RJ'S/beginning

I was ill for so long and now I feel better then I did before surgery..But you know what I really began to think that it would never ever happen....I still struggle but the benefits of time and experience with this new sleeve is paying off big time...........I want to look back and see how far I have come.... It is going to get like an old hat soon and then it will become automatic and then life will really start to change...You will emerge!!! The real you..So hold on it is going to be a bumpy but satisfying ride.......

Everyone vomits now and then right...But I am pretty sure you are safe as long as it does not happen continually....At first we all have that problem. But as we go on like where you are...It happens because of not feeling well......Prolonged vomiting..I would check into.....not if I am sick or have the flu that is for sure.... If you still feel that way..Take a Gravol and it should help the feeling of nausea....K

I like your way of dealing.....You went on no matter what and did not let them destroy who was really inside...I admire that! Nothing wrong with being a " strong personality " That is probably what kept you going and keeping you strong through out your times of problems in your life..... I am one of those people who have the ability to feel what is going on around me..To be able to look at a person and know if they are happy or not....Hell if I let myself I can tell if they had sex the night before...It is awful...Sometimes I just want to put blinders on.....I learned to be that way to protect myself as a child..To know what the mood was at home before it exploded in my face..... Sometimes I just never looked and like you refused to think about it..But as time went on I could no longer do that....It was so painful! I have made changes as well....Some good some not as I am more cautious about people then I used to be and I hold back more then I used to. I no longer entertain people when I am at the doctors office and engage everyone in laughter to hide behind it like I used to.... Now it is so boring when I go to appointments..But you know what?! I now decide when I want to entertain..not because I am trying to hide behind it.... The new me does not see it as a necessary thing to do anymore! I like your attitude!!!!!!!!!!!!!

What ever your reasons for your thread are okay with me...Honesty helps us to deal with all the stuff we have gone through and will go through with this journey...Unless you are up front and personal you cannot heal..So many on this forum know where you have been and are scarred by their past and it will affect them always..But!!!!!! They are strong enough to change all that, open themselves up and move forward...I see that strength in you. Honesty and courage to change.... I think you got this, no matter what happens!!!!!!!!!!! thank you for your kind words concerning my journey...Soon we will be on it together, just in different places

I am blown away by your honesty in this thread...There are a lot of things that you say that I could have been your double in...All the things that have happened to you happened to me just about! I can now hug my grand daughter so close to me it is surreal....she was the last straw for me to get this done....I wanted to be here for her and love her as long as I can..To be there for her as long as I can ...And enjoy being her Nana for as long as I can............This was the deciding moment for me when I held her when she was 8 weeks old and fell madly in love with her.... Even though I was the walking dead it was this little light in my life that sealed the deal for me...............I love being her Nana!!!!

I do feel it has been worth it..I also have a lot of respect for the team that looked after me and cared for me...I will be going for plastics...But hubby is safe no matter what You are simpy amazing and encouraging RJ, some day when i grow up... just kidding! Your adorable!! And i probably am a lot older then you so watch it! You could grow up to be like me..It could be worse you know..I don't know how but it could be...

The sleeve is a tool that gives you the time to fix what was wrong in your head about food and why it means so much to you and why it got to the point that you needed to have it in the first place...The honeymoon period will not allow you to over eat or there will be trouble.... Hopefully like others you will take the time to really listen to yourself and how you react to things and the experiences you are going through...You will get excited as the lbs start falling off...the first part is not the whole journey....Asking questions getting help with the things that made you an emotional eater and learning how to retrain your brain is very rewarding... I know myself better now then ever before I have changed so much and it is due to this experience.....for me it has been frightening, scary, interesting, humbling, mind bending, crying, sobbing, sleepless nights , good times and bad times. All rolled into one....An adventure or journey to recreate the me that is inside.... Is it worth it.......OH yes it is........I would not change a thing really..It has taught me to have a lot of compassion for others and understand that I was not a lone all this time...There were others out there that were struggling with the same issues.. I read all information on all packaging and I eat healthier and actually enjoy it more......I keep it interesting and make sure I eat the very best..... You will find your way and you have us here to help any way we can.......... I can't even believe sometimes that this is me on this journey eating fish instead of Mc Donald's hamburgers and loving it.... I got a good report today so I'm a bit stoked.....I love my sleeve today and most other days as well...

I do feel it has been worth it..I also have a lot of respect for the team that looked after me and cared for me...I will be going for plastics...But hubby is safe no matter what

Saw my team today...Good news they are happy with my weight loss so far....All my Vitamins are normal in my body but was told once again to keep taking them forever....... I asked about plastics and my surgeon smiled at me..Said I needed a referral but that it would work out for me since I was soon going to be 18 months out....Holy mollie is that possible...No I am only 14 months out.... Anyway they said I should not lose much more because plastics is going to take some of the lbs off as well...5-15 lbs left they said.....What me no way!!!!!!!!!!!!! Got a lot of tips on food intake and what to eat and I love my nut..She is a doll!!!! Moderation is everything according to her and pop, even diet pop is the red flag of failed diets and WLS.....I thought that was interesting..... Just thought I would share!!!!!!

Try some G2 okay....mix it 1/2 and 1/2 with water and drink one a day..it will help with the electrolytes and keep you out of the ER for dehydration...K

It is very much the norm....I too had a leak and ended up in the hospital for 5 months with complications due to it....they first try to glue it and they will not let you take in any kind of food because it can infect the cleaned area..Has he got you on some antibiotics... The stent is painful...I had 1 for 6 weeks and it did not work and then they added another one on top of that one and I waited 6 more weeks and that did not work... Then they decided to use a clamp and see if they could close it that way...Nope they could not get the clamp down far enough to grab the leak... Eventually they gave me a combo by pass and sleeve where they sewed my intestine to my hole so that it would not leak anymore..... My situation was extreme..Most people heal easily with the stent....They will give you pain killers...It feels like you are full all the time and having indigestion pain all the time...It hurts....But they can give you nausea meds and pain killers to help you a long....just go with it...don't fight it...It needs to be fixed...k

Your doing fantastic!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Water intake is amazing.........I still struggle to get all mine in everyday...........Before I was sleeved I drank 3 liters every day maybe more...now if i get 60 ounces in I am shocked... I can drink it up too...fast and smooth...But I take small mouthfuls and don't guzzle.. Still not getting all my Protein in either...I am still working on that...I love veggies and so it gets in the way sometimes of the dense protein...Starting to drink a Protein Drink or bar every day so it is helping............. Your doing great better then some of us Vets...oops...me that is!!!!

Welcome!

Most people aim for 4 oz. But you are a man and you can probably handle that extra ounce...Dense Protein great..Not drinking while eating great.. Seems to me you are alright... You are not that far out so you are not at the stage where your sleeve has relaxed and you could eat more....Keep to the 5 ounces as much as possible.....Your doing great!!!!!!!!!!! Later on you can worry about eating too much

I hope your right Jean.....It makes me nervous!!!

My surgeon and the nut and nurse and psychiatrist..You know the ones that looked after me..I missed my last appointment because my well died and I had no Water for a few months... Here in Canada..these surgeons are very busy and if you miss an appointment it is difficult to get in to see them...They will follow me for 2 years..I have been there 2 times so far...... Tomorrow will make 3 times................

Tomorrow I go to see the team..have not seen them since early Spring...........I hope, hope and hope that they are happy with all the work I am doing..........I am sooooooooooo nervous!!!!!!

Losing my pants happened to me on my side walk outside my house...size 20 I think..Now in a 12-14... I have been getting pedicures lately..don't know why..just feel like it......lol

Everything FYE said ^, and RJ you too, definitely do not erase your feedback. This thread and your posts RJ, have brought forth some very tender and bruised knowledge that I guess I don't really focus on much/enough... I gave and gave, because I *knew* that the only way I could get people to "put up with" my existence was if I was useful to them somehow... and 130 pounds later, you know what, I'm still doing that... I am recognizing it now, and curtailing it when I can, but it is difficult, and saddens me because I do still feel that way... that if I say no or put myself first, that people will just drop me and move on... I have a strange narcissism too, I automatically think people laughing must be laughing at me, whispers are plots against me, when I get looked at in the gym it must be because I stick out in a bad way ... I understand with my logical brain that this is all untrue, but in my heart ... And you know what, I have been betrayed, a LOT. I think I picked bad people, I don't know why really, I can guess that maybe I actually picked them on purpose? So it hurt less when they inevitably hurt me? I don't know. I too have forgotten what daily life was like big, but I catch myself in behaviors that have no place in my life anymore, from simple things like turning over in bed very carefully because it used to take so much effort to do so, and even at the gym, having to remind myself to not automatically discount an exercise, to realize that I actually can do it... And maybe I'm carrying around some shame too, for having been so SO obese, how do I bring it up with someone I date? What happens when they eventually see old photos? I was with my last boyfriend for a year and we are still very close friends and I have never told him that I used to be obese or that I had surgery (my surgeon was so skilled that you can't even see my scars). I would have said automatically that of course I have changed tremendously between the ears but now, now I'm not so sure .... and I still am so fat... Thank you so much Globetrotter for your honesty regarding my post.....I am starting to feel more like a different person now I have almost forgotten what it was like to be morbidly obese ( hate that word ) anyway it is when I see pictures of myself that I cringe...Other wise it is all the loose skin that keeps me in check.... I don't think I will ever be totally cured of the give, give , give disease... I think that is part of our nature..I do like to help people I am a people person and want to be there for them..... I just need to find people who I don't allow into my heart for them to destroy me anymore...I have come a long way...I say no a lot more now and sometimes I take the time to really see how I feel about something before I plunge headlong into it..... I think the thing that was the most confusing for me was when I had the time to realize what these people were doing...It happened so slowly and painfully that it built up and built up until I almost busted up..... I am recovering..But like I said....It is still just under the surface and it is so painful that I cannot even talk about it without sobbing..... I am no longer interested in any of their friendships and have made that clear to all of them.....I wrote letters to the closest to me and I got a reply from only one who was condescending regarding my feelings so I wrote her again..This time I did not hide any details..It was good for me to do that so that they knew exactly where I stand! She never responded! I guess for me it was time to take out the trash and that is how I did it...That said it still hurts deep..Enough time has not passed for it not to hurt.... I must and you too find a new life and forgive ourselves for the self loathing we have for our own past.....Just like everyone else has the ability to go on..We need to too...We are heading in the right direction you and I because we have brought our feelings to light..wide open and the pain flows through....Fine this is me now.............but wait until the next me part of me comes out.....she might be a holy terror and so be it Thank you, thank you so much for your reply......I really needed to know I am not alone in this world with my loss of friends and family not because I'm an ax murderer but because I decided to change my life...........

Yesterday I spent the early morning getting ready to go visit my grand daughter and spend the day with her...On the way into traffic my hubby got a phone call..It was a friend of mine who needed a lift to the hospital..She was feeling very ill... She fell off her roof 3 weeks ago and would not go to the hospital even though we all begged a pleaded with her...Finally when I had other plans she calls for us to take her in.... What was I to do..I got out of the car and walked her into emgerg. I told my hubby to go without me that I would stay with her....So off he went to work and I stayed with her.... They finally got her situated in her room and I saw this girl I know very well. She is a nurse and walked right past me and did not even blink....I thought okay she does not know who I am......................... So I stood outside my friends door and stared at her with my arms crossed..I did it on purpose to off set her...She looked at me and then turned her head away....I moved closer to the station and crossed my arms again...I looked at her and she gave me a look that if it had worked I would have turned to ash right there and been no more...lol So I walked even closer to the station and yelled her name out...She slowly turned around and stared at me...I put my arms out and she said " Oh my god is that you." I smiled at her as she raced around the counter and threw herself into my arms....She squeezed me soooooo hard I thought she was going to dislocate my head off my body.......... She started to cry and laugh and cry again........She stared and hugged and stared at me and then she said you look wonderful..I smiled at her...She said you have an evil glint in your eyes...You are sooooooo devilish she said......I asked her to let me go and she said she couldn't, and that she was going to hold me forever.........So cute!!!!!!!!!!! She later talked to my daughter and she was so happy to see me and she felt I looked healthier then she had ever seen me before.... While my friend had several different tests we had lunch together and caught up on old times and she talked and talked..... It was one of the nicest experiences I have had yet!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I just wanted to share!!!! My friend..All tests negative..heavy bruising in her muscles.....ouch!

I took it years ago when I first started having trouble with digestion....Before and after meals.....It worked for a while but since I never changed any habits back then I soon moved on to more powerful medicine to control the pain.....ratz...... If I knew then what I know now eh!!!!!!!!!!

Personally..I admire your strength and attitude.....So many out there like you would benefit from your sound advice......I agree about getting angry and getting it done...anyway you can, is okay with me..... I was approved for WLS and that was me..There are millions out there that don't need it! And they move their own worlds into place...........Congratulations for finding the answer for you......You got this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You lashing out..............no never......not you...lol You are so right when you said the mental/emotional part is the hardest....I really believe that you are in good shape if you recognize that it will never be a walk in the park.... We have been in a war for so long our guard is up and we are waiting for any attack...Set backs, self sabotage, cravings, what ifs, self image and so on... We are so much better off though because we have started to see ourselves for who we are and who we can be...We are learning to eat healthier, be healthier, play healthier and live healthier. It won't come so easy for us because of the addictions and past struggles with food..... One day at a time...One week at a time...One month at a time....One year at a time.... We will never have the privilege to relax about this new life....Our tool depends on it! but it will get easier so I am told!! Waiting, waiting...no it won't...My newest thing is I can eat more then I used to and now I have to figure out the difference of being full to just satisfied....Dam it is always a learning curve............. I am so proud of you young lady.....Keep kicking its ass eh!!!!!!!!!!

Oh my goodness!!! 5 months in the hospital?!? yup...after 5 months of nursing care and still dealing with issues..Oh it is a long story..But imagine how hard it was to fluff that without telling the truth...lol

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