ChristineeeNYC

I'm giving myself a year to lose weight, an as soon as I can, I will start weight training to build muscle and help the skin reabsorb. I've heard it can take another year for your skin to readjust up your new body, so I will wait until my 2 year surgical anniversary before I make any decisions on excess skin.

First I am sending you a big, long hug. Second you need to know THIS IS NOT YOUR FAULT. Based on what you're saying, it sounds like he's always had 1 foot out the door (with cheating) and especially more recently (using your weight loss against you). Third, please please please surround yourself with people who love you and support you. I sounds like one day he's supportive the next he's not. This is not good for you. Rely on your family and friends. Find strength in them, and in turn, you will find strength in yourself. Don't even deal with the idea of divorce yet. If he goes, let him go. Rely on other means of support. Give yourself 6 months to focus on YOU. Healing yourself physically and emotionally. Then deal with him once the 6 month period has passed. You've come this far. You can do this!

I call mine the "Farewell Tour". Having some of my favorite foods before my surgery on 8/20 in NYC. My surgeon only requires "liquids only" the day before surgery. I realize that I may be able to have these foods again a few months post-op, but I also know that there is a chance my tastes for these foods will permanently change... What I *love* now, I may hate after. So I am mentally and emotionally preparing myself for the possibility of not having these foods for a long, long time, if ever again. Good luck!