mumof2boys

OK, so the title says 21 more days but now I'm just a mere 7 days out from surgery. I cannot believe how quickly the time has gone. I can't believe that in just one week I will be at the hospital right now gearing up to go under the knife. Oh my God...the reality is incredible. I am just about ready...going to get my blood work done today and going to take my prescriptions to get filled. I'm doing it...it's all paid for and there's no turning back now. Holy cow...I can't believe it.

Well hello there to my lap band family. OK...so everyone was asking what happened that I finally said "ex"...nothing really happened...it just seemed appropriate. I am so loving life right now I can't tell you. This was my last weekend before my PS (without the kids). I went out this past weekend and had a complete blast. I really need to realize that I'm not 21 anymore though...I was up on stage dancing with the band on Saturday night...had the best time ever. So...just a mere 8 days away before going under the knife. I cannot believe that the time is here. I'm so excited I can't stand it. Everyone pray for me that everything goes well. I'm gonna have to take some "before" shots this week. Can I just tell you that I cannot wait to get boobs again. I never thought that I would get implants but my goodnes...I have nothing left to work with...lol Well guys...you have no idea how much it means to me to be able to talk to you all. You are really mean a lot to me. Thanks!

Hello everyone and Happy April Fools Day. So...here I am...13 days away from my plastic surgery and I couldn't be more excited. Life is wonderful right now. The Ex is getting on my last nerve but what else is new, huh? I am a new person and I'm gonna be even better after surgery. You guys have no idea how much you have helped me get through this past (almost) year. I cannot believe that I'm coming up on my one year anniversary of the most devastating day of my life. The last year has been a total emotional roller-coaster but I have come out of this one hell of a strong woman and I am so proud of myself. I have made some absolutely amazing friends, learned a lot about myself and have really improved. I cannot say enough!!! Well...just wanted to give you a quick little update...I'm doing wonderful...he's not...the kids are doing great and I'm happy 23 3/4 hours out of 24. Can't get much better than that, huh? :thumbdown::seeya::seeya: I hope that you all are doing great!!!

I need the some serious good vibes sent my way...in just 21 days I'm headed under the knife for my lower body lift and breast lift with augmentation. I'm really starting to freak out. I recently separated from my husband and I'm really scared about the recovery. I won't have someone with me 24/7. I hate pain and I know that I will be in some serious, serious pain. YIKES. Send me some good, non painful vibes!!! Thanks everyone.

Thanks guys. Guess what...3 weeks from today is the HUGE day...I'm getting scared to death. I go next Monday to pay for the surgery and to get all marked up to see what they are going to take off. I'm excited but terrified. I need some good vibes sent my way. So...my youngest started t-ball last night and my husband was there (he has become a wonderful father). I was on my cell phone almost the entire time and I know that it was just killing him. I think that deep inside his heart he knows it's over but he just doesn't want to admit it and to be honest he's kinda make me feel guilty about it. I didn't cause this...I didn't want my marriage to end...I never wanted to divorce...however, I will not be with someone that I cannot trust. So...I am truly loving my new life. Keep sending those good vibes to me...I need to stay strong and I need to not worry about this surgery...it's for the best, right? I'm gonna be a hot mama afterwards, right???

Well hello ladies (and gentlemen). The party was a success. We all had a wonderful time and there were $1,000 in sales so I got $100 in free stuff. Afterwards we went to the local watering hole (real small place) and had a couple of drinks. It really was fun. On Saturday I went to a bar where I know the bartender and had a couple of drinks while waiting for my girlfriend so we could go to A Chorus Line (I love that show). So...we went there and then met up with a guy from my work who wanted to hang out. This guy is really awesome. He drove downtown so he could hang out. Wasn't that sweet? Well, I got home around 2:30 am and had a blast. I have the kids this coming weekend but I'm also throwing a surprise birthday party for my dad. So...yet another busy weekend on the horizon. I'm doing great...absolutely wonderful...he's having trouble and I don't know what I can do to help him. I don't want to make him mad and make all of this ugly. I want us to get along and be civil for the kids. Thanks so much for caring about me. I love you guys so much. I am loving life right now!!!!!:frown:

I wish that all of you guys lived near me. We would be having one hell of a party at my house!!!! The suggestions, thoughts, prayers and everything else that you have given me is beyond words. For those of you that aren't too far from me (Charles County, MD)...let me know if you are interested...I'm having an adult female toy party next Friday night at my house. If you want to...you are more than welcome to attend. It should truly be a blast. Anyway....all of you are right. Just so you all know...I am NOT looking for a relationship with anyone...I am just sitting back and enjoying every single bit of all of this. I have never experienced it and I am just beeming like a pregnant woman (NO I'M NOT PREGNANT!!!!!). Anyway...thanks so much to all of you. Much love, ladies. Tina

You know what...YOU GUYS ROCK! I come here and read what you guys have to say and I just love it. OK...so today is going to be a weird day...let me tell you why... So...the guy that I was talking about before...can't talk to him enough...I truly enjoy talking to him...he's awesome. Then...there's this other guy who sent me a text message that said, "Good night my sexy godess"...Alrighty then...then...there's a guy here at work that is totally flirting with me so I was just gonna come right out and ask him if he was flirting but I don't have to...on my Facebook page my coworker made a picture with my face on Superwoman's body. I made a comment that said, "I look HOT as Superwoman". So...he sent me a private message that said, "You are hot even when not dressed as superwoman...but it doesn't hurt...LOL". So...apparently I have become some magnet. This is ALL new to me...I'm sitting here blushing :thumbup: Goodness ladies...what in the world is going on here? Is it a full moon or something?

Welcome fellow Marylander...I had to do the 6 month diet and it went by pretty quickly. I had my heart set on getting the band so I had those 6 months to prepare. I'm almost two years out now and I am loving life more than I ever imagined possible. Good luck with everything and if you want a Maryland buddy...here I am!

Good morning everyone. Well, last night was my first night all by myself. The boys spent the night with their dad. So...I was absolutely fine. Is that wrong? I came home, washed my car, did the dishes and started cleaning the house. It was quiet and of course I missed my boys like crazy but I did fine. Here's what else happened yesterday...ever since that night that I can't remember (the one where apparently I was kissing my brothers friend)...my husband thinks that I have "someone else". So...he started snooping and asked me about a phone number that is on my cell phone bill. It's on there all over the place. It's a guy who has dealt with the same thing that I am going through. I didn't lie to him...I told him...it's a guy that I met whose wife cheated on him with their neighbor...they have two children as well. In talking with this person it helps me. He doesn't understand how I can open up to strangers but I find it easier to do because people don't know me or him so they can be more objective. What do you guys think? Can't wait to hear from you all.

Girl...there is no stripping naked with this body...lol...4 weeks from today I go under the knife to get rid of this flabby crap. Until then...I'll stay covered up. :laugh: Speaking of the surgery...who the heck am I gonna have come take care of me? I talked to my friend yesterday who had the surgery two weeks ago (minus the boobs) and she said that she needed someone with her 24/7 for AT LEAST the first week. What the heck am I gonna do? I think he's gonna keep the kids that week but who is gonna help me? I can't do it by myself. From what I understand I won't even be able to stand up alone. YIKES.

Well, another night and everything went alright for me. Tomorrow night will be weird because the boys will be with their dad. I'll be in the house all by myself. That's gonna be different for me. Maybe I'll go to bed early or maybe I'll step out for a bit. Maybe I'll do both...lol... Thanks for continuing to think of me during this time. You guys have really been a big help.

In exactly four weeks from today I'm having a lower body lift and breast lift with augmentation. My total costs, (including the hospital and all follow-ups) is $19,600. Good luck

Well, here I am...my first Monday morning as a single mom. I'm doing alright...he's not doing so well. I am worried about him but I think he'll get through it. The kids are doing well. I did go out Friday night and I had a very good time. I didn't go overboard and I remember everything:) The incident a couple of weeks ago really scared me so I was extremely careful, plus I didn't have my brother with me to watch out for me. The kids and I went to my brothers on Saturday morning and hung out with him and my sister-in-law while he moved out. The kids were so very well behaved it was kind of strange. Yesterday I dropped the kids off at his place for a couple of hours. He took them to the park and shopping. Things seem to be going alright...he came to the house this morning so I could keep my same work schedule and he took them to daycare for me. So...we are getting along very well and I'm doing well. For now...things are good...thanks for all the thoughts and prayers. You guys rock!!!!!

You guys are truly cracking me up. I still have my "stress" headache but I just took something for that. I'm gonna try to have an awesome time tonight (whatever I may end up doing) and then it's off to single motherhood. I'll have to get a Barry White collection and keep it on hand because I know those young bucks don't know anything about Barry White....lol...

What a minute here ladies...I thought this thread was mine. lol....I'm glad that you guys can make me laugh...I really need it, but don't forget to send some love this way!!!!

You're not upsetting me at all. I couldn't agree with you more. I guess it's just that I could never intentionally hurt someone and I feel like that's what I am doing right now. I know deep down that I'm not but that's just how I am. I guess I have let people walk all over me for so long because of my insecurities that I have just accepted things in the past. This is totally unlike me...to finally take a stand and this is one tough stand to take. Don't get me wrong...it would have been over a long time ago if we didn't have children. I must say that aside from all of this, I truly am loving my life. I have never in my life gotten more attention that I get right now. I know it's probably not the right way to look at it but the attention that I am getting makes me feel so good about myself. If I were still almost 300 pounds I guarantee that I would just accept this and move on. I would probably have thought that I deserved it and it was all my fault. Luckily that's not me anymore. I have become a completely different person. In fact, two nights ago I met up with two gals from my area who had lap band (one I met on here). While we were at the restaurant I was flirting with the waiter. My friend made the comment that I was totally different than I was a year ago. I used to be shy and conservative and now I don't hesitate to talk to people. I know that I shouldn't but I really do feel bad for my husband. I know that he wants nothing more than to be able to see his children every day. You're right though...he did this...he wasn't thinking about me or them when he was screwing her or the other one(s)...so...I just have to stay strong. I think that I'll go out tonight since it will basically be my last night with someone in the house who can watch the kids. I'll have to take advantage of it...not to mention I don't want him to try to talk me into letting him stay. I really do appreciate everyone on here. You guys have been helping me with for almost an entire year. I really can't believe it's been that long. Now...my focus is on my kids, me and my upcoming surgery. Woo Hoo Tina

Well, tomorrow is the big day. I don't know what to think right now. All that keeps going through my mind is that this time last year I was in Las Vegas while my husband was at home planning his next sexual encounter at a hotel with HER. Man...I have such a headache today. This stress is starting already. I have been doing alright until I got a text from him this morning saying, "Are you sure this is what you want". What I really want is a damn time machine so I can go back in time and change my life (all except my kids and the lapband :laugh:). The kids seem to be doing fine. In fact, I told them that we (me and them) were going to go to my brothers house on Saturday. My oldest said, "Is that when daddy is moving". It will all be different...my life is about to change like I never ever thought that it would.

Thanks everyone for your thoughts. I am starting to freak a bit but I think it's because I'm worried about him. He's a guy so guy's usually don't talk to one another about these types of things...he is in need of a good friend right now who he can talk to. I don't want him to hurt and I know that he is. I'm going to take the boys and go visit my brother this weekend while he moves out. I don't think it's a good idea for us to be there. It will be too difficult for everyone. I just have to stay strong. I'm really worried about my surgery coming up. I won't have anyone there with me 24/7. I will be in a lot of pain and needs lots of help. My parents are right next door and I know they will help but what if I need something or someone in the middle of the night? I need to stop stressing and just stay strong and continue on with what I'm doing. Everything will work its way out, right?

Been there...tried it...didn't like it so much. EXIT ONLY!!!

I'm not necessarily going "bigger" but I went in to see how much more it would cost to add a breast lift with the lower body lift. Well, he showed me what I would look like with just a breast lift. Right now I'm wearing a C cup (mind you, they are so saggy it's basically skin stuffed into a C cup) and it would make me an A cup. Oh, hell no. So, I'm going to be a full C but it will be much nicer than I have now. I also think that I'm gonna with with silicone instead of saline. I am so nervous I cannot even tell ya. My girlfriend had gastric bypass five years ago. She has lost 160 pounds and last week she had a lower body lift. She told me that the pain meds. are a MUST. Hearing her say that scared me even more. Good luck to you with your procedure. I'll be thinking about you...we can get through this!

Well, in just five weeks from today I'll be under the knife at this time. I am so nervous. I'll be getting a lower body lift and breast lift with augmentation. OUCH

Well...just wanted everyone to know that he is moving out this coming weekend. I have very mixed emotions about it. I'm scared of being a single mom but I also think that it may be for the best right now. Maybe we just need time apart...maybe things will work out if we're not living together while trying to work them out. Right now I just have so many emotions going on. He's having a tough time with it. I told the kids and I got emotional...they seemed fine but I don't think that they quite understand yet. Uuuuggghhhh...why do things have to be so difficult? Keep the prayers coming. Thanks everyone.

How's everyone doing? I am so excited for all of you...banded, going to be banded or almost banded. I want everyone to feel the joy that I am feeling with this band. I hope that you are all doing well and I can't wait to hear from each of you. Keep your chins up and remember my saying... "THIN FEELS BETTER THAN food TASTES!!!!" Take care everyone and hope to hear from you soon. Tina