RJ'S/beginning

I left a lot out...He was with me when I saw the surgeon each time...He came with me when I had my leak and stayed day and night when I was in the coma...He was not there when I woke up 19 days later he cried so much because of that..he not only stayed with me but he started this little routine that he did every day ..Like brush my hair, make sure I had BO juice on...Cream me up and make sure my lips did not dry out..things like that. He even read me Moby d**k which I had read before, but it entertained me..He took 2 months off because he thought he was going to lose his mind ..But in Dec. he went back to work and for 4 more months he drove almost everyday 1.5 hours to see me even in snow storms....Go home and cook his dinner. work on a much needed project..I needed a new bathtub so he did the entire bathroom over. Looked after the dogs...keep the house in order.( man order ). Paid the bills. Talked to staff when things were not good.Talked and kept in contact with surgeon... even in snow storms he came and was there and we cried together many many times.....He was so tender and caring it was unreal....when I got home finally..He bathed me. washed my hair. cooked for me and dressed me. He did it all..He walked with me and went to the Doctors for me.... He did that for another 5 months almost...Even today he watches me and looks out for me...He went way out of the ordinary for me..The staff at the hospital said they never saw anything like it in their entire careers ....That says a lot.......... Brought me my first tea at the end of March which the nurse said I could try and I nearly died it was so bitter...He made sure I had TV which is very expensive to rent here weekly and he even rounded up a couple of friends, drove to their houses, picked them up and brought them to see me...1 lived 45 minutes from our house So many things he did so I would feel his love and feel safe...because i was scared to death.......

The thigh high boots are iffy at best...lol....A leather jacket can be added to that list...I love them..i have 4 right now...would like to have every color possible.......I feel so thin in them....hehehehehe

My hubby has always liked me in hats...And right now it is a fashion trend to wear them....I have gotten several now and wear them out when ever I go anywhere.... He smiles and smiles when I wear them now and so I just purchased 3 more.........They are felt and cool!!!!!!!! What is next I wonder... My daughter tells me that I have a plan of how I want to look when this is over whether or not I know what it is..And so I am slowly working towards it.................I wonder who she will be at the end of the weight loss... I can't wait until she completely emerges....Ready or not here she comes......hehehehe

The only time my hubby was not with me was in the operating room and my seminar...the rest of the time he has been there through it all..Every step of the way...I feel like it has been his journey as well and he needs to see the work that goes into it...he has watched and laughed and cried with me through this entire ride.... I would not have had it any other way!!!!

I know exactly what you mean and so do a lot of people on this forum....I was terrified up until I was called..then I did a complete turn around and could not wait..Sorta had this euphoria about it.. I think what you feel is normal and most people feel apprehensive right up until they put you out for the procedure. you have to ride it through, think if you can do it one more time on your own..Think of your health and what the future may hold if you do this or you don't... All the best...keep us posted..K

i actually don't have a stent. if it doesn't heal by nj tube, stent or surgery would be the next step. i'm kinda interested in the clamps, not sure if he would do it, i would have to probably be sent to a specialist in canada. No! So the next step would be a stent. Trust me they would not have to send you to Canada for that..They are well equipped in US for that.....

There are 2 options actually 3...He can add another stent on top of the one you have or try clamps or connect the bowel to your sleeve.....If it has not healed those are the possible options...At least they were for me..... Sounds like you are in pretty good spirits anyway...i hope all the best for a speedy recovery what ever option is next.....

your right...........I had to work at it really hard..I almost died!!!!!!!!!!

Can't imagine why? lol

congrats!!!!!!!!!!!! Soon you will be a loser like the rest of us..Man I never get tired of saying that!!!!!!!lol

So this afternoon i got my flu shot..The lady who gave it to me has known me for years as does everyone else that works at that pharmacy...I just rolled up my sleeve and she saw the deep tissue bruising that is still there since surgery... She looked at me and said well aren't you going to tell me what happened to you...I said no not really...she said whatever you say I cannot pass it on I would lose my job... I said okay then.................and then it spilled out!! she asked me how much I lost so far and I told her and she said dam girl I am bigger then you....I am so happy for you................. this one is going to be hard though she said because it is so wonderful that I have lost that much....I said well I did not do it the right way totally....then she said, I suppose you would not do it again then.....................And I said hell yes I would!!!!!!!!! All over again if I had to!!!!!!! And that's the truth of the matter.......

I was thinking black leather jacket and high boots too....ye haw!!!!!!!!!!!

I showed them to him and he said you little vixen!!!!!!!!!! what does that mean....lol

Ladies...do i seem like the type that would have a naughty list or do something on purpose to give the old boy a heart attack!!!!!!!!! not me...not me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!lol

A hot bath may help...and walking..this happened to me and I actually had to take some meds for a while...I am off them now and hoping it doesn't come back!!!!!!!!!!!

Knock em dead hun!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Okay so today I went shopping and bought a pair of pure white jeans...size 10-11...my hubby is going to faint...I am not ready to wear them but after plastics maybe I can...........He has always wanted to see me in a pair of them....One of our first dates I was in a pair of white pants and he still brings it up to this day..................Am i doing this for him or for me......hehehehehehehe

She so wants your continued company............not good!!! you are you and she is she......Your doing the right thing for you to just stay away.......As you progress she may try other things as well...Keep on guard, always!!!!!!!!

Over a year out and still having trouble with beef, pork, white meat in poultry and can't eat canned tuna...Feels like led hit my stomach...After that they make a return trip for which they came....yuck!!!!!

There are millions of marriages out there that lived like you with your first....Then they look for someone else who fills that void and a lot of the time they run right into Mr wrong! It will take some time for you to figure out what you need in this case. You will know what to do when the time comes!!! you have to find the strength within yourself...Your children and you are counting on it.....K

You did not fail the diets, the diets failed you!!!!!!! Once you are learning how to eat to live you will find that a red light moment will come into your head and you will think why didn't I know that......... We are so seduced by what we see, commercials, magazines, even big business to see that food is the surrounding of our true happiness...that has led to a world wide epidemic of over weight nations..... I have learned so much through my journey so far and you will too.... you have all of us here to help you along and listen to your concerns.... Some may come off strong but that is because they care and are really trying to help you..Some will be gently and coax you a long.. But here we all want the same thing...to be healthy and happy and leave the excess weight behind.... Feel free to ask or talk about whatever you need to.... Congrats on your journey so far...I'm rooting for you!!!!!!!!

I put my fork down after each bite and cross my arms..it seems to have slowed me down some...Although sometimes my hubby thinks I'm about to yell at him...hahahahaha

No one can tell you what to do in this situation...Every one has an idea what they would do but this is your life hun....you are living it with your children and yourself and what would be best for them and you.. It is okay to tell your story and we can feel your pain...But we are not there......like McButterpants said, what would you tell a friend who confided that in you? hugs

Congrats on the lost. Sorry for your problems. Do you regret the surgery? After reading so many complications, I'm seriously having doubts. I'm scared. NO I don't regret anything that happened..Some of it was an eye opener but I am much more healthier then I was before this surgery...I considered myself the walking dead and a burden on my family..It has been a slow recovery but they are having trouble keeping up with me now....It will be a hoot to see what they do when I totally recover...lol I am glad I did it...............

you already have a lot on your plate and going to add to it...All the best to you as you continue this journey and all your others as well...