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Reigo that was funny!!! I am not Jarod (Subway).LOL! My husband told me that he did not feel I needed the surgery. He stated " You are not that bad off, just exercise !". I was offended for I do exercise. That is the problem in a nut shell I try to walk in his shoes , but he does not in mines.
Oftentimes, I believe my husband feels I have it easy. I am in graduate school full time to become a Licensed Clinical Social Worker to work with military families. We have three children (one of which has Autism). I am the cook, gardener, chauffeur, doctor, accountant, problem solver, maid, car repair person, and I have become totally overwhelmed. He says " honey I appreciate all that you do", but it would be better if he showed me.
I know people assume all fat people sit at home eating donuts and watching Home Shopping Network, but that is not true for everyone. Some of us had medical issues, bad hormones, stress and overall poor decision making due to life circumstances. I made a vow to myself once I lose this weight not to judge others, for the struggle is real. thanks for the laugh Reigo, I really needed it.

It's hard when you already have so much on your plate! My husband is supportive but eats whatever he wants in front of me. He ordered pizza when I was on liquids which irritated me. He's in pretty good shape an just doesn't know what I go through struggling to loose weight. When I decided on surgery, he said "its up to you but I think it's crazy! Just stop eating so much. Eat a turkey sandwich everyday and Water and you will loose weight" first off, I am not Jarod or my face woud be all over those commercials! He may not realize how difficult your weight loss is bc he's never been in your shoes.
Just be a little selfish and focus on you!

I can't WAIT to be able to cross my legs and have them crossed ..... Without "forcing" them to stay together!!!! Lol

I swore I THOUGHT I researched it..... but no one "told" me allllllllllllllll of this stuff! I consulted with my doctor, my friends (i have 3 friends who were sleeved) and NO ONE gave me the type of detail that I am finding now.......
I promise I tried as best I could....but just like I said previously...... I don't know what I don't know! And if I don't know that lets say, Constipation, is a problem, how the heck could I know to ask about it????
I just feel that as "internet/tech" savvy as I was, I had done the best I could to find out, but obviously....... i didn't know what I didn't know......

Thank you SOOOO much!! You make me fel like I am not so crazy after all to have these frustrations :-)
I am oon the right path in some ways:
1. I have a pill box (had one lying around for trips out of town, but just told my husband that I needed to start using it because I couldn't REMEMBER if I took alllll the pills or not! SO, I have implemented that.
2. I bought the MIralax at the suggestion of a girl in my drs office who, she herself, is about 7 months sleeved, becuase she said she too ALWAYS has to take it a few times a week to prevent constipation and that she "stays consipated"....lol.... I took a dose 2 days ago after my "suppository incident" and I probably need to take it again today...oy!
3. I have been really JUST trying to JUST get to 60g.... 80 is too much for me to even consider seeing as though after 4-5 bites..... I am done. Also, I HAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAATE every.single.protein shake I have tried (Isopure unflavored-powder, Isopure fruit punch (ready made), Isopure Grape Frost (ready made), Boost Calorie Control, Pure Protein- chocolate, powders?utm_source=BariatricPal&utm_medium=Affiliate&utm_campaign=CommentLink" target="_ad" data-id="1" >unjury chocolate (too sweet post op and just don't like it because I am TIRED of "drinking" crap....... and Premier Protein.... I can only HALFWAY tolerate the Premier Chocolate.... the vanilla is disgusting and makes me wanna vomit. I truly WANT to get ALL of my protein from food since I am now on soft foods, but my limited ability to take in more than 3-4 bites is not helping. Add that to the fact that for the past week and a day.... I have been stalled (further adding to my aggravation..... hell, if I could still SEE more than the 12lbs I lost, I would feel like allllllllllllllllll this frustration was worth it! lol)
4. The good thing is: I LOVE TO EAT THINGS THAT HAD PARENTS ! lol I have allllllllllllways been a meat eater.... love, love, LOVE meat!!! (problem is.... right now, i can only do 3-4 bites whch makes it harder to get the protein in, in that way). I do like edamame and have some in my freezer that I am going to pull out today , and I do NOT have a sweet tooth, so dessert is no biggie to scratch off of the list.... I could take it or really..... leave it (thank GOD for small miracles!!! LOL)
5. Also, the bad thing is : I am a loooooooooover of bread, Pasta, sauces (guess that's what brought me to this point, huh?) So, it is hard with allllllll the comercials and food out there that falls into THOSE categories, to figure out how/what to cook anymore...... I don't want to have my whole family be devoid of Pasta, etc. just because "I" am! So, I know on some days that I will prob have to make two seperate meals...... Also.... have you heard of the pasta by Quest (sepaking of them...) I want to try them, but don't know if they are the same as regular pasta for our systems.... see link --->http://www.questproteinbar.com/pasta/ what are your thoughts on this??
6. Protein bars: I have ALREADY stocked up on about 5 that I want to try (doc said cant try it until 8 weeks, so I have a little ways to go, but in trying one pre-op, they were seemingly "heavy" on my stomach even THEN, because they are so densely compacted! I needed Water and to chew it real well.... PRE OP! lol But, I will try it..... if it gives me less mess to drink..... I will try it!

Thanks girl!
JESUS! I wish you COULD give me a hug too! lol
It's just alot..... healing, getting my WHOLE life/routine, EVERY.THING turned 180 (literally) overnight! I am just struggling....... and it was not anticipated or expected for it to be THIS trying (at least for me....)
And you are right..... had they told me... I would probably have thought "well... maybe it's not THAT bad......". Just like when people say "kids are alot of work....get your rest now".... 1. you can NEVER rest enough to compensate for how damn tred you are in the first few months and 2. I woulda STILL chosen to have a baby anyway...lol
I hope that this "new habit" becomes more routine and I get better at it over time.

OMG, OMG, OMMMMMMG !!!!
I think you just reached into my brain and pulled out several frustrations that I am havng too! I just didn't have the courage to post them, as I didn;t want to seem like 'negative nelly" when this IS something that I "asked" for!!!
BUT..... and this is a BIG BUT.....
I had NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO F*$N CLUE about alllllllllll of the changes that I do NOT like. Allow me to vent:
1. The fact that I will never be able to eat more than a 1/2 to cup of food (maybe thaaaaat's not too bad...LOL)
2. The fact that I will have to FOR.EVER try to get "60-80 g" of Protein EVERY DAY! FOREEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEVER. That is F&$& HARD to do
3. That I will probably be constiapted (already had a bout with it, wherein, I wasn't "paying attention" to how long it had been since I went and since I have NEEEEVER been a "go every day" person)..... it was 5 days, I had to give myself a suppository, and I felt like my @$$hole was being RIPPED in two (felt worse than giving birth, I swear it did!) I am not used to having to take "supplements" to ensure my bowels move......but it seems that NOW,.....NOW...... I will....foreeeeeeeeeeeeeeeever. And with alllllll the stuff to keep track of (how much Protein, Vitamins, Calcium, how much liquid i'm imbibing.....) &H!T is HARDER for me on a day to day basis and I haven't even gone back to work!!!! WHat happens when I am "busy" and "forget" to eat..... forget to drink (I have NEVER been a "drink alot of liquid in a day" kinda person)
4. The Vitamins. I was talkign to my 78 yr old mother ( who is and has alwasy been thin....her BIGGEST when I was probably 12 or 13 was a size 14, mostly due to her being "hippy") who takes a PLETHORA of pills every day for everything from estrogen, Calcium, HBP meds, multi Vitamin, Insulin pill.....blah, blah, blah), that it was frustrating to have to "keep up" wth when I can take this.... oh, don't take calcium near the time you take the Vitamin pill......etc". Well, she said " honey.... I have to do the same thing.... I have to remember to eat, watch what I eat, remember to take my pills at certain times", and as much as looooove my mother, I wanted to scream to her:
BUT YOU ARE 78!!!! I AM 42!!!!! I am not an older person! Yet, my "routiine" is that of someone OLD! I did this to make my life simpler, NOT MORE COMPLICATED........ and now I am stuck".
Top that off with the fact that she has NOTHING. TO. DO, but to keep up with vitamin regimens, figure out what to cook on a whim...... I work, have a husband and 9 year old and simply do not HAVE time for more complication! But..... that is my life now.....
I am totally venting..... I hope I feel differently at some point.....
I also feel that NO ONE TOLD ME what I could expect and I have THREE.... THREE friends (not super close friends) who have gone through this and those chicks never told me of allllllllllllllllll the WORK that this entails! (one is 2 years sleeved, one is 1 year and the other is 7 weeks)....... when I asked my 2yr sleeved friend she was kinda like "Ok..... so what do ya wanan know?"....
I hate that damn question...... I DON'T KNOW WHAT I DON'T KNOW!!!! TELL ME EVERYTHING...... and truthfully..... when people say "tell me about the surgery", they want to know the "bad stuff" to expect..... we can allllll see the "good"!!!
But no one, NOT even the one sleeved 7 weeks ago, told me of all the WORK that is now added to my life just to keep LIVIING.
So, again...... i feel like you do..... if i had known this, in THIS depth.... i am pretty sure I would not have done this......
#learningtolivewiththisdecision

Great idea! I'm going to adopt this.....

Thanks girl!
JESUS! I wish you COULD give me a hug too! lol
It's just alot..... healing, getting my WHOLE life/routine, EVERY.THING turned 180 (literally) overnight! I am just struggling....... and it was not anticipated or expected for it to be THIS trying (at least for me....)
And you are right..... had they told me... I would probably have thought "well... maybe it's not THAT bad......". Just like when people say "kids are alot of work....get your rest now".... 1. you can NEVER rest enough to compensate for how damn tred you are in the first few months and 2. I woulda STILL chosen to have a baby anyway...lol
I hope that this "new habit" becomes more routine and I get better at it over time.

Thank you SOOOO much!! You make me fel like I am not so crazy after all to have these frustrations :-)
I am oon the right path in some ways:
1. I have a pill box (had one lying around for trips out of town, but just told my husband that I needed to start using it because I couldn't REMEMBER if I took alllll the pills or not! SO, I have implemented that.
2. I bought the MIralax at the suggestion of a girl in my drs office who, she herself, is about 7 months sleeved, becuase she said she too ALWAYS has to take it a few times a week to prevent constipation and that she "stays consipated"....lol.... I took a dose 2 days ago after my "suppository incident" and I probably need to take it again today...oy!
3. I have been really JUST trying to JUST get to 60g.... 80 is too much for me to even consider seeing as though after 4-5 bites..... I am done. Also, I HAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAATE every.single.protein shake I have tried (Isopure unflavored-powder, Isopure fruit punch (ready made), Isopure Grape Frost (ready made), Boost Calorie Control, Pure Protein- chocolate, powders?utm_source=BariatricPal&utm_medium=Affiliate&utm_campaign=CommentLink" target="_ad" data-id="1" >unjury chocolate (too sweet post op and just don't like it because I am TIRED of "drinking" crap....... and Premier Protein.... I can only HALFWAY tolerate the Premier Chocolate.... the vanilla is disgusting and makes me wanna vomit. I truly WANT to get ALL of my protein from food since I am now on soft foods, but my limited ability to take in more than 3-4 bites is not helping. Add that to the fact that for the past week and a day.... I have been stalled (further adding to my aggravation..... hell, if I could still SEE more than the 12lbs I lost, I would feel like allllllllllllllllll this frustration was worth it! lol)
4. The good thing is: I LOVE TO EAT THINGS THAT HAD PARENTS ! lol I have allllllllllllways been a meat eater.... love, love, LOVE meat!!! (problem is.... right now, i can only do 3-4 bites whch makes it harder to get the protein in, in that way). I do like edamame and have some in my freezer that I am going to pull out today , and I do NOT have a sweet tooth, so dessert is no biggie to scratch off of the list.... I could take it or really..... leave it (thank GOD for small miracles!!! LOL)
5. Also, the bad thing is : I am a loooooooooover of bread, Pasta, sauces (guess that's what brought me to this point, huh?) So, it is hard with allllllll the comercials and food out there that falls into THOSE categories, to figure out how/what to cook anymore...... I don't want to have my whole family be devoid of Pasta, etc. just because "I" am! So, I know on some days that I will prob have to make two seperate meals...... Also.... have you heard of the pasta by Quest (sepaking of them...) I want to try them, but don't know if they are the same as regular pasta for our systems.... see link --->http://www.questproteinbar.com/pasta/ what are your thoughts on this??
6. Protein bars: I have ALREADY stocked up on about 5 that I want to try (doc said cant try it until 8 weeks, so I have a little ways to go, but in trying one pre-op, they were seemingly "heavy" on my stomach even THEN, because they are so densely compacted! I needed Water and to chew it real well.... PRE OP! lol But, I will try it..... if it gives me less mess to drink..... I will try it!

Sue, your suggestions are great. I've found that by adding calendar reminders on my work computer and phone, I don't have to remember when I last took my Vitamins. I get a prompt and then take them. Easier for me to do it this way.

Thanks girl!
JESUS! I wish you COULD give me a hug too! lol
It's just alot..... healing, getting my WHOLE life/routine, EVERY.THING turned 180 (literally) overnight! I am just struggling....... and it was not anticipated or expected for it to be THIS trying (at least for me....)
And you are right..... had they told me... I would probably have thought "well... maybe it's not THAT bad......". Just like when people say "kids are alot of work....get your rest now".... 1. you can NEVER rest enough to compensate for how damn tred you are in the first few months and 2. I woulda STILL chosen to have a baby anyway...lol
I hope that this "new habit" becomes more routine and I get better at it over time.

Girl...I just want to hug you. Yes, my friend that went RnY 3 years ago, went through this. She didn't have anyone going before her that she could talk to about this stuff. I sat back and watched her so I saw all the pills, the frustration when eating, the constant liquids.
But, still it is NOT the same until you go through it. So even if your friends had told you, they may not have truly been able to get it through...if that makes sense? The thing to remember is that we are still in the building/forming habits stage.
At 3 years out, my friend has her vitamin routine down so much that she doesn't even have to remember them, it just comes natural to her. We'll get there too. We just have to keep forming those habits.
Also, even with a 1/2 cup of food at a time, at some point our food will provide much more satiety so you will probably get back regular (which was a surprise to me because pre-op I was VERY regular). As of today I'm getting back to regular so I'm happy and eating more solids, I don't really feel like I'm missing out on eating.

My "co worker" who has also become a friend said ( multiple times) " I have other friends who have had this and you're not going to be any "fun" to go out to eat with now......"
Kinda pissed me off, because whyyyy is my fun level determined by how much I can damn eat??? I will be able to have SOME , just not all !!!" She is a pretty normal weight ( 5'7, size 10), so it's not because she wants me to gorge because she actually is a huge proponent of "healthy eating" and works out 2-3x a week..... Still it ticked me off when she said that. Lol

Ya know..... i NEEEEEEEEEVER realized just how MUCH food is in EVERY. PART. OF. OUR. EXISTENCE!!! And how MANY things revolve AROUND food!!!! It's kinda frustrating and eye opening at the same time! Geez! I mean..... I feel like I SHOULD have known this fact, seeing as though, humans HAVE TO eat to survive and so there (obviously) has to be somoe kind of focus on food in society.... but DAMMIT! I see MORE commercials (since I am stll on medical leave as I am 3 1/2 weekd out) for FOOD than anything! Food is the glue to MOST families.... I feel you.......

My "co worker" who has also become a friend said ( multiple times) " I have other friends who have had this and you're not going to be any "fun" to go out to eat with now......"
Kinda pissed me off, because whyyyy is my fun level determined by how much I can damn eat??? I will be able to have SOME , just not all !!!" She is a pretty normal weight ( 5'7, size 10), so it's not because she wants me to gorge because she actually is a huge proponent of "healthy eating" and works out 2-3x a week..... Still it ticked me off when she said that. Lol

Twelve lbs in three weeks is quite an achievement, your glass is half full, not half empty!! Celebrate, do a happy dance!!! Congrats!! Eating less is GOOD!!! At three years out, I cannot eat a cup of food, I PRAY that I never can. I love where I'm at. Before long, you'll be eating a little more and in your mind, freaking out because you can!! I STiLL ask my husband, "Did I eat a lot?" He says I have the digestive tract of a hummingbird or field mouse!! Love it!

You are right! I am VERY happy that I have lost the 12 pounds, I think I got the "idea" from a friend sleeved on 4/29 who has lost like 50lbs, that in the first month (she lost like 30 + lbs that first month) I would "lose sooooooo much" as she did, so when that expectation fell short..... I have been in this "funky place" of feeling like "am I EVVVVVVER going to lose any more than THIS???
It makes me feel better to know that I will eventually feel a bit more "normal"..... lol... or my "new normal",that is
So, I am truly happy that I have lost 12, and just want to get the "loss train" going again!!! :-)

You are right! I am VERY happy that I have lost the 12 pounds, I think I got the "idea" from a friend sleeved on 4/29 who has lost like 50lbs, that in the first month (she lost like 30 + lbs that first month) I would "lose sooooooo much" as she did, so when that expectation fell short..... I have been in this "funky place" of feeling like "am I EVVVVVVER going to lose any more than THIS???
It makes me feel better to know that I will eventually feel a bit more "normal"..... lol... or my "new normal",that is
So, I am truly happy that I have lost 12, and just want to get the "loss train" going again!!! :-)

I am 3 weeks PO and I , too, find it frustrating to only be able to eat a minicsule amount (end up wasting ALOT becuase you can't "cook" a meal small enough for just 3-4 bites!) And then 4 days later when you have 1/2 the meal still left..... you don't really (at least i don't) want it. ARRRGH!
Of course I did this for the REASON of not being able to eat that much to increase weight loss.... but I guess I just didn;t know it would be this difficult (at least for me....)
And to top it off.... my weight loss has stalled and I've only lost 12 lbs (not including the 12 lbs of Water I gained in the hospital....) grrrrrrr.....
Feeling frustrated.......

You are right! I am VERY happy that I have lost the 12 pounds, I think I got the "idea" from a friend sleeved on 4/29 who has lost like 50lbs, that in the first month (she lost like 30 + lbs that first month) I would "lose sooooooo much" as she did, so when that expectation fell short..... I have been in this "funky place" of feeling like "am I EVVVVVVER going to lose any more than THIS???
It makes me feel better to know that I will eventually feel a bit more "normal"..... lol... or my "new normal",that is
So, I am truly happy that I have lost 12, and just want to get the "loss train" going again!!! :-)

You are right! I am VERY happy that I have lost the 12 pounds, I think I got the "idea" from a friend sleeved on 4/29 who has lost like 50lbs, that in the first month (she lost like 30 + lbs that first month) I would "lose sooooooo much" as she did, so when that expectation fell short..... I have been in this "funky place" of feeling like "am I EVVVVVVER going to lose any more than THIS???
It makes me feel better to know that I will eventually feel a bit more "normal"..... lol... or my "new normal",that is
So, I am truly happy that I have lost 12, and just want to get the "loss train" going again!!! :-)

You are right! I am VERY happy that I have lost the 12 pounds, I think I got the "idea" from a friend sleeved on 4/29 who has lost like 50lbs, that in the first month (she lost like 30 + lbs that first month) I would "lose sooooooo much" as she did, so when that expectation fell short..... I have been in this "funky place" of feeling like "am I EVVVVVVER going to lose any more than THIS???
It makes me feel better to know that I will eventually feel a bit more "normal"..... lol... or my "new normal",that is
So, I am truly happy that I have lost 12, and just want to get the "loss train" going again!!! :-)

You are right! I am VERY happy that I have lost the 12 pounds, I think I got the "idea" from a friend sleeved on 4/29 who has lost like 50lbs, that in the first month (she lost like 30 + lbs that first month) I would "lose sooooooo much" as she did, so when that expectation fell short..... I have been in this "funky place" of feeling like "am I EVVVVVVER going to lose any more than THIS???
It makes me feel better to know that I will eventually feel a bit more "normal"..... lol... or my "new normal",that is
So, I am truly happy that I have lost 12, and just want to get the "loss train" going again!!! :-)