Hey Tina,
So sorry to hear of all this dumb azz stuff you have to be going thru. I could tell you stories of what I went thru with my ex and it makes your stuff sound like a picnic. Not down playing what you are going thru but believe me it could be a whole lot worst. In order for you to move on, you need to forget about calling that woman's husband, stop dwelling on her. Dont give her anymore energy than whats she all ready absorbed from you. I know its going to be hard, but try to be friends with your husband first. Learn to develop that into being best friends. If you cant learn how to be friends than you can forget about being husband and wife. Its as simple as that, no friends, no lovers. You get where I am going with this. The trust may take a VERY long time to come back. He is going to have to do everything in his power to convince you and win you back. Good luck to you, I dont wish this on any one. If you'd like to hear about some of my gory details of my failed marriage send me a private message and get ready for the shock of your life!!!