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I don't post very often but I lirk on this board all of this time. Its been a little over a year since I got my band and I LOVE it. In fact if it wasn't for the band I'm sure I'd weigh a heck of a lot more but that's not really my issue right now... About 2 1/2 months ago I hurt my foot badly exercising...in the same month my husband and I split....I've been so stressed about things (being single again, finances, and putting myself back on the market someday). I've gained and lost the same 4 pounds (this is even after a fill last month). So far I've lost about 65lbs. but I have so much more to go. So here is the thing...I've been talking with my therapist a lot about this...I know what I need to do to get back to losing....I just don't know why mentally I can't get to it. I'm at the smallest weight I can remember in a long time...and I'm scared to go smaller (is that strange or what???) I was supposed to go back to see my surgeon and have put off the follow-up visit because I know I haven't lost anything since the fill and I'm too embarrassed to tell him why I haven't been following the bandster rules completely. Oh what is wrong with me....I still think this band thing is the best thing ever!!! and I know the only way its going to work is if I work it!....ugh

Hi, I can't speak for everyone that has IBS but I can tell you that I've had IBS for the better part of 20 years. I knew every bathroom in the state of MD!!!!!!!! Crazy things would trigger it....food, stress, the wind blowing the wrong way :thumbup:...Once I got banded (a little over a year ago) my IBS symptoms all but disappeared. I still have an occational flare-up but not at all what it once was. I don't know if its because I've lost 70pounds or because I've completely changed the way I eat or if its because I'm exercising...probably all of the above. Hope this helps. Good luck on your journey. Gail

Karma's a b*tch isn't it...tee hee great story. I'd probably laugh everytime I saw him after that!:thumbup:

I'm not one here that can give you great advise because I right there with you in the same chocolate boat...in fact I posted something about this yesterday. All I can say is stick with it. You're worth it...someone posted the following to my thread and I hope it helps (I wish I could give credit to this person but I printed this out and taped it to my computer) "When I go through a self sabotaging period, I try to remind myself of the following to get past it and back onto the weight loss road: 1) all the money and effort that went into getting this band and how I don't want to mess that opportunity up (some people are lucky enough to have this opportunity) 2) I'm NOT perfect so when I mess up, I forgive myself and try to do better the next time. 3) How even thought it doesn't seem like it, I actually do have control over what I do. Nobody can force me to eat - I have to make that decision!" So today I decided that I'm starting over...and I'm going to work at this until I get it right...because I owe it to myself..and you owe it to yourself. You can do it!

Dora, wow 4-6 weeks thats wonderful. what doctor did you decide to go with? Best of luck and can't wait to "officially" welcome you to bandland! Cheers, Gail

Hi, I'm in Harford Co. too but work in Baltimore City. There are lots of groups out there. I just haven't found one I'm comfy with. Cheers, Gail

Its been 9 months(ish) since I got banded and for the first 7 months I went gun-ho and lost about 60 pounds or so but now I'm stuck...and BAD! I'm coming here to confess my "sins" and hope that I can find my motivation (so if you see it could you point it back in my direction I really think its lost!! and I miss her!). Anyway, about 2 months ago I began the process of selling my house, buying a new one, leaving my husband and living a lone. Somewhere in there I lost my motivation. I went from working out 4-5 times a week to maybe 1-2 times...I had a personal trainer that I saw at least once a week..now I'm broke and can't afford her. I was excited about the thought of buying new clothes as I was shrinking...now I dread that because I know I can't afford to buy any new clothes.....I was excited about having a new "normal" looking me...now that idea scares me to death because now I'm going to be judge for who I am and not what I look like and that frankly scares me too. I know that I need to get back on the bandster way of life...I need to go back to following my bandster rules (I can't find my "bandster" book of rules!! ugh..lost it in the move). I'm trying to get back to the gym but don't know why my lazy butt won't go............................ thanks for listening to this rubbish...now please someone...kick me in the butt and tell me how to find my motivation!!!!! I'm looking for her really hard!

I came home the same day. Wish I had been kept in overnight...not because anything was wrong. I felt fine....and sore but that was it. Its that I just DIDN"T get any sleep when I got home. Family and friends kept calling to see if I was ok. The guy who had the banding surgery right after mine had to stay in. I'm not sure why...and I was too out of it to be my usual nosey self. Everyone is different...so if the doc says stay in..stay in..safty first!

Don't want to scare you but I have heard of those things ripping off the walls before. When I worked for a doctor we had someone who was about 400 lbs break our hanging toilet. My suggestion...to be on the safe side use another stall. Good luck on your banding journey.

OMG Rainer you look fabulous!! Congrats on the jeans!! :whoo::whoo::whoo::whoo::whoo::whoo:

I started seeing a therapist because of the loss of my children but then we started diving into deeper issues...like my weight and why I'm the size I am...so yes I've seen one but thats not what I went there for at first. She's been really helpful in getting me to face the things that I haven't been able too. Recently we talked about people who use food as self punishment. Like eating a piece of candy and thinking for the moment your eating it, its great but then 5 minutes later you're berating yourself because you know you shouldn't have eaten it..

for me I believe that my overeating is a lot like alcoholism...once an overeater...always an overeater. I'm scared to think what would happen if I had to have my band removed. I feel greatful that I got the band when I did because I was beginning to eat myself to death and I didn't care...(thats changed) I would love to think that I would be able to control myself if the band had to come out but lets face facts for me...if I was able to "control" it...then I would have stopped at 1 piece of pizza instead of the entire thing!

At some point in life, I think most people are afraid of dying. I know I am...but for me I knew that if I didn't have the surgery I would die sooner than I should. This is a positive step into making sure you don't leave your son alone...you might not have health problems now but down the line you could and then your son will have to see you suffer. The risk of something happening is extremely small!!

Cindy, That's great 13 pounds you will never see again CONGRATS!!! :clap2::clap2:

I want to say how sorry I am that you lost someone so dear too you. It is not unusual to not want to eat and it is not unusual to grab a giant tub of chocolate and want to drown in it...we all deal with greif differently. For me I'm a "not eater" kind of person. When my grandmother and my 3 children passed I didn't eat for about a week after each of the funerals. It took all the energy that I had to just breath. I had to be reminded to eat and even when I did it wasn't that much. I honestly don't think the band has anything to do with you not being about to eat...honey your still in shock..and that affects your entire body. Be kind to yourself..eat what you can whether its a Protein shake or a bowl of soup. If you're not getting enough you're body will let you know. In the mean time I'm sending you a gentle :hug:

:clap2:CONGRATS!!! :clap2: doesn't noticing the littles things NOT related to the scale such a motivating thing!!

I went shopping for jeans yesterday with a friend who has threatened to steal my current jeans (24s) because they have become too baggy. Well with much reservation I tried on a 22. At first I held them up and went "There is NO WAY these are getting past my thighs let alone my hips" and from the other side of the dressing room door my friend said "Shut up and put them on" (don't you just love the drill sargent!! tee hee) so I did...got them past the thighs...OMG they went past my hips...now for the next test...can I get them buttoned...OMG they not only buttoned but they zipped. Then I thought hang on can I sit and still breath??? OMG OMG OMG I CAN I CAN:whoo::whoo::whoo: I ran out of the dressing room and cried as I hugged my friend. I don't remember the last time I could get a 22 on my rump but they fit so I bought 2 pairs because I don't plan on staying at that size for long!!! If you had asked me the day before my surgery if in a little over 4 months I would go from a 30 to a 22 I would have laughed at you but here I am!!!!:bounce::whoo::clap2: Getting into those jeans has made up for the scale not moving very quickly!! This band-thing ROCKS!!!

Hi all, I'm just curious...where did everyone get banded or going to get banded at? I went to GBMC and it seems that I'm amoung the minority in MD going there. How is everyone handling the holidays? I've been quite surprised how disinterested I've been in eating. I still have that crazy desire to bake xmas Cookies until my oven blows up. I do this every year. The only saving grace is that I make sure I bake cookies I don't like and then I give them all away!! sounds crazy but its my thing!

I've never heard 2 years. In fact my doc didn't tell me I couldn't drink it, he said I "shouldn't" drink it. Mostly because of a lot of empty calories. He told me to wait at least 3-6 months after surgery before I did have any. Your surgeon may have been refering to beer because of the carbination. I'll be honest I barely waited 3 months and I've had a glass of wine and I'm ok.

Hi All, Can I join in? I'm a fellow MD'er too. I had my surgery at GBMC and I think they have a "lap-band only" support group. I haven't been. I did however do the "Walk from Obesity" last month. Molly, I have to admit I'm a bit jealous of your success. We got banded around the same time and you're just trucking along nicely. Don't get me wrong 40+ gone for me it just seems like its taking forever. People keep telling me its going slow because I've been building muscle...WHATEVER!! I have been seening a personal trainer at a gym in Severna Park...she's absolutly FABULOUS!!! Anyway, best wishes too all!!

I'm sooo soo sorry you have to go through this. I have migraines too varying from the pain so bad that I can't handle the slightest air movement to ocular migraines. I had an ocular migraine last night..very weird I had just come back from the gym and I was sitting at the table eating dinner and all of a sudden my vision went wavy...it usually last for about 20 minutes and then is followed by a headache. Is there meds that you can get in liquid form? Just a thought..

Grace, I just got back from Vegas too...and found I lost 3 pounds....and I thought I was pigging out!!(well as much as a bandster can pig out before tossing it all back up). Must be something in the air there :scared:.

peanutbutter...ooooo yummmm....BRING IT ON BABY!!! yeah I can eat peanutbutter...I know creamy goes down well. I can't speak for crunchy as I don't really like it.

its crappy that you have to go through this but in the mean time lets try to help you with some ideas that might help with the nausea instead of meds. For me sucking on a mint or even flat ginerale helps. Everyone is different but maybe this will help you a little.

The surgeon I went too did require a program fee of $500 to cover all my visits with the nutritionist and the education materials they give you and other stuff BUT the fee was refunded if I didn't get insurance approval. I'd be a little iffy about using a surgeon who would basically make money doing NOTHING! As far as regreting the band...well my only regret is not getting it sooner!