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OH MY GOD...less than six weeks away. I cannot wait to get this crap off of my midsection and get me some real (fake) boobs. I am gonna be rocking my new body for the summer and I can't wait. How can I make this time go by quicker?:thumbup:

Update ladies (and gentlemen)...so...I told him that I want him to move out and it's like he was in denial. The following story I am telling you is for you to understand the circumstances, I, I no way am proud of it...I am quite ashamed. This past weekend, my brother came to my house to take me out on the town. He knows what I'm going through and he also knows that my mother and I are arguing and she hasn't talked to me in over three weeks. He told my sister in law that he's all that I have right now so he's going to take me out to have a good time. I was so excited. So...he picked me up at my house (he likes to show me off now so I love it) and we went to a local bar and met up with a friend of his. We were there for a little bit and then headed off to the local watering hole where I usually hang out. We had a couple of drinks there and then headed to a new club in our area. I ran into some friends from high school and was having a GREAT time. The last thing I remember...dancing on the dance floor with my friend from high school and then waking up on the sofa in the living room. Apparently when my brother dropped me off I opened the garage door and when my husband heard the door open, he opened up the laundry room door and saw me kissing my brothers friend. I, however, remember NONE of this. I have been told by my brother that I fell in my front yard and so did his friend. After telling my husband this, he said that perhaps my brothers friend was picking me up and he didn't see things clearly. He said that when I got in the house I couldn't walk or talk...it's all very scarey to me. At least I know that I was with my brother and nothing horrible happened. I may have embarassed myself but I didn't do anything too incredibly stupid. So...because he "thinks" that he saw us kissing...reality has set in and he's ready to move out. He's not mad at me...he said he was hurt and upset....he can't stand to picture me with someone else. So...we are suppose to sit down this coming Saturday to discuss the separation. I have gotten the forms from our state and we're going to do it ourselves to save money on an attorney (if we can come to an agreement). He has found a place to live and can move in after the first of the month. So...it's all about to become final. I don't really know how to feel...happy, sad, scared, terrified... Just thought that I would share. Thanks for being here for me.

OK...my loan was direct deposited this morning. It's all getting real now. I'm getting nervous but so very excited. My friend is getting a lower body lift next week and it does include a mons lift. I didn't ask my surgeon about that but I will call his assist today and ask. I can't believe that it's less than two months away. Since I have the money in the bank I can get it done anytime now but I need to save leave at work. YIKES...

OK folks...get ready for this. Went to counseling on Tuesday night. Everything went alright and I stayed very strong. It was difficult and I had big old anxieties. He is not ready to sit down and figure everything out because he's in shock. That's fine...I'm not in a hurry...it's been almost a year now...what a little bit more time (plus...money could be an issue at this point and time with my plastic surgery coming up). Anyway...the news must have been out that I am done. Either that or I have a sign on my forehead asking for all YOUNG guys to hit on me. So...after counseling I met my friend at the bar for a much needed drink. Well...the bartender was all into me...HE'S 23!!!! The other place that I hang out at...the guy there hitting on me...HE'S 26. OK...what's up with that? Very flattering but WTH? I'm not used to anyone hitting on me much less young guys. It's all very, very new to me. I don't know how to handle this...I just kind of laugh it off. Just thought I would share...have a great day everyone and as always...thanks for being here for me. Just know that all of your support has helped me a bunch and I'm sure that it will continue to help me and I truly appreciate all of it.

Hi...OK, so I'm not technically "single" right now but for anyone following some of my posts, you know the deal...going through a separation following my husbands numerous infidelities. Anyway...here goes nothing... 35/Female/Maryland 2 boys - ages 6 and 8 Interested in meeting friends/emails buddies/texts buddies I work full time for Uncle Sam and have been with the same agency for over 17 years. So...that's all about me...thanks!

I haven't been to a high altitude place but I have taken several trips on a plane and I have not encountered any problems. I have read that some people do but I haven't. I guess it's different for everyone. Good luck.

I think that my husband is jealous now but it's too late...he started having an affair when I started my weight loss journey. Now I'm starting with seperation... Anyway...yes, men will get jealous when others start to notice you...it's a hit to their ego. They are proud but worried. It's a tough road.

Thanks...I appreciate it. I'm a little nervous right now because I just faxed my paperwork for my loan for my upcoming plastic surgery. YIKES. The pain and the money....oh well, it will all be worth it.

Yes, it does feel awesome. Good for you...you are doing great. Here's the latest picture of me...it's a little crazy looking but my jeans are an 8 and the sweater is a Small (I know it's got to be a BIG small) but hell...I'll take it. lol

Oh believe me...I'm sure I'm not a true "6"...my jeans are 8's and some 10s. I started out this journey in a size 22/24 pants (tight at that) and a 2x and some 3x tops. I am just so much in love with my new life. I never knew that I could be so happy with myself. It truly is wonderful. I'm serious...if I can do it, anyone can. Great job to everyone!!!!:thumbdown:

Thanks everyone for your thoughts. Unfortunately our counseling isn't until tomorrow night but I did talk to him today and he seems to understand but he said he was just in shock. This is going to be hard but we're going to try to sit down and figure things out...not tonight but soon. One of my big concerns is because of my work schedule, he drops the kids off in the morning at daycare. I leave my house at 4:30 am...I'm going to see if he can come to the house in the mornings and take care of the kids. Wish me luck...Thanks again, everyone.

OK guys...I need some strong vibes sent my way. The weekend was very ackward. He was acting as if we didn't have a conversation. I am to the point where I really don't know what to do. And...on top of that I feel like I don't have my mothers support. I was full of anxieties and depression this weekend because everything is so strange to me. We have counseling tomorrow night and I plan to discuss this and only this. I don't know how else to say what I said...does he not understand that I think we need a seperation? What's the deal? Any suggestions?

Thanks for the compliments everyone. Believe me...I'm sure if I went to a different store a six wouldn't fit but I'm still happy about it. I want to wear the pants inside out so everyone can see :confused: I'm usually wearing a size 8 which is beyond my wildest dreams...never thought that I would see it. You guys...you can do it...you WILL succeed!!! If I can do it...anyone can. Keep a positive attitude and keep working hard...it's so worth it. THIN FEELS BETTER THAN FOOD TASTES!!!!! (it's true)

OK...so my new "obsession" is shopping for clothes because I can finally fit into some cute stuff. So...I went shopping the other day for some pants for work. I couldn't believe it...a size 6...A 6??? I wanted to run out of that fitting room and scream...I have NEVER been a size 6. Damn...I am so in love with my band...just thought I would share.:thumbup::biggrin:

Hey there...I can be your buddy...I live in MD also. I was banded on 4/30/07 and I love every single minute of my new life. I have lost 131 pounds and only have 4 more to go. Let me know if you want me to be your buddy!!!!

UPDATE: Hello all...wanted to give you an update. Last night I had a discussion with my husband and I told him that it's just not working. I told him that I didn't think that we should be husband and wife anymore...the feelings are not the same, there has been too much damage and I can't continue on like I'm happy in the marriage. I said that I am happy with myself and my kids but that I am uncomfortable around him and the thoughts of what he has done are constantly with me. We both cried...I told him that I didn't want to hurt him, despite what he may think. It was a very difficult conversation to have but I felt like it was the right time. I do worry about him and I told him that he has made great changes in his life but unfortunately for me, it's too late. We didn't discuss any particulars regarding a seperation but that's the next step. It's going to be hard but it's something that needs to be done. Who knows...maybe one day those feelings will return but right now there are none. It's very difficult to deal with all of this but I'm holding it together as best I can. Thanks to everyone for being here for me. This has been a great place to vent, get advice and I have made some pretty good friends here. Pray that things continue to go smoothly and it doesn't get ugly. I would hate for this to turn into something that it doesn't have to. Thanks guys!

I am scheduled in April for a LBL and breast lift with augmentation. My total is $19,600.

Hey there everyone...life is still treating me good (especially the scales). In my new-found love of myself I have become addicted to the treadmill and running. I really get some good "Tina" time when I'm running on the treadmill. I'm happier than I have been in a very long time. I'm sad because I think that my marriage may be over and I never wanted to end a marriage with divorce but I have learned that somethings are out of your control. My husband is truly trying everything in his power to make me happy but I'm just not feeling those same feelings towards him anymore. I think that I have finally realized that it's probably over and I'm content with that. Is that strange or what? I feel like I can finally stand up tall and say that I'm a strong woman and I can go through life by myself with my kids. I feel like a new woman!!!!!

Hey there...I'm a local to you guys too...I live in Southern Maryland and I was banded at George Washington University Hospital by Dr. Brody...what a life saver!!! Good luck everyone.

Can you add me? 128 lbs. gone FOREVER!!!!! Thanks!

Hi there. I guess you could put me in the "success" category. I'm am a 35 year old female who began my lap band journey on April 30, 2007. In September 2006 I had reached the point where I couldn't take it anymore. I went to my doctor and told him that I was interested in lapband. I had to follow the six-month "diet" before going to a surgeon. I did that and didn't lose any weight. So...off to a surgeon I went. My surgery was planned for April 30 and I had to do a two week liquid diet (Optifast). So...on April 16, 2007 I had a "Farewell to Fat" party at my house. I was done with it and ready to begin my "new life". On April 17 (the day that I started the liquid) I weighed 275 pounds. I am married (struggling with issues currently) and I have two lovely little boys. I work for the federal government in Washington DC. I have been with this agency for over 17 years. To date, I have lost 128 pounds. I have a new life...I feel great, have tons of energy and feel like a completely different person. I know how hard this is to do by yourself so I am available to assist anyone in any way that I can. I know that if I can do it...anyone can... Feel free to contact me and I'll assist you as best I can.

Words of wisdom???? Let's see...I kept telling myself that I didn't gain the weight overnight and I shouldn't expect to lose it overnight...once I decided to have the surgery, I set my mind to it and used my "tool". Sure...I had some times when I ate things that I shouldn't, but we're all human, right? Believe me...if I can do it, anyone can!!!!! Good luck.

Thanks!!! It feels so amazing. I just posted some pics in the Before and After thread...I feel like a completely different person!!!

Here's nothing...let's see if I can get these pictures to post...

Wow...what a feeling...I am in the "normal" zone for my BMI. I can't believe it. Truly I wouldn't consider myself "normal" by any means :wink2: but it's nice to see... I'm almost there guys!!!! My plastic surgery is on April 14 and I'm determined to get these last seven pounds off...I can't believe it....I'm jumping from the ceiling right now. Good luck everyone!!!