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Well Gman if that is the case then I have some more weight to lose to reach my goal! I feel better now......

I need to do what I need to do. I think it set them off when they said I could stop losing weight now!..okay then maybe 5-15 more if you want to... Well right away fear entered their heads and their overwhelming protective mode started up in this area as well as everywhere else. My daughter asked me this morning if i ate more yesterday because I worked out...i said yes I ate a Protein bar...She said not enough...It is going to be great when you get some muscle then you won't look anorexic anymore.....what?!!! I know there is fat in muscle and organs and every where. This is their concern not mine. I am being affected by it because they are at me again about it... Never thought in a million years that I would be hounded about not eating enough. That plastics will take off a pile of weight and that I am small enough in their minds to even be concerned about it all. I will sit down with hubby and talk to him and try to get him to understand that I am not at goal yet and that if I only lose 5 lbs of skin then after I still won't be at goal......I just wish I could tell them all to back the hell up! Can't though...they have been through so much as well.......

I have been working my tail off trying to get one set up in my area... there seems to be support for everything but this...A lot of red tape...I am so interested in this. i feel it is time to let it out of the closet so to speak..... Thanks Alex.. How would this work in Canada? Where I am there is no support at all. Everyone who learns of my surgery act as if I flew to the moon and back......I need a good solid program of encouragement and learning.....

Breath deeply....exhale over and over again. Remind yourself why you are doing this. Get a picture in your mind of who you want to be and concentrate on that....it will be done in a moments time......for you! You can do this!!! Your on your way to a happier, healthier and stronger you! Don't forget that!

Take the plunge..Bag um and get rid of them...It is so exhilarating to be free of them.....You will start to look forward to the next size down..Trust me!!! It is a wonderful feeling!

Here in Canada we have a free plastic surgery because of WLS. One time only..So we are very selective as to which surgeon we go for. Who gives you the most bang for your buck! But there are hacks here too. So I will be careful who I chose....No panel.....Just Doctor recommendations can get it done. Here they do include skin loss as part of a goal. It would not be prudent not too. It is unnecessary skin adding potential problems to your health. It makes since to me that they would include it and have a good idea about how much skin you have to have removed. They leave it up to you if you want it or not....No pressure. does not matter as some find it not a problem. Me it is a big problem....... It never seemed included to me as no one can predict how much you will lose and they can’t predict how your skin will be. I was told I would have no loose skin on my legs as they were not really big- well that was rubbish I lost weight on my legs first and so fast I have saggy knees on up lol They know we WILL have loose skin but to what degree and how much is a unknown variable so didn’t think anyone factored it in when they start and decide (if they do) on a end goal. I think the concerns are further down the line if you can’t slow it down now or even go a few weeks on a plateau they are projecting that you will just keep losing weight month after month get sick and then it’s a scary problem that none of them want. It does slow down and will when your body is done it will work its self out and find its sweet spot and you will maintain maybe going up and down 10lbs either side all the time. I no way thought I would lose this much weight and still be losing, to be frank neither did any of my doctors! I haven’t stalled once to my knowledge in almost 2 years its slower and I know once there isn’t anything left to lose it will stop. I sometimes wonder where the weight is coming from when I am down yet again I assume all the lose skin is just skin but its not its got a lot of fat in it still especially my belly and that’s where its going from. As long as you’re not under eating and going crazy your body will settle down soon enough. Families just love you and worry if you have underlying medical issues, which I read you do then they can overly worry about you. Maybe sit them down and say look I get it your worried I wont or can’t stop even if I try to and become a 50lbs frail sick skeleton but its ok my body is still using its fat storage you may not be able to see it as much but its still there under the skin in places. I will adjust to working out too find the even keel where fuel in is maintaining what I output. I think if you just settle their fears a bit that your still ok and its not going to be some crazy obsession like them crazy people on the biggest looser who go too far to win they might settle down a bit and back off for a while. I think that is where their concern is..They have never seen me gain or stall but that is probably because I never weighed myself that much. But to them it is becoming an issue. Not to me, just to them. My daughter is worried that I cannot stop losing and my hubby is always in over protective mode since I got so sick..... I think you would be surprised how much skin does weigh. And it should be factored in because once it is gone that is how much less you will weigh. I always felt great at 150, but felt fantastic at 170....Don't know if that will be the same today as I am a lot older. It is not consuming me it is consuming them. I too have out lost more then they expected and they are so pleased with me....I am pleased with me as well...But the plastics is coming up and that is a concern my family is now worried about...I have had 15 surgeries in 1 year and another one is coming up the end of March. So they have a right to be concerned over things but they can suffocate me at times...you know.... By the way sassy...You have done amazing in your journey..My goodness girl you must be totally stoked at the differences you have made in your health and self.....inspiring truly!!!!!!!!!!!!

You do gain weight when you build muscle mass. And use more fuel. So that is normal. Being able to eat more at this point is normal as well. That being said....We still have to watch the amount of food we put in our sleeves.. I was told that the stomach does not stretch, what happens instead if we consume too much over a period of time is a pocket forms below the stomach and can cause problems later on. That means that the small intestine expands. It would be better to eat more healthy meals in a day then eat more at one meal. By continuing to watch your Protein intake, Water and eating as healthy as you can. You will eventually find your body settling into a weight that is right for you. Right now I am struggling with this issue as well. Waiting to see if my body will settle out to its natural weight..... Congratulations on your success by the way!

First of all congratulations on your upcoming adoption..! You must be very excited to have this new addition in your life and worrying about the two events crashing together is a possible problem. While the majority of people fly through this surgery. It is smart to think that something may not go as easily as for others. Do you have a backup plan in case. Will your family help you if something happens to set you back? I think you are a wise woman to consider all the angles and if you have any doubts you must explore the help and support aspects around you. Both are so wonderful it is difficult to, no...I think the adoption is marvelous! See what you have around you to help you in these two areas if something does not go well..... All the best to you and your future!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Yes that is who I depend on but it does not stop my supporting family worrying about me...Silly! Last night I said to my husband....You know it is very difficult to eat more..He said....Just try harder....What does that even mean?

Here in Canada we have a free plastic surgery because of WLS. One time only..So we are very selective as to which surgeon we go for. Who gives you the most bang for your buck! But there are hacks here too. So I will be careful who I chose....No panel.....Just Doctor recommendations can get it done. Here they do include skin loss as part of a goal. It would not be prudent not too. It is unnecessary skin adding potential problems to your health. It makes since to me that they would include it and have a good idea about how much skin you have to have removed. They leave it up to you if you want it or not....No pressure. does not matter as some find it not a problem. Me it is a big problem.......

No, no, no...I am so glad I am not in your shoes.....good grief!!!!!!!!!!!!

I put my fork down and fold my arms and chew and chew....1/2 way through I put my fork down and leave it there for a couple of minutes. I try to listen to my sleeve to see if it is doing okay with what I have already eaten..Sometimes I push the food away after that because I don't want anymore.....sometimes I eat a few bites more with the fork putting down thing and the arms folded thing..It works for me!

You make it sound like so much fun hun.......................Thanks for that encouragement...hehehehehe

I will hang in there..he is bigger then me and muscle bound.....Can't imagine ticking him off...lol And good for you by the way!!!!!!!!!! Knowing someone who likes exercise, well that's a first for me.......

awesome news!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Do you know my trainer....He is as mean as you are...LOL

My trainer specializes in people like me who have had surgeries and life changing things happen to them like coma's. so he is in tune with me..I just think I am not in tune with him....I don't like to sweat, or be sore and both are happening to me..And the workouts are getting harder and harder. He smiles I swear! All in a days work right!!!!!!!!!!!!

I do see a psychiatrist each time I go for an update appointment. Before all of this new life...I went to several for years trying to fix my problems that stemmed from my childhood....Very few of them were helpful... one or two made a change in me in red light moments but they were rare and far between. The last one I saw said that the rest was up to me to make the changes I needed from then on....Oh she was a gem...lol Anyway.. Thank you for all the kind words..But I have to tell you hun...no one is as good as all that! I also know where my family is coming from and that they do love me and want the best for me...but this is still a journey inside and outside for me and I want to experience it all. The good the bad and the ugly....i think I have seen all sides of this....But sometimes like everyone else I get a bit confused at what to do with the new me or what I need next.....Like everyone else I turn here for encouragement...... To be perfectly honest I feel better about myself then I have in soooooooooooooo many years..But I want to keep the feeling by fixing the things I find I still need to. Exercising is one of the fixes I need. what I did not know but know now is that to do that successful I have to up my complex carbs and Protein intake....I feel I eat enough and now I have to ingest more......Will do it though..Just wanted to know if anyone else had this issue too. I got a good answer from CBT as he has been through it.... Thanks again for your sweet comments toward me!

I think given your current situation, sooner is better than later for consult. What is it about July? Also I forgot to mention that my PS said the other thing they take into consideration is how much more weight you'll lose while recovering, because even though you are inactive, your metabolism triples to heal you so you will lose weight in addition to the skin and/or fat the surgeon removes. They like to have room for that to give you best results. My team is setting up an appointment for me to see the plastic surgeon when I go for my next appointment. That is why I said July

Well actually my daughter is a nurse and she works on a floor where most of the patients there suffer from weight related issues like bulimia, anorexia and other life threatening illnesses due to eating disorders...... So i do take her seriously kid...

No pool. He comes to me!

Thank you for your post...i am in the process of finding a surgeon. it is a good idea to let him decide where I need to be. I am supposed to see him before July....

The woman was wickedly angry at me.....But she let her have it both barrels..I did not even flinch..I am used to going slow since this all began......she just fumed all day after that.....

You should ask them now hun..Something tells me you are free as a bird in that department......

Friday he told me that we are going to start doing planks on the floor.....no way eh!!!!!!!!! And he is starting me doing squats without a chair with a 6 lb medicine ball.....I am scared I am going to hit the floor with that one.......My butt!!Oh my butt!!! Today I did the bridge with my feet up on my exercise ball......Now that was a trip let me tell you....My legs and thighs were killing me! I'm only beginning this.......I think this stuff may kill me after all!!!!