Valentina

Beware! Opening a Pandora's Box...!!! MY opinion: I did not want to spend the effort to try to remember just what I told to whom. So, I just told folks the "truth"...the facts. You'll be surprised how telling about your WLS in a factual, bare facts manner will smother all of the fun out of "gossiping". --and doubt it not....if you work within the healthcare world, your co-workers WILL find out! Only you can make the "tell or not tell" final decision. Just be sure it's one you can live with. Good luck, my friend. Prayers going up for you.

When in doubt about anything this early in your journey, call your bariatric team. Then you will know for sure. Keep us posted. Yes, because we are nosy!

I have a beer once in awhile--from a glass, not the bottle. I also enjoy a glass of wine occasionally, but be aware that you will be able to drink about 1/3 the amount as pre WLS. Enjoy!

Yeah, what she said.

Maybe it's just time for a, "Come to Jesus" bar-b-q. Invite everyone and then tell everyone. Be sincere about your reasons for telling "this or that", instead of "all of the facts''. Do it once and have done with it. On this day, MY opinion. Good luck on whatever your choice may be. Prayers going up for you.

I would tell about WLS before you two go "out and about". If you don't tell, some one that you know and run into in public is going to tell. (as mentioned above). That would be a deal breaker for me. WLS is just another part of you being you. Like: "what's your favorite movie", "what's your favorite music, or "what's your favorite color"? As soon as "what's your favorite food" comes up---well, "There's you sign"! Good luck. Dating is for the brave!

I'm just grateful that at my age ANY man can get me excited! :0

Welcome to the "Losers' Bench", Friend.

Dub, are you watching Sam Elliot for the same reason that we ladies are?? "Great Actor", right?? Thought so...

"Release the hounds"!!!!!!!!

Sam Elliot? I've had "visions" where he would sit on my dresser and just talk to me. just talk with that voice of his---mmmmmmmmmm. aaaaaaahhhhhhhh Now, Dubs, if you want to break the world's record for watching TV, you will have to continuously sit there for 95hrs. The record of 94hr was just set a couple of days ago. Are you up for it????? Happy watching!!

I would recommend that you do not see what others have written. This letter should come from within YOU. Just start writing. You will be surprised, I think on what shows up on the paper. Do this by yourself---for yourself. PS: write it in cursive so in days to come it will be "in code" because future generations are in jeopardy of not learning cursive.

Exactly, my friend. If you can't keep fluids down, PLEASE call your surgeon--just to let them know. You certainly do not want to get dehydrated. . Please call and FEEL BETTER. Prayers going up for YOU.

I believe that we all have to "pick our battles" through our beliefs and inner self. We have to remember that we are talking about WLS here--nothing else. What we decide is best for ourselves ----what we can lay down at night with and not torment ourselves about whether we "told the truth" or not to OUR OWN CONTENTMENT is completely up to us--the individual. To bring other situations---other dilemnas --other awful traumas--past sins--past horror stories is not on the consciousness of this thread. We all have to make the decision of whether to be "open" about our WLS for ourselves. There are hundreds of different scenarios about "to tell" or "not to tell" and most will fall somewhere between the two. That is up to each of us to decide and deal with the consequences of our decision. Be at peace with yourself. What feels right within yourself. Do whatever you know you can live with without "lowering your eyes". On this date: MY opinion. Prayers going up---for all of us.

Yes! Yes! and again, Yes!! I found that the legendary "race horse" and I had a great deal in common within the peeing category last night and this morning! Lordy! I thought I was never going to stop...

Yes. It was given back to me the morning of my surgery.

I had lost more weight than required pre op, so one beautifully sunny day in May, my S.O. and I went to the Jersey shore where I was given a very grand, and delightfully fun filled food funeral. Those memories will be with me for a life time. Do I regret it? Not for one second! Believe me, eating is NOT the same after WLS. Is it healthier? Sure. Can I eat Pasta without dumping? Nope. Can I eat rice without dumping? Nope Can I eat anything overly sweet without dumping? Nope Can I eat anything spicy without dumping? Nope Have I ever liked chicken? Nope Am I allergic to Beans--especially soy?--which limits my choices? Yep Eating just isn't "fun" anymore. Am I healthier? Sure Am I thinner? Sure Can I fit into smaller clothes? Sure Do my joints appreciate bearing less weight? Sure Do I miss "the fun" of eating? Every day Do I regret having WLS? Not anymore. I am much healthier than I was before WLS. Now all I have to do is find a way to be happier. That, too will come.

Where did you have your surgery? Have you thought to call them and ask these questions? I, for one, would be interested in their reply. Let us know. Keep on Keep'n on!

Whooo Hoooo!!! Welcome to, "The Losers' Bench". Rest a moment and then---GET MOV'N!!!!

Holy Mother!! She just needed to call her MD!!!! She says that she is old enough to decide to have WLS, and to have sex, then she is old enough to pick up the phone and call her MD for ANY and ALL medical concerns. I believe this is a "put on (or pull up) your big girl panties and TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF", young lady. We are all here to give you all the support in the world, but medical advice is for your MD and NO one else. Please do keep us up to date on your well being. Just because we can not give you medical advice does not mean that we don't care. WE DO CARE!!! Prayers going up for you. ​PS: A woman doesn't have to necessarily an "active" participant to have sex.---only the lucky ones! She can be rather still and even dormant--sad to say.

Did you call your MD?????? That is what you REALLY need to do. He/She will have the medical answers to your medical questions. Please, call.

Definitely worth the read. Now to ponder upon it...

Price Chopper carries both.

whew! That's out of the way. On to the next step...

Then, you go , girl!! You and hubby, just hang on tight to each other and ---away you'll go!!! I couldn't be happier for you--both. Prayers going up.