Valentina

Valentina, are you okay? Sent from my SM-G930T using the BariatricPal App Thank you so much for your concern. I just don't know why some people have to be so negative and aggressive to the point of being hurtful?--just for a laugh--at some one's expense and hurt? --just to puff their chest out and say, "I sure dusted her, didn't I" I just don't frigg'n get it.... I came "home" here because I remembered the support and comradery that I felt before John's suicide. Now, I find too many spiteful narcissists who consider every post an attack upon them. Everyday now until June 6th it seems there is a reminder of just how much John wanted to keep my surgery a secret from his diamond distributors on47th Street. I HATE secrecy. John couldn't bear the thought that I was having WLS to the point that he swallowed 122 Vicodins. That's how much I hate secrecy. That been said, I ABSOLUTELY refuse to be ridiculed nor belittled about a post that was meant to be uplifting and supportive. It has taken me 4 yrs of therapy to accept that John's suicide was not my fault and to go public with my WLS. I've just had it with "The Haters" on this site--even if the one they really hate is themselves. Sorry for my rant. Prayers going up for---all of us.

Was anyone posting to YOU? I feel that unfortunately you have a HUGE chip on your shoulder or what????I hope you will find whatever help you need. l send up prayers for you.. What in hell are you talking about??? And just to whom do you think you're talking to?, I don't need the negativity in my life. I need support and good wishes. Your post is neither. Live and let live, and please speak to me only when I have spoken to you. Thank you in advance for your compliance. God bless.

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I spent 4yrs denying WLS--even to myself. Well, no more. No more half truths. No more lying through omission. No more selective memory. No more trying to remember "what did I tell to whom? I HAD WEIGHT LOSS SURGERY! I HAD WEIGHT LOSS SURGERY!! I HAD WEIGHT LOSS SURGERY!!!!!! Gee that was painless and ya know what? The sky didn't fall down either... Now, if I can only find someone to steal my identity...

My heart bleeds for you. My tears are being shed for you. I know your pain. My S.O. committed suicide the day of my WLS. I am now closing in on the 5th anniversary of that day. I am still in therapy and only this past Jan. did I reach the point where I can pick up and carry on. Time will sooth the pain, but it will be with you forever. Everyone grieves in their own way and there is no wrong way to do so. I cancelled my therapy sessions several times of the years. I found that when I am just about ready to "get on", John "visits" me less often. I feel that if I "forget" him and start living my life to the fullest, he will no longer come to me when I am asleep or in meditation. I am, through a wonderful therapist, beginning to "relive", and you will too---in your own time. In your own way. Feel the feelings. Shed the tears. Scream when you have to and NEVER be ashamed of doing any of it. It is (my opinion) your grief trying to find a release--to let go. Just consider this: What great help you will be able to give your granddaughter after you become "Grandma" again and can share your memories of her dad when he was little like her? You may even be able to guide her out of the grieving darkness once you have found your way yourself. Take care of yourself, my friend---THEN you will be able to help her. Prayers going up for you. I will light a candle for you and your granddaughter tonight--right next to John's.

Actually, I "know for a fact" that the percentage of statistics on the internet that are made up on the spot is 97.37% ! Please get your facts straight...

You believe your mother reacted "badly" because she was fearful that she might lose her "personal support"? How sad is that? I'm so sorry. There went my smile for the day.

Silly me, but if I were to go into that much detail I would just say I had surgery. It seems much easier. I'm still chuckling. Thank you, my friend for my first smile of the day!

Halleluiah !!! Question: How'd "speaking sternly to your 93yr old mother" go? I have always been of the mind to be open about my surgery. Once one starts ​"lying through omission", or "just telling a little white lie", or "just telling a select few", the web of gossip mongering starts--in my opinion. The people who one doesn't tell, once they find out (and they will) could not only be hurt because you "didn't trust them enough " to tell them the truth, but will start filling in incorrect information just to appear that they were indeed members of "the select few" that you did share with. My memory is not good enough to remember who I told what, so I simply stick to the facts. Once ASKED, I will share my journey. "One story fits all". My opinion.

I couldn't agree more. Unless one is the personal physcian of person asking the question, there should NEVER be any medical advice given. EVER We can give our "opinion", but our comments should reflect that fact--that what we suggest is ONLY our personal opinion. I believe and hopefully convey, that if one is concerned enough about an issue to post it on an internet site, then one first needs to CALL THEIR MD'S OFFICE. As far as percentages go, every person is personally responsible to do their own research and only take what they read here as an incentive to double check the "facts". I never take "percentages" posted on this site as fact, ever. But then, I've always been lousy with numbers. Thank you for caring enough to post on this issue. Take care.

The title of her thread: "So Confused. Newbie here/help". Find "New Content" and scroll down until you fine the thread. I really think she would appreciate hearing your sad, but informative story. Sorry for the delay getting back to you. Grandsons... I thank you in advance for your wiliness to "talk" to her.

I think you just DID answer the question. Well done, my friend. Use your exact verbiage. You get it and YOU GOT IT!

Wow! Thank you soo much for posting the video/article. Hopefully it will help some folks who have not yet booked their surgeries. I know many sleevers have success stories when going to Mexico, but as for "me and mine"? We'll stay in the ol' USA. Where if one does have a "problem" there is an attainable legal system to help. Wow!

I would recommend you get samples of several. Buying the best one in the world won't do you much good if you can't tolerate it. GNC has sample size pouches of Quest Protein powder, and probably others. Quest is the one that I use, so that is why I know about it. "Bariatric Choice" also has sample sizes of many of their products--some of them free. Keep in mind that your "taste" might change after surgery, so what you like pre op, you may hate post op. Happy Hunting!

Please, let me know what they say. I guess we will just have to "weird" together.

I really don't enjoy canned tuna since the day I caught a tuna myself, and ate sushi grade tuna for the first time. I am now spoiled for life! That reminds me: It's time to go fishing!!

Nay, you're not weird. I get the "flushes" and hot flashes when I ingest whey products. I've grown to accept them as my own personal heat source. However, if you're concerned about heart connections, by all means call your bariatric team. I'd be very interested to hear what they say. Take care, my friend.

Why are you considering this?

I think after carel is crucial. How long after surgery do you stay at the site? What happens if there is a surgical emergency? What factors are leading to you pondering having your sleeve surgery there? Think about it--long and hard. Wishing only the best for you. Prayers going up.

I had my sleeve surgery in Middletown. Does that count?

I bought a "hemi" pillow. It's the cushion one uses after hemorrhoid surgery or childbirth. It takes the pressure off of the "peri-area", including the tailbone. I had to use numerous pillows, but was able to sleep on my stomach after tucking this one here and that one there! It was worth the trouble to get a good night's sleep. Feel better.

Obviously, YOU did not read my first post. Please go back and read it! The OP, herself stated that she worked within the same health network. I TRIED to point out that before she went into litigation she may want to explore if there was anyway the HIPPA laws and the alleged violation would not hold. As a Newbie, you obviously haven't read many of my posts. Before you comment negatively about me, maybe it would behoove you to do so. Prayers going up for you.

Ask your MD. See what she/he has to say about using them.

Try it on. If it hurts or is bothersome in anyway, take it off. Problem solved. (I wore mine home) Don't worry. You got this!

I went home the same day. --and no, I would not have done anything different.