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Well hello, hello, hello to my LB buddies. I am back from my cruise and back at work :thumbup: The cruise was absolutely AWESOME...I loved every single minute of it...ate like a cow and drank like a fish...surprisingly I didn't gain 1 single ounce. I'm not sure how that happened but I'm not going to argue about it. So...here's the latest on me...my divorce hearing is May 26 at 9:30 am...but who's counting :ohmy:. The ex is a complete loser and I can't wait to get this divorce finalized. On a personal note, life is great...my bf's daugher celebrates her 16th birthday tomorrow and I'm very excited for her. My kids are doing wonderful in school (both made the honor roll again) and my bf's son is struggling with anger issues because of his wonderful mother but we're all helping him deal with things. On a lapband note...I got a fill about 6 weeks ago...it was super tight and had to go back the next day to get some taken out...since that time I have been dealing with a bit of reflux...I have a prescription for it but sometimes it gets pretty bad. The last night of the cruise I was up all night throwing up because of reflux...I was eating too late and I knew better so I suffered the consequences. However, since I have been back I have not had one problem so I'm feeling pretty good about it. I would like to get off about 15-20 pounds but I'm not going to kill myself doing so. I don't think I'll have too much of a problem since the temperature outside will be getting better, I can jump right back into my exercising. I hope that all of my buddies are doing well...we don't chat like we used to and I miss that . Well...take care everyone...just thought I would give you a little update (if anyone was interested...lol)

I see that this thread is a little older but thought that I could share my experience with this. I had a vaginal sling inserted in February 2006 to lift my bladder for this same reason. My bladder fell following the pregnancy of my first son and the second one didn't help much either. My babys were big (9 1/2 lbs. and 10 lbs. 4 oz). So...got the sling and it didn't change a thing...got lap band in 2007 and it didn't help me either. I too had the silicone injection and pills and everything else. I hope that your find something to work for you because I gotta tell you...I know how you feel. I have been wearing pads every single day for the last 10 years and I hate it!!! Good luck to you!

So...I know this is an old thread but I just came up on it and I'm sitting at work laughing out loud. I will keep my comments to myself until my divorce hearing (May 26)...

Hey Gordita, I am almost 3 years out myself and was going through the same thing. I was getting a little depressed because I picked up quite a few pounds during our very "snowy" winter. So...I headed back to the doctor for a fill (my last one was in November 2008). Well...during my doctors visit, they advised me that as time goes on, they are seeing that patients that have had the band 2-3 years have less saline in their bands. They advised that it's not from a leak but probably just little amounts escaping through the port because of it being sticked so many times over the years. Anyway...they said that they are seeing that patients are approximately 1-2 ccs less than what their chart states they should have. So...in saying this, they wanted to compare mine. At my visit in November 2008, my chart stated that I had 12.5ccs in my band...so...they drained it all to see just how much was in there now. Are you ready for this...6ccs. So...I got a fill of 2ccs but it was waaaaaaay too much...I was up all night vomiting from my own spit. So...I went back the following day and had 1cc removed. I have lost 12 pounds in 5 weeks and have great restriction. So...I think it's time for you to go in for a fill...don't get discouraged...that's why we have the band...it's a tool and if we continue to use it correctly we will continue down our road to healthy living. Good luck!

Every single morning...get up, go to the restroom and get on the scales...lets me know if I need to "alter" my eating for that day and it's been working pretty well for me...however, everyone is different and when you find what works best for you...Stick to it.

Last year I had a lower body lift and a breast lift with augmentation and it resulted in about 5 lbs. of skin being removed. Good luck.

Well...let's see...I'm almost 3 years out and I have rewarded myself along the way. When I lost my first 50 pounds I rewarded myself with my very first COACH bag (I have about 10 now...couldn't get enough...lol). I have bought LOTS of clothes throughout the journey and last year I had a lower body lift and breast lift with implants. In one month from today, I take sail for my very first cruise...I'm going to the Bahamas and probably the biggest reward that I have received in all of this...a divorce...I didn't ask for it but once all of the information came to surface about my soon-to-be-ex-husbands cheating...I fell in love with myself and my new life and me and my boys are happy as can be. Life is wonderful and I love my band.

Good luck to you...I went through just about the same thing one year ago. I had a lower body lift (all the way around my body) and breast lift with implants (didn't do the thighs). You will do great! Can't wait to see pics. I hope you have a speedy recovery and enjoy those drains. :thumbup:

Hey there everyone...I hope that you are all doing well. Alright...I need your help...I need to be hit with a 2x4...I have picked up some pounds and I'm sooooooo mad at myself. :ohmy::cursing::ohmy::cursing::ohmy: I got a fill two weeks ago and I have dropped 8 of the pounds but I still am having a problem with what I "want" to eat...this truly sucks. I was doing so well and I know that I haven't gone overboard but damn...I'm really coming down on myself because this is depressing. I am going on a cruise to the Bahamas in one month from today and I want to drop 20 pounds...I know that is a lot for a month but geez...I need your encouragement. I bought two new bikinis yesterday for my trip and there is NO way that I will put them on my body unless I drop this weight. What the heck is my problem? :thumbup: On another note...I go to court on Monday for my scheduling conference for my divorce. The ex has been out of my house for over a year so my divorce should be final real soon and I'm getting excited about that. My "friend" and I are doing wonderfully and my youngest son turned 7 next week...life has been SUPER busy with the kids and their schoolwork and extra activities...I need to make the time to exercise and I need to stay away from the junk food. Well...enough rambling. I hope you are all doing well and I'm just waiting for all of you to hit me and get me back on track. Thanks, guys.

Hey hey hey everyone...so...in my earlier post, I stayed away from telling everyone that I have put on a few pounds, obviously because I'm not proud of it. So...I have an appointment at 9:30 this morning to get a fill. I'm nervous about going because I haven't had a fill since August 2008. I don't think that he's gonna be mad at me...I haven't gained that much. I'm also a little excited because I haven't seen him since my plastic surgery. I'm really curious to see what he's going to say to me. Wish me luck everyone.

LMAO...Plain, you are too funny. So...today is the "ex's" 30th day to file his answer...the anticipation is killing me...nothing yet...could be interesting. I'm waiting for either no answer filed or some sort of bombshell to go off...I'm hoping for no answer. Keep your fingers crossed for me that this turns out in my favor.

Well hello everyone...it's been a long time. I hope that you all had a wonderful holiday. So...here's the downlow on me and my life as of today: My (soon to be ex) husband was served with papers on December 12. He has 30 days to file an answer so I'm waiting to hear when that happens. I cannot get an "absolute" divorce until March, which is one year after he moved out of our residence. Believe me...I am counting down the minutes. I have the absolute greatest attorney in our county and I feel great about him representing me. I was very worried about my ability to afford everything on my own but after speaking to my attorney, my worries have subsided. My Christmas was wonderful. It was a little weird without "him" there...not because I wanted him there at all, it was just different. I provided my children with a Christmas just like in the past (which I'm paying for now...OUCH). My youngest made me cry when he opened up his PSP...my boys are absolutely my world. Now...I was completely hooked up for Christmas like never before. You see...all of my past Christmas' consisted of gifts for me that I wrote on a list for my ex. He would go straight down the list, buy what was on there and nothing else...no thought put into anything, no meaning behind it. Now...this year was something really special. I never knew that it could be so good. I got clothes, jewelry, perfume and all kinds of things that I just LOVE. My "friend" was completely sent to me from up above. New Year's Eve was also wonderful. My boys and I went to my "friends" relatives house for a party. We all had an absolute wonderful time. My 2010 started off with a bang. What can I say...I am happier now than I have EVER been in my entire life. In two months I should be free from baby daddy drama (as much as possible) and I can begin living my life as a truly single mom. Never in my wildest dreams did I ever want to be a divorced woman but I know in my heart that I made the right decision. I was completely miserable in my marriage and just in it to survive and be a part of a family unit. I have realized that me and my boys can be happy, which makes life great. My boys just love my "friends" kids to death. We spend lots of time together and in fact my boys ask where they are on the weekends if they are not with us. They are always asking if they can come over and spend the night or if we can all go do something...it truly is wonderful. Well...just thought that I would give a little update because it's been a while. I hope everyone is doing well and I hope to hear from you all. Thanks so much for all of your support and friendship throughout this difficult time. You guys truly rock!

OMG...almost forgot...the ex is talking to "HER" again...the homewrecking whore...can you believe that? We still have a joint cell phone account and I was looking at his records the other day and sure enough...there was her cell phone number. I was numb...I couldn't believe it. He will NEVER change and I know for sure that my decision to end that horrible marriage was the right thing to do. Life is GREAT!

Well hello, hello, hello everyone! Long time...no talk. So...life has been pretty good despite the fact that my soon to be ex will not agree to any kind of separation agreement that I come up with so. So...went to an attorney yesterday (the highest priced one in my area) and I retained him. My ex will certainly wish that he had agreed to my paperwork when he gets served. Looks like he's gonna be pretty damn broke for about two years, until I have to sell the house. I'm not trying to bleed him out of money but it is what it is. So...looks like I'll be able to feed the kids afterall...lol Things are going fantastic for me...he will be "served" with the paperwork probably the Monday after Thanksgiving. The attorney said that my divorce can be final in March. Once the paperwork is all done and everything is final and I'm divorced...I'm off to Vegas to celebrate...NO JOKE!!!! So...my "friend" and I are getting along fantastic! He's so damn wonderful I can't even describe it. I'm getting excited about the upcoming holidays even though I don't have the money that I would like to have to buy Christmas gifts. It's alright though because as long as I get to spend time with family I will be alright. Oh...did I tell everyone that I'm going to be an Aunt? My brother and sister-in-law are expecting in May and I couldn't be more excited. I will have a baby nephew and I can't wait. I have already started buying baby clothes. I hope that everyone is doing well...just wanted to give a little shout out to everyone and let them know that I'm floating on cloud 9...legal paperwork is in the works and I'm happier than a kid in a candy store. Oh...I have picked up a couple of pounds but I'm nipping that in the bud...started counting my calories again and working out...want to lose 13 pounds by Christmas...it can be done...NO...it WILL be done. Well...I would love to hear how everyone else is doing!

OK...so, I forgot to mention that today is office dudes last day working in my building. He won't even be working in DC anymore so it's most likely that I won't see him anymore unless he happens to come here for a visit or something. My new guy doesn't know about the discussions that me and office dude recently had because he already feels threatened by him because he works here and he feels that I will get back with him. If he knew that office dude told me that he was in love with me, all hell would break loose. So...today's his last day here...my new guy is having big anxieties today, thinking office dude is going to take me to lunch...even though I wouldn't go. So...I will be hiding out in my office all day long today. :thumbup:

Good morning, my friends...lots going on. So...the soon to be ex husband is really off of his rocker. We were attempting to be civil and do this divorce without involving attorneys but it's not going to happen. I guess trying to save money is out of the question. I have an appointment today at 2:00 with a lawyer. As far as infidelity goes...I can't divorce on those grounds anymore...in Maryland...once you are aware of the infidelity, if you have relations with that person after finding out, the courts view that as "forgiving" the other person and you cannot use that as a grounds for divorce. Well...I stayed with him for almost a year in an attempt to save the marriage so......you can all read between the lines. Now...on another note...my life with my "friend" is absolutely fantastic...couldn't be better. I met his ex-wife last weekend as I was helping his daughter prepare for the Homecoming Dance. Everything went well. Now...to the drama...the crazy "stalker" chick is still around and doesn't show any signs of getting the hint. We're gonna have to figure out what to do with her...she's a damn mess. Here's where it gets crazy...prior to meeting and hanging out with my "friend", I had been seeing a guy at my work. It was known from the start that he did not want a relationship (his exact words) so I thought things were fine. As time went on, I began to get attached to this person and have feelings for him. I started to back away because I didn't want to get hurt...he made it clear that he wasn't interested in a future that included children and as we all know...I have two of them and they are my world. He was very open and honest with me from the very beginning. So...I met my new "friend" and I told this guy that I was talking to someone else and we couldn't hang out. I cherish this guys friendship because he was there for me for some very difficult times. He's a very nice guy and I know he would do anything for me. So...last night, he opened up to me and told me that he had fallen in love with me but didn't know how to tell me. He said that he's not telling me that now to try to come between me and my new guy because all he wants for me is happiness...he said that he had distanced himself from me (prior to me meeting my new guy) because he was afraid to tell me his feelings because of the previous boundaries that were set from the beginning (by him). He said that he feels like he missed out on a very big opportunity in his life (being with me) and that he was willing to accept my children into his life. All of this information really took me off-guard and upset me. I had fallen for this guy but knew that nothing could come of it, only to find out now that he was feeling the same way....don't get me wrong...nothing is coming between me and my new guy. He is by far the best person in the world for me...he absolutely cherishes the ground that I walk on and I think the world of him but getting all of this information last night was pretty tough for me. So...why is it that people don't want you until they know that they can't have you? Give me some insight here...all men comments are welcome...

Well guys...I did it again...the 2009 3 Day Walk is a memory for me...it was quite a journey...I only got one blister but I got one hell of a shin splint that hurts like you would not believe. The pain will go away but the memory of the event will last forever. I met some amazing people. Doing the walk by myself was interesting but it was all worth it. I still have quite a bit of fundraising to do...I fell $900 short of the minimum so I have 4 weeks to come up with it or I have to pay it...YIKES...I have faith that I can work it out though. Tami...good for you...I wish that I could say that I was only 4 short weeks away from a divorce....things have taken an ugly turn for me...things that we discussed have changed. He kept asking me to type up a settlement agreement so we could get the ball rolling...I did that he he agreed to nothing in the document...he went back on every single thing that he said before and now he even wants half of my retirement (which, unfortunately he is entitled to). I wish that I could just blink my eyes and be divorced and live my life but it looks like I have quite the road ahead of me. Best wishes to you and I'm glad that you are doing what is best for you. Well guys...I'm sore as heck so I'm taking it easy and gonna gear up for the 2010 walk. I'm going to continue to do these walks until my old body just can't take it anymore. The experience is incredible and worth all the pain involved. Thanks to everyone who supported my fundraising efforts with donations and thanks to all of those who wished me luck. You guys are the best.