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I love the "why don't you try diet and exercise?" OMG! You found it! The whole idea eluded me until you JUST BROUGHT IT UP! Why oh WHY didn't I think of doing that?! Genius. Pure genius.

I love the "why don't you try diet and exercise?" OMG! You found it! The whole idea eluded me until you JUST BROUGHT IT UP! Why oh WHY didn't I think of doing that?! Genius. Pure genius.

I always buy cookies! And have them sent directly to the troops Works every time to keep them out of the house, but I don't feel guilty telling a little cookie monster no

I always buy cookies! And have them sent directly to the troops Works every time to keep them out of the house, but I don't feel guilty telling a little cookie monster no

I bought 1 box from a co-workers daughter.. I'm proud of myself for not eating any!! I left them on the breakroon table at work and they were gone... I still supported the girls and myself at the same time

congrats!!!!!

Some people will put you down because they don't want to be "the fat one in the room" - My sister in law used to do that to me when I was training for a marathon- I was already physically fit, but I'm 7 inches taller than her and have a bigger frame. Well, she was eating crap all the time so she was getting to be the same size as me - I started to shrink and she would criticize my eating choices, saying "I don't know why you eat that way - it doesn't do anything for you - its not working - here, have a cookie" She finally admitted that she was afraid of being the biggest person in the room.
She saw her own insecurities being addressed by someone else, leaving her with the only one with the insecurities. She was then going to be "noticed" - if more than one person is "like that" you have this idea that you can hide among them and remain unnoticed.
None of it is true, but I think your Aunt has that theory in her head.

I love the "why don't you try diet and exercise?" OMG! You found it! The whole idea eluded me until you JUST BROUGHT IT UP! Why oh WHY didn't I think of doing that?! Genius. Pure genius.

"Its not about how I look, its about how I feel" Neither being too fat nor being too skinny is healthy.
The other line is "how about you let me worry about that. I'm sure you have enough of your own personal issues that need attention"

I talked to them and they did not have it. When I asked about creating one, they spoke in terms of seeing where they could buy one and what the overhead was - wtf? I hope they didn't mean it the way it sounded. I am going to print out that earlier link, and mail it certified to my doc, and then email to see if they intend to charge to sign it (something they should offer anyway!) - and I plan on reporting it here. Nitpicking doctors who have been paid very well need to be outed.

One of my favorite things used to be hard salami with cream chesse wrapped around a sweet pickle. I LOVE that. Only way I'll eat pickles haha.
The Frank's Red hot buffalo chicken dip is great as well. http://www.franksredhot.com/recipes/franks-redhot-buffalo-chicken-dip-RE1242
a meat lover's home made pizza bites on low carb tortillas maybe?
hotwings are always a good choice
meatballs are always good too.

I'm doing great. I didn't have big hunger after surgery. On day 4 I started to feel hungry, but nothing that the liquid diet didn't take care of. I have yet to feel unsatisfied with what I'm allowed to eat.

may sound self-depricating, but I've already given the "do I LOOK like i need to eat more?"
shuts people up right away

glad things are getting better! It does seem to get easier! So glad you have support!
Welcome to the site!

Have I told you lately that you're a genius?!
I bought the anchor glass bowls with plastic lids to do the same - got them on Amazon really cheap when I ordered my mr. coffee cup warmers :tongue2:
Love the recipe!

I don't have a problem with it - first couple days it was itty bitty sips. Now i can take regular sized drinks without an issue.

Hello to all of my January Sleevers!
I had my 3 week post op visit on yesterday and GUESS WHAT?! I'M DOWN 35 POUNDS!!! It's COMPLETELY amazing to me! I can't remember the last time I lost 35 lbs! :clap2:
AND yesterday I was able to move to soft foods! OMG! I was so excited! Some of you are so lucky with what you were allowed during the 2-3 weeks post op. I was on strictly liquids! Water, Protein Shakes, Crystal Light, Propel, dilated clear juice, broth, strained low fat Soup, UGH!
Now the challenge is actually eating the amount they want me to eat.....

I think one thing that everyone here needs to realize about the "passion" here is that everyone here has relayed their passion. His wife has not to him. "I just always wanted to" in my mind does not cut it for such a life altering procedure - especially without trying anything else first.
What might be a helpful thing is, for lovinghusband to find a free seminar in the area, and go to it with his wife. Try to make an agreement with your wife that she'll do their pre-op program before going to Mexico to have the surgery. Listen at the seminar and ask the doctors questions. Ask every question he could possibly have - as well as the wife. Get the free medical information there before going to Mexico. Then make the decision from there. She may change her mind. She may not. But at least, if she goes along with it, at that point, you'll know you've done everything you could and educated yourself.
I think perhaps you do have fears about surgery - and maybe for a valid reason, however, I do wonder if she had overly large breasts, would you support her getting a breast reduction because of the pain they put on her back? Its not a matter of life or death, but it sure may feel like it to her.
I do get your issue. I totally understand what you're saying. All you're asking for is for her to try for a while just to prove that SHE is worth it to HERSELF. There might not be a need to take such a drastic step.
Many people here have tried and failed at diets or yo yo'd with their weight so many times, their bodies have refused to respond to diets. But from what you say, your wife hasn't even tried yet - many people do succeed at diet/lifestyle changes without surgery and many people don't.

someone should make bacon double cheeseburger flavored Protein Shakes.

I was walking from my class to my dorm room and I felt like running...I did not as there is about a foot of snow...... but what a feeling
I am a little over a month and a half out of surgery.. ive lost just over 80lbs so far(including my pre surgery diet)
every once in a while when I go for a walk I have this urge to run...... I think I might just try it

@Lovinghusband,
Short but sweet here... personally I think this is a conversation you and your dear Wife should be having. Not between You, me and everyone else on the internet, EXCEPT her.
I understand your concern for her. You care whether she lives or dies... but do not forget - we ALL will die someday. She's just trying to avoid dying young and living the life of a sick fat person. No one wants to live like that, no you, not me - and not anyone. I've never met a TRULY happy fat person. Never, and I never will.
You said so yourself, you've never been overweight, so IMO anything you say to us comes from someone who doesn't understand what it's like. Perhaps someday you might? Oh and then you will know. That said I do not wish that on you. I don't wish that on my worst enemy. So, PLEASE do NOT wish this upon your Wife.

I'm taking one full work week. I had my surgery last Friday and I return to work this coming up Monday. I have a desk job and I have strapping lads that i work with that will lift anything should the need arise.

I have received a couple notes from folks asking why I haven't put my 2 cents in here, since I seem to put my 2 cents in on anything remotely controversial. Well, it's because it is like trying to explain the color green to a blind man. This fellow came here looking to validate his opinion and the folks here didn't give it to him. He truly believes he is not controlling. He has no objective perspective on the relationship and we surely are not going to change that. I mean, come on ... crying for 3 hours ... talk about manipulative:
http://en.wikipedia....al_manipulation
He has never walked in the shoes of a person with issues surrounding food, body image and all that goes with this. He doesn't even know the size of the shoe. He has his opinion and that is all that matters.
He says he has never thrown an insult at anyone shortly after he says how VERY VERY VERY close minded everyone is.
I do have one question for you, though Husband ... What makes you think this is the "easy" way out? This is the hardest thing I have ever done. More difficult than any of the successful diets I did previously, but far more rewarding knowing that I have a tool to help me not sabbotage myself gaining it all back.
My spouse doesn't always make the best decisions, but I committed to supporting her no matter what. Perhaps this may be the hardest thing for you ... but, I'm afraid you won't take the time to become fully educated. There are risks everyday.
There is a saying that ignorance is easier than knowledge, and I think an ignorant person wouldn't take the time to see things from the other side of the coin. I applaud you keeping this dialog open. It tells us you are willing to learn.
I know you say it's about the family, but let's let it be just about your wife. Step away from it to get some perspective. If you are always going to fear being that 1 in 10,000, then your life is going to be paralyzed.
Also, we don't know what your wife has or hasn't done. I'm not sure how well we can take your word for it. She may have been making attempts you were never aware of. I know I made several attempts my wife was never privy to. I didn't tell her because I didn't want the humiliation if/when I failed again.
Good luck to you and your wife.

the dissolvable strips work too!

Same parents does not equal same genetics. I have every recessive gene possible - my siblings have none. I have a genetic defect in my liver, my sisters don't even carry the gene. The only thing same parents do for you genetically is increase the odds that you will have similar genetics.