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DeLarla, I feel for what you are going through. It is so true that when one person in a family changes, the entire family has to adjust. Some are supportive, others are very negative and others try to sabotage our efforts. That kind of sounds like what your husband is doing, mine is just not supportive. This change we are making is very threatening to spouses, they may feel we will not find them attractive anymore. Or they are threatened that now their "fat" wives are now being checked out. It is so hard b/c we are doing this not so we look super hot, not that that's bad, but we are doing this for our health! You have it right when you say he needs to grow up, this is his issue not yours. Just like this negativity of my husband is his issue, not mine. We are lucky we have a place like this to share stories and get support. Not everyone understands that this process isn't just about losing weight, it changes all sorts of things. It can bring out insecurities in ourselves as well as those around us. All we can do is move forward towards our goals and work on our relationships. Thank you so much for sharing, it feels kinda lonely out here sometimes! Debbie

Thank you ladies. It is so funny how people react to changes. I like the analogy of when there is an unplanned pregnancy and then when the baby is born all is great. Well I feel big enough to be pregnant!!!

Hi, I was wondering if those of you out there who are married felt that your spouse was less than supportive of your decision to get banded. My husband states he is supportive but his actions don't necessairly show that. I know he wants the best for my health but his comments are more geared towards that I will fail, or will want to give up if it gets too hard. This is discouraging for me, I really don't think he even knows he's doing it. He hasn't done any research with me and has asked few questions. Also, my mom is less than supportive and thinks I'm crazy. I feel the people closest to me aren't being supportive. My friends have been supportive, those I've told, but my family has not been. I feel kind of alone and realize that changes in families sometimes threatens other members of the family but this sucks!!! Has anyone gone through this.

Hi, I am getting banded August 26th and was wondering about port placement. I've read about it placed in the lower part of the abdomen, in the sternam area etc... I've also read about it being sutured and other doctors don't suture. Where is the best place to have it placed and should it be sutured? Is it possible to request where the port is placed? Also are there statistics regarding port placements and fewer problems? Thanks, Debbie

Hi, I'm new to this board and am so glad to have found it. You can download Jessie's book as well, it is about $6.00. You have to read it on your computer, you can't print it, copy and paste it either. It is so helpful especially for people who are researching, and newly banded. Best of luck! Debbie:cool: