? I can't even imagine...Better things await you, my friend. Just you wait and see!

He doesn't deserve you or one precious drop of Water from your eyes. Superficiality is not a trait that anyone needs in a long term relationship. Congratulations on a great weight loss over the months and a massive one today!

Thank you!! No, I have not shed a tear over this...if more emotions had been involved, then maybe...but at this point I just want him to be ashamed of himself!!!

Alright my fellow Singletons...Ya know that thing we all dread? Just happened to me....about an hour ago...Now I have only talked to this guy for two weeks or so (so it's not like heavy emotions were involved) and he made the comment that this one girl wouldn't leave him alone and when I asked what was wrong with her, he said it was that she was too big. Like 280 pounds....I asked him "Would you totally freak out if I told you I used to be that big?" and he said "No, "used to be" is used to be." I should have known this was too good to be true. Today, he saw some pictures of me when I was at my heaviest and he FREAKED OUT! He even told me "I'm freaking out, you were really large." and I told him "If you can't handle it, I understand, but you had better let me know becuase there are plenty of people that can handle it." well...we went back and forth and I was (admittedly) a little on the defensive... he asked me "How big are you now?" and I told him I was 208 lbs (77 lbs down in 4 months *woot* *woot*) and what my goal weight was and all this stuff but I just felt like he was patronizing me at this point. It was humiliating, and I have to tell you, it made me HOPPIN' MAD! I could chew ten-penny nails right now. I told him I was done with the conversation and he said "I think someone is being a little oversensetive." and I told him "well, I told you before that I had issues with this type of thing, so how do you think I should act?" and the HE said "I don't know, maybe I should just quit talking to you because I don't want to keep hurting your feelings." A real peach isn't he? I told him "No, don't you use my feelings as a scapegoat. If you can't handle how big I was, then you tell me the truth!" (like seriously...grow some balls) well he didn't say anything and I said "nevermind...whatever makes you feel better", and that was the end of it.

Listen, I am a very emotional person and I am totally a cryer. But even though my feelings were hurt, the biggest thing I feel is anger! I went back to my Facebook and almost deleted every fat picture of me I could find...but then I stopped...there are memories in those pictures, and even though I was very large, I still love myself...I love myself NOW and I love myself THEN too! That large person is a part of what made me who I am. I know it sounds silly, but to someone that really cares, it won't matter all that much!

This is just my little testimonial...Y'all, if I can survive that, ANYONE can! So if anything like this ever happens to you, DO NOT LET SOMEONE MAKE YOU FEEL BAD ABOUT YOURSELF!!

Alright my fellow Singletons...Ya know that thing we all dread? Just happened to me....about an hour ago...Now I have only talked to this guy for two weeks or so (so it's not like heavy emotions were involved) and he made the comment that this one girl wouldn't leave him alone and when I asked what was wrong with her, he said it was that she was too big. Like 280 pounds....I asked him "Would you totally freak out if I told you I used to be that big?" and he said "No, "used to be" is used to be." I should have known this was too good to be true. Today, he saw some pictures of me when I was at my heaviest and he FREAKED OUT! He even told me "I'm freaking out, you were really large." and I told him "If you can't handle it, I understand, but you had better let me know becuase there are plenty of people that can handle it." well...we went back and forth and I was (admittedly) a little on the defensive... he asked me "How big are you now?" and I told him I was 208 lbs (77 lbs down in 4 months *woot* *woot*) and what my goal weight was and all this stuff but I just felt like he was patronizing me at this point. It was humiliating, and I have to tell you, it made me HOPPIN' MAD! I could chew ten-penny nails right now. I told him I was done with the conversation and he said "I think someone is being a little oversensetive." and I told him "well, I told you before that I had issues with this type of thing, so how do you think I should act?" and the HE said "I don't know, maybe I should just quit talking to you because I don't want to keep hurting your feelings." A real peach isn't he? I told him "No, don't you use my feelings as a scapegoat. If you can't handle how big I was, then you tell me the truth!" (like seriously...grow some balls) well he didn't say anything and I said "nevermind...whatever makes you feel better", and that was the end of it.

Listen, I am a very emotional person and I am totally a cryer. But even though my feelings were hurt, the biggest thing I feel is anger! I went back to my Facebook and almost deleted every fat picture of me I could find...but then I stopped...there are memories in those pictures, and even though I was very large, I still love myself...I love myself NOW and I love myself THEN too! That large person is a part of what made me who I am. I know it sounds silly, but to someone that really cares, it won't matter all that much!

This is just my little testimonial...Y'all, if I can survive that, ANYONE can! So if anything like this ever happens to you, DO NOT LET SOMEONE MAKE YOU FEEL BAD ABOUT YOURSELF!!

I am the same!!! My surgery day was the 14th and as of this morning I was 266

Same sizes too. Yay

Keep up the good work

Great job!! it's wonderful to hear everyone's success stories so far! I have been absent for a while and I havn't been able to keep up, but it looks like everyone is doing really well!

Howdy all you February sleevers! How's everyone doing so far?

I'm doing pretty well myself! I was sleeved on the 18th of February and so far I've lost 62 pounds...I'm probably not exercising as much as I should, I just don't have the time between the two jobs that keep me working 50 to 70 hours any given week! Any tips on exercise that works for all of you? would love to hear them! I'm happy for all of us!! From what I've seen, everyone is doing very well! Keep up the good work!

Haha! I'm a little slow to catch on. I was thinking that hot yoga must be some sort of erotic twist on regular yoga. i was gonna try it out. But now I see that it's yoga done in a hot room. Forget that! I'm in TX. Pretty soon it will be 120 standing in my driveway.

I'm a dork

Good morning! I am on my last week of liquids! I have had my refried Beans and mashed potatos already! Trust me' date=' I understand. Hang in there, we will make it! [/quote']

I hear ya! I have my first follow up Wednesday, and I'm ready to eat some stinkin food!

I'm at 8 days

I have not had any issues with vomiting since I've been sleeved, but last night I was trying to spit up some mucus and my stomach automatically just heaved once. It...hurt... well since then, I have had a dull aching pain throughout my stomach. I'm hoping I just strained the stomach muscles or something. Anyone else had a similar experience?

I was sleeved on the 18th and so far I've been doing alright. I have had some stomach pain, and the gas pains that I get in there every not and then are sharp and painful, but they pass very quickly. My biggest problem and what has made me miserable is that I have Fluid on my lungs from the anesthesia and it makes it very hard to take full breaths. Also, I don't know if it's still gas from the surgery, when I inhale my left shoulder feels like it's being stabbed. I'm soooo tired of only being able to sleep on my back. I've always been a side and stomach sleeper, so the only sleeping on my back combined with an arthritic condition that I have are murder!! Ok.....I'm done with my pity party now! I hope next week is better, and hope all of you are doing well!

Yeah. And I'm on the depo shot so it shouldn't even be an issue!! Though my periods have never been normal. Grrrrrrr' date=' the annoyance of a uterus sometimes.[/quote']

How long have you been taking the depo? I used to work at a family planning clinic (not planned parenthood), and the depo would often cause some women to have very heavy periods for a few months before it would regulate. I would still get your depo every 90 days, but use an alternate means of protection. The surgery is a shock to the system and sometimes depoprovera is moody!

I started my insanely heavy flow while on the operating table.... And it still hasn't stopped at over 1 wk out.

that's crazy! I'm very sorry that happened to you!

Did you hear back from the surgeon then? Maybe you need to go to er?

No, I haven't heard from him yet. I have already talked to him once about this because I was worried that with the fever I had a leak, and that's when he told me about the liquid on the lungs from anesthesia, but the next day it was FAR worse. However, today was better even though I am still having some trouble breathing. If I start to spike a fever again and feel like I can't breathe at all, then I will probably go to the er.

has anyone bought any good blenders like the bullet or the ninja? want to buy one' date=' but just wanted to get some reviews first![/quote']

I just bought a general electric one from Walmart that's the same thing....works just as well, and was cheaper.

I'm so sorry your ill Liz

Thanks Tstorm...this has been the worst part....not even the food thing has been as bad as the no breathing thing! Hoping next week is better..

Every doc has different guidelines, but mine doesn't recommend that you ever drink fruit juice or eat much fruit and veggies when you move to regular foods...I guess it has something to do with the strength of the enzymes in the juice that can act as an irritant. Like i said, every doc is different, so yours may not have any such guidelines.

I like to drink Wyler's Light peach tea drink mix...and then I also like to drink warm spearmint tea with splenda!

What exactly is a stricture? Did they say what caused it?

Hello all- I finally had my surgery yesterday morning. So far so good. No real pain. I ask for my pain meds every 3-4 hrs. I had my drink test this morning. The tsste really made a litgle nauseous. I do feel better now.

I'm glad you aren't having pain like I did! Felt like there was an elephant on my chest!

In the hospitalthey brought me a tray that had tea' date=' Jello,[/quote']

Crap...they brought me a tray with tea, Jello, broth, and either a popsicle or a fruit sorbet. To be honest, I didn't buy a whole lot before hand. I just made sure I had my Protein supplement and I get in 8 ounces everyday, besides that I have been drinking Water, tea, and eating Popsicles.

Im trying to calm myself down lol. Im so worried i wont have anything ready for when i come home. I have a cabinent full of cream Soups and a fridge full of Jello and yogurt. i dont know what i should have Right after i get out of surgery tho.

In the hospitalthey brought me a tray that had tea, Jello,

I'm getting Sleeved Monday the 25th.. its my first surgery and im starting to get nervous

It will be over and done with before you know it! it was my second surgery, but I still got really scared. I finally started to calm down when they put my IV in, and the bartender gave me my cocktail! Lol. Just know that there will be pain and discomfort afterward due to the gas that they pump you up with, but it does get better each day. Just do the breathing the want you to do, and walk as much as possible. That will help get the gas out! You will be just fine! These folks do it over and over again everyday so you can rest assured they know what their doing.