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I DID IT!!!! Hey everyone...I did it. I walked all 60 miles in the 3-Day Breast Cancer walk. It was very rewarding and wonderful. I am planning on doing it again next year. I never thought that I would be able to do it but I did. I'm so proud of myself. I did hurt my leg...my tendons in my right leg are inflamed. I'll be alright...the bad thing...I walk 60 miles and I gain 6 pounds. What's up with that? I could only imagine how the scales would be if I walked 100 miles... Anyway...thanks for all of your support.

It's so horrible to hear of others that have gone through this. I also know that there are many more who will feel this pain after us. I cannot believe the statistics that I found. I believe it was 1 in every 3 marriages will be faced with infidelity at some point in their marriage. What is that all about? Don't people take vows seriously? If you want to mess around with others, why bother getting married...stay single and sleep with whoever you want but don't be doing that while married to me and risk my health. OK...enough venting for today, it just makes me mad that so many people have to deal with this pain. It's downright terrible. So...we had a pretty good weekend. We had a date Saturday night. We hired a babysitter and we went out to dinner and then hung out at a bar and played pool. We had a great time. Then, of course yesterday it was all about watching the Redskins whip up on the Cowboys. (GO SKINS!!!) So, we're getting there but I find myself holding my sadness in because I can tell that he is deeply depressed. I cry when I'm in the shower or when I'm in a room by myself. I can't help it sometimes. I'm concerned at how I will be starting Friday with doing the 3-Day Walk. I am going to be wondering what he's doing all the time. Plus...I can't use my cell phone while walking (it's one of the rules). Luckily, my sister-in-law is waking with me so I'll have someone to talk to. For now, I don't know how to convince him to get to a doctor for his depression. It is getting really bad. I'm not trying to be selfish but I need some help getting through this too and I can't turn to him when he's in this state. I can't even ask questions because I don't know how he will react. It's driving me crazy. What do I do? Thanks to everyone once again for your friendship, donations to my walk, words of wisdom and for listening to my venting. You all are so great!

Anne, I'm sorry to hear that you had to go through the same thing. It sure is painful, isn't it? However, it's very good to hear that you and your husband are doing well and happier than ever. I have to ask...do you still have triggers? I fear that they will never go away and sometimes they are very bad and send me into huge panic attacks. They are aweful and there are quite a few things that trigger me. I know that it's still fairly new for me and that it's going to take a very long time to move forward but I was just curious...how long did it take you to get over the triggers, if you ever did. Thanks!

You guys are going to make me cry...you have no idea how good it feels to hear that I have helped you guys. You know, the saying is..."Things happen for a reason..."...I guess that this was meant to happen to me so that I could prevent the pain for many others. I wish everyone the very best. I want nothing but happiness...rainbows and butterflys for everyone!!! BTW...my donations for the walk are going up by the minute. I love you guys!!!!

Thank you, ladies. It's nice to hear that I could help someone (even though I have to go through this painful experience). It is difficult to be so open and honest with folks that you really don't know but you guys have no idea how much you have helped me as well. I know that marriage is a lot of work and it is often very difficult but once someone strays you cannot go back in time and change anything. At that point, the damage is done and the pain for that person will never go away. If I helped anyone who was thinking of straying I can hold my head up high because I never want anyone to feel the pain that I feel (except of course the woman who screwed my husband). Anyway...thanks for the kind words and thank you both for your donations!!! You guys are wonderful.

Well hello everyone!!! It's been about a week since I checked in with everyone. Let me tell you...I have had a pretty good week and a half. My husband and I have cut back our counselling to every other week instead of every week (it saves quite a bit of money too). We are doing things as a couple and trying to make new "happy" memories. We went on a fishing trip last week and we go to the Redskins games. We are suppose to go camping this weekend if it doesn't rain. Don't get me wrong...the pain, anger and disappointment is still there but I'm doing a little better. I can truly say that he is doing everything right. My newest problem is that next weekend I'm scheduled to participate in the 3-Day Breast Cancer walk. I have to complete my online registration by tomorrow and I haven't earned enough money in donations to participate in the event. I'm so bummed. I'm running around today in an attempt to obtain the rest of the money. I have always wanted to do this walk and now that I'm 125 lighter I know that I can do it. If any of you guys would be interested in donating to me, you can do so by going to the following link: Welcome to the Washington DC Breast Cancer 3-Day: I cannot tell you all how much your support has helped me in this difficult time. I know that I have a long way to go to recover from this betrayal and I know that I can count on you guys to get me through it. Thanks to everyone...you are all true friends to me!!!

Hey there, friends. Last week I posted this in the Rants thread but I thought that I would try it here too. In January, I registered to participate in the 3-Day Breast Cancer Walk (I will be walking for a total of 60 miles). I have always wanted to participate in this very worthy cause but I knew that I could NEVER make the 60 miles before. Well, as many of you know, in April I learned of my husbands affair and I have been dedicating the majority of my time healing myself, trying to save my marriage and maintain a healthy life for my kids. In doing so, my fundraising efforts for the 3-Day Walk fell short. The walk is scheduled to begin next Friday (October 3). I have until tomorrow to raise an additional $1,100 so that I can participate in the walk. I am asking anyone out there who would like to donate on my behalf to please do so. I would appreciate any and all donations. I want to do this walk so badly. If you are interested in donating to me, you can get to my page at the following link: Welcome to the Washington DC Breast Cancer 3-Day: I want to thank everyone (for everything). You guys have been there for me when I first had my surgery, when I had my first PB, when I learned of my husbands affair and everything in between. You really are like familiy and for that I am very thankful. Thanks, guys!!! :rolleyes2:

Now she's leading by 56...go BBK...go BBK!!!!!!!!

Hello there...another Waldorfian here!!! I was banded April 30, 2007 and I'm down 125 pounds and loving every minute of life. Nice to meet everyone. Good luck to you all!!!!

I wasn't sure where to post this...if you think I'll get a better response in the lounge, by all means, feel free to move it. Thanks!

That's a great idea. I have some things that I really need to get rid of too. I have until four weeks after the event to completely finish raising the money but if I don't have to $2,200 by the time of the walk, I have to give my credit card number and at the end of four weeks, they will charge it. So...I will donate a couple hundred but I can't do much more than that. Thanks!

Thank you so much...you have no idea how much that means to me. You are awesome!!!! :biggrin:

Done!!! We're going to make sure that you win this thing, BBK.

Hi there everyone...back in January I registered for the 3-Day Breast Cancer walk. When you register, you commit to raising $2,200. Well, the walk is in two weeks and I'm not at that amount yet. I really want to do this walk very badly. I have always wanted to do it but I was too heavy and out of shape. If any of you guys would be interested in helping me get to my goal so I can walk, I would greatly appreciate it. I'm not giving up...I am determined to get enough donations so I can walk with the other thousands of individuals for sixty miles. Don't forget, this is for a very worthy cause, as well. Any help is greatly appreciated. Thanks!!!! You can get to my link to donate at: Welcome to the Washington DC Breast Cancer 3-Day:

OK...I haven't posted in a very long time but I'm getting really close to my goal so I figured I would post some pics. I'm really excited with my "new" body but I'll be even more excited when I have my lower body lift in the spring. I can't wait. Well...here goes...

I just voted!!! BBK, we're going to make sure that you win this. You have helped so many of us on here, it's time for us to repay the favor. You rock!!!

Hello everyone and happy Monday to you. Just wanted to give you a little update. I just had one of the best weekends that I have had in a long time. We took the kids to the fair, got haircuts, hung out with my brother and sister-in-law and then yesterday we went to the Redskins game. We got along great (after a kind of rough week). It was wonderful. I'm starting to slowly get back on track. I know that the pain and hurt will NEVER go away but I can do my best to get back to a happy place. I will continue to post as I go through this hellacious roller coaster. I appreciate everyone who has kept up with my story and for those that comment and send private messages. You have no idea just how much it means to me. Thanks, guys!!!!:embaressed_smile:

I don't drink carbonation. Smirnoff and Mike's Hard Lemonade don't really have carbonation and if so, it's just a small amount. I have not had a beer or soft drink since surgery. I was taking no chances. In fact, before I open the Mike's Hard Lemonade I shake it a bit to get the cranberry mixed up pretty good. You should try it...it's only 97 calories compared to 230 calories for a regular Smirnoff. Before surgery I was also worried about not drinking during meals but it is so easy to get used to. In fact, for me, if I drink while eating, it kind of hurts. Once I get full I can't put anything on top of it or it will hurt, including Water. If you get something stuck, that's the last thing that you want to do, drink something. You guys can all do it. If I can do it, anyone can. I wish you all so much luck. I can't wait to hear that you have gotten to your goal. I'm hoping to get to mine by the end of the month. It's going to be a lot of hard work but I really want to see 140 on those scales.

Thanks so much and you're right...I do have so much more confidence now and I'm loving every minute of it. I was banded on April 30, 2007, by April 30, 2008 I was down 100 pounds. The bottle in my hand...Smirnoff Ice Light...I drink that and Mike's Hard Cranberry Lemonaide Light (that's a mouth-full).

I can understand that you will be nervous. I was too but I just kept thinking about how much better my life will be after losing the weight. I haven't posted in the before and after thread in a long time, but here is a peak at what I used to look like and what I look like now...

It sure is possible. I have lost 124 pounds and only have 11 to go. When you set your mind to it and you work with your band and exercise, the sky is your limit. You can do it...keep a positive attitude and you'll be there before you know it. I never in a million years thought that I would be smaller than I was in high school and here I am!!! Good luck to everyone.

Believe me...it was a very difficult decision to contact her husband. He did not respond to my email, but that's alright. I did not bad mouth her or say much about the affair. I just felt that if he did not know, he had a right to know. I thought about doing it for a very long time and I finally got the courage to do it. I was shaking as I was typing it. I didn't do it to mess up her marriage or "get back" at her. I could care less about her. As far as I'm concerned, she's a total piece of crap...the lowest form of human on the planet. I think that part of the reason that I wanted to reach out to him so badly is because when I have spoken to her in the past, she NEVER apologized...no remorse, nothing. She thought that it was funny and she never took any responsibility for her role in the affair. Had she said she was sorry and felt a little remorse I may not have been inclined to reach out to her husband. However, after thinking long and hard I imagined him sitting around thinking that his marriage was rainbows and butterflies when in fact she had strayed and I seriously don't think it was the first time or the last. He had a right to know the behavior or his wife while she is at work. I only wish that someone had told me about my husbands doings. Thanks everyone!!!

I thought that I would post some pictures from Saturday night. Here goes...(The first one is from when I first walked in the door and everyone said, "Surprise") Sorry that the second one is sideways, I couldn't figure out how to put it the right way. I'm sure that you can see that I had a great time.

Good morning and happy Monday. My birthday was WONDERFUL!!! I spent the day at the spa with my sister-in-law. I had a full body massage, manicure, peducire, eyebrow wax and makeup application. Then...when I got back home, I opened the door and "SURPRISE"!!! My husband had a surprise birthday party for me. There was a DJ there and everything. I saw people that I haven't seen in a long time. Some folks didn't recognize me. It was wonderful. It was a great time and my mother made sure that I knew that it was ALL my husbands idea. What can I say...it was probably the best birthday that I have ever had. He's trying his best to make things so much better for me. I danced the night away and didn't want the night to end. It wa great!:thumbup:

Thanks everyone. By the way...I don't know if I mentioned this or not but she recently moved 5 states away (with her husband). Woo Hoo!!!!! When I first talked to her she said that he was moving but she wasn't because he kicked her out. Funny how things work out, huh? :biggrin:It's funny how she wouldn't say those things to me when she lived here but now she has the courage to say something. What a chicken s**t!