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I'm also Oct 16 - you are the first person I've seen on here that shares my date! Congrats!

I started dating my husband 3 years ago after loosing a good bit of weight... I was around 200 at the time. We went to Highshool together so he remembers me 120 or so. He knew I had just lost weight and even said he'd love me if I gained it all back and more. He blames himself that I did though, cause he loves to cook and loves to eat out. He is thin as a rail. In highschool he was the boy that was a friend... I wouldn't have thought of dating him - but marrying him at 45 was the best decision of my life.
My ex-husband (divorced 11 years) sabotaged every diet I ever did, he was also heavy... he would start a diet with me and then throw it in my face later... you don't care about your family - you go to the gym too much. You are obsessive about your diet, on and on. The last time I saw 160 lbs, this jerk had an affair with a 400+ lb woman (nothing wrong with 400+ lb women, unless they are screwing your husband). I stayed two more years (STUPID decision on my part), but he kept cheating. I think he had a fat fetish, although he got really mad when I said that... the one he left me for was also large, and the other two wives after that - oh, and he has probably gained 100+ lbs since the split. I was probably 160 when I married him, but every time I lost he nutted up... brought bad food in, insisted we go out to eat, on and on.
My husband now loves me. I think we connect on a deep level because we were kids together, hung around the same group of people and like the same things. I think he sees me as he saw me 30 years ago. We crossed paths 3 1/2 years ago... and I sold him a used car that he came over weekly to make payments, started going to dinner, watching movies... etc. For months I knew this was a fantastic guy and went back through my dating history asking myself why I kept dating Mr. Wrong over and over. I didn't really "see it" at first and thought "friends". Til one night he was here watching a movie and some woman kept texting him, and I was jealous. The next night he called and said that girl was bugging the hell out of him, and he did not want to date her he wanted to date me. I knew then I'd marry him... and I did a year later.
If the marriage is good, both people are truly committed and the love is there the marriage will work out. If the marriage is shaky, one or both people are not totally committed to it and there wasn't really love there - who knows. I know a lot of people that stay in marriages that make them miserable, and I've known people to leave marriages that could have worked when the going gets tough.

If you are working out heavily, you may need to increase your calories. Call your NUT, or make an appt... mine told me at our last visit to call her if I ever need her and don't have time for an appt. I don't really agree with the personal trainer idea. I have went that route in the past and did a lot of weight training, and now I don't even want to go there because my shoulders hurt constantly from my job, and if I injure myself I am out of work... maybe legs later after I've lost a bunch, maybe. Even a personal trainer will say to lose weight, cardio, cardio and more cardio. The sculpting can come after the weight loss if ever. The weights don't burn near the calories as cardio, and if time is an issue do what works. I think you are probably more hungry from working out. See if the NUT has suggestions, like adding a snack or more protein.... admitting you have a problem is the first step to solving it! You've identified it, thats step one!

If you are working out heavily, you may need to increase your calories. Call your NUT, or make an appt... mine told me at our last visit to call her if I ever need her and don't have time for an appt. I don't really agree with the personal trainer idea. I have went that route in the past and did a lot of weight training, and now I don't even want to go there because my shoulders hurt constantly from my job, and if I injure myself I am out of work... maybe legs later after I've lost a bunch, maybe. Even a personal trainer will say to lose weight, cardio, cardio and more cardio. The sculpting can come after the weight loss if ever. The weights don't burn near the calories as cardio, and if time is an issue do what works. I think you are probably more hungry from working out. See if the NUT has suggestions, like adding a snack or more protein.... admitting you have a problem is the first step to solving it! You've identified it, thats step one!

If you are working out heavily, you may need to increase your calories. Call your NUT, or make an appt... mine told me at our last visit to call her if I ever need her and don't have time for an appt. I don't really agree with the personal trainer idea. I have went that route in the past and did a lot of weight training, and now I don't even want to go there because my shoulders hurt constantly from my job, and if I injure myself I am out of work... maybe legs later after I've lost a bunch, maybe. Even a personal trainer will say to lose weight, cardio, cardio and more cardio. The sculpting can come after the weight loss if ever. The weights don't burn near the calories as cardio, and if time is an issue do what works. I think you are probably more hungry from working out. See if the NUT has suggestions, like adding a snack or more protein.... admitting you have a problem is the first step to solving it! You've identified it, thats step one!

I started dating my husband 3 years ago after loosing a good bit of weight... I was around 200 at the time. We went to Highshool together so he remembers me 120 or so. He knew I had just lost weight and even said he'd love me if I gained it all back and more. He blames himself that I did though, cause he loves to cook and loves to eat out. He is thin as a rail. In highschool he was the boy that was a friend... I wouldn't have thought of dating him - but marrying him at 45 was the best decision of my life.
My ex-husband (divorced 11 years) sabotaged every diet I ever did, he was also heavy... he would start a diet with me and then throw it in my face later... you don't care about your family - you go to the gym too much. You are obsessive about your diet, on and on. The last time I saw 160 lbs, this jerk had an affair with a 400+ lb woman (nothing wrong with 400+ lb women, unless they are screwing your husband). I stayed two more years (STUPID decision on my part), but he kept cheating. I think he had a fat fetish, although he got really mad when I said that... the one he left me for was also large, and the other two wives after that - oh, and he has probably gained 100+ lbs since the split. I was probably 160 when I married him, but every time I lost he nutted up... brought bad food in, insisted we go out to eat, on and on.
My husband now loves me. I think we connect on a deep level because we were kids together, hung around the same group of people and like the same things. I think he sees me as he saw me 30 years ago. We crossed paths 3 1/2 years ago... and I sold him a used car that he came over weekly to make payments, started going to dinner, watching movies... etc. For months I knew this was a fantastic guy and went back through my dating history asking myself why I kept dating Mr. Wrong over and over. I didn't really "see it" at first and thought "friends". Til one night he was here watching a movie and some woman kept texting him, and I was jealous. The next night he called and said that girl was bugging the hell out of him, and he did not want to date her he wanted to date me. I knew then I'd marry him... and I did a year later.
If the marriage is good, both people are truly committed and the love is there the marriage will work out. If the marriage is shaky, one or both people are not totally committed to it and there wasn't really love there - who knows. I know a lot of people that stay in marriages that make them miserable, and I've known people to leave marriages that could have worked when the going gets tough.

I started dating my husband 3 years ago after loosing a good bit of weight... I was around 200 at the time. We went to Highshool together so he remembers me 120 or so. He knew I had just lost weight and even said he'd love me if I gained it all back and more. He blames himself that I did though, cause he loves to cook and loves to eat out. He is thin as a rail. In highschool he was the boy that was a friend... I wouldn't have thought of dating him - but marrying him at 45 was the best decision of my life.
My ex-husband (divorced 11 years) sabotaged every diet I ever did, he was also heavy... he would start a diet with me and then throw it in my face later... you don't care about your family - you go to the gym too much. You are obsessive about your diet, on and on. The last time I saw 160 lbs, this jerk had an affair with a 400+ lb woman (nothing wrong with 400+ lb women, unless they are screwing your husband). I stayed two more years (STUPID decision on my part), but he kept cheating. I think he had a fat fetish, although he got really mad when I said that... the one he left me for was also large, and the other two wives after that - oh, and he has probably gained 100+ lbs since the split. I was probably 160 when I married him, but every time I lost he nutted up... brought bad food in, insisted we go out to eat, on and on.
My husband now loves me. I think we connect on a deep level because we were kids together, hung around the same group of people and like the same things. I think he sees me as he saw me 30 years ago. We crossed paths 3 1/2 years ago... and I sold him a used car that he came over weekly to make payments, started going to dinner, watching movies... etc. For months I knew this was a fantastic guy and went back through my dating history asking myself why I kept dating Mr. Wrong over and over. I didn't really "see it" at first and thought "friends". Til one night he was here watching a movie and some woman kept texting him, and I was jealous. The next night he called and said that girl was bugging the hell out of him, and he did not want to date her he wanted to date me. I knew then I'd marry him... and I did a year later.
If the marriage is good, both people are truly committed and the love is there the marriage will work out. If the marriage is shaky, one or both people are not totally committed to it and there wasn't really love there - who knows. I know a lot of people that stay in marriages that make them miserable, and I've known people to leave marriages that could have worked when the going gets tough.

I quit caffeine about a month back and I had awful headaches. I probably drank 6 diet cokes a day, at that point I swapped to caffeine free diet coke. I kept regular around until I was past it. If I got one of the horrible headaches I would take excedrin Migraine and a couple of sips of the caffeine and that usually did it. It took me about 5 days to get all the way off. Today will be day 3 without the carbonated drinks. I have been working on quitting since I quit caffeine. I started diet sprite and diet orange, which I don't like to get me away from the diet coke. I went down to 2 a day pretty easily and have had 1 a day some days... but that addiction was/is a strong one. It ranks right up there with quitting smoking which I did 5 1/2 years ago. I even told the surgeon that I was a diet cokaholic. I'm hopefully having surgery in October and didn't want to deal with any major withdrawals when the time comes.

I quit caffeine about a month back and I had awful headaches. I probably drank 6 diet cokes a day, at that point I swapped to caffeine free diet coke. I kept regular around until I was past it. If I got one of the horrible headaches I would take excedrin Migraine and a couple of sips of the caffeine and that usually did it. It took me about 5 days to get all the way off. Today will be day 3 without the carbonated drinks. I have been working on quitting since I quit caffeine. I started diet sprite and diet orange, which I don't like to get me away from the diet coke. I went down to 2 a day pretty easily and have had 1 a day some days... but that addiction was/is a strong one. It ranks right up there with quitting smoking which I did 5 1/2 years ago. I even told the surgeon that I was a diet cokaholic. I'm hopefully having surgery in October and didn't want to deal with any major withdrawals when the time comes.

When I first started dating my husband I had just lost weight over the last year, was working out and looking pretty good. I wasn't at goal, never could make it that far. I was 200, and he knew I had worked hard. I knew he was a keeper when he said I'd still love you if you gained it back and more... it doesn't matter what you weight... I love you. My husband wears a size 29. I ended up gaining and worked hard to get down before the wedding, but was 230. Recently I was 287, but have lost a little. Hoping to have the surgery in October. He is supportive. What he said when we were dating means the world to me. I have went through a very stressful 2 years after our marriage. It isn't my husband, it is his kids and family and extreme circumstances. I think that is how I have gained to be my highest ever. During all the stress, I kept trying to diet and my hubby even said don't worry so much about it. Now he blames himself somewhat for me gaining, we eat out a lot, he loves to cook... I accept the blame, except what I can throw towards his kids and hateful family. I do not want any of them to know I am having this surgery. They have been mean, and I know they have made fun of my weight. His daughter practically called me a fat cow on Facebook. If you stay with this guy, this will always be in between you. You will always worry if I gain a pound he will leave, and he might. There are too many great men out there. Some may not have been attracted to you if you were the original weight, but once they fall for you, they will stand beside you. He isn't judging you for you or your heart, but you need to judge him for his heart. If he could be this hurtful this early in the game, I am sure he could be much more hurtful later.

I'll have to remember that! Thanks The No-Scalpel Vasectomy cracked me up...

I'll have to remember that! Thanks The No-Scalpel Vasectomy cracked me up...

I am a Rural Mail Carrier, and because of heavy lifting I was told I will be out a minimum of 6 weeks. I'll be returning to work (probably) in the middle of the Christmas rush. I have the time built up and looking forward to the vacation. I am also an artist/photographer wannabe and hoping to spend that time working on my passion. In a previous life I was a 911 dispatcher for 10 years... glad that's behind me.