FaithfulOne

So I was just watching the news and a 14 year old girl walked into a Rue21 clothing store in Oregon and a sales associate told her to leave because she's too big to shop there. Oh how my heart breaks for this girl I had a similar experience at Victoria Secret but they were not so direct. At the same time I'm sure it is not the company's policy and just some stupid people; unless its Abercrombie which I will never support. Anyways, there's my rant.

So I was just watching the news and a 14 year old girl walked into a Rue21 clothing store in Oregon and a sales associate told her to leave because she's too big to shop there. Oh how my heart breaks for this girl I had a similar experience at Victoria Secret but they were not so direct. At the same time I'm sure it is not the company's policy and just some stupid people; unless its Abercrombie which I will never support. Anyways, there's my rant.

While I was still in active private practice, I was working with a couple who had numerous issues...and the decision of the husband to move forward with band surgery without the wife's "blessing" actually ended up causing the couple to divorce. Let me stress the point though...they had other significant issues.
The reality is that when you live with someone, and are in a committed relationship, they will discover the truth whether or not you want to "keep it a secret". It could also end up causing some additional issues further down the road. You will also need someone who will be able to drive you to and from surgery...and how would you explain your incisions?
My husband is extremely supportive of my choice to regain some of my health, but has also shared that he hates the diet I need to follow now. It's been a major adjustment for both of us.
Try to consider how you would feel if your wife kept something this important and life altering a "secret" from you? What does that say about the component of trust which is supposed to be in a marriage?
I think it's important to have your wife be a part of your journey...do your best to have her get involved with your pre op journey, and help her learn more about why you want this confidentiality and would like to have her emotional support.
It's your choice, however the likelihood of you successfully keeping this a secret from her is unrealistic. Keeping secrets in a relationship is not a healthy relationship dynamic.
Best wishes...

Hey everyone! Just thought I would introduce myself. First, I would like to say thank you to everyone who is active daily on this site because you all give such great advice and are an inspiration! I attended the seminar in early April after my PCP brought up lapband around 1 year prior. Since then I decided that this is the best choice for me to take charge of my health. For knowledge and insight I have been reading the forums on here daily. I am (almost) 25 years old and in the process of doing my insurance required weigh-ins at my surgeon's office. I currently weigh 205 and am about 5'3.5. So I am considered a "low bmi" bander. I cannot lose weight during this 6 month required weigh-in phase so that is a little annoying...well I could lose weight but insurance would not cover the cost So for now I have been doing lifestyle changes to get me ready for surgery. I struggle with P.C.O.S. and that was a determining factor for me wanting to lose the weight and begin a new life (I cant wait to have babies!). My surgeon's office is thinking I will have surgery late Sept early Oct depending on how fast insurance approval happens and what not. I am excited to get this journey going and become a more healthy me! Anyways, enough with my long rant, thanks for reading!

Hey everyone! Just thought I would introduce myself. First, I would like to say thank you to everyone who is active daily on this site because you all give such great advice and are an inspiration! I attended the seminar in early April after my PCP brought up lapband around 1 year prior. Since then I decided that this is the best choice for me to take charge of my health. For knowledge and insight I have been reading the forums on here daily. I am (almost) 25 years old and in the process of doing my insurance required weigh-ins at my surgeon's office. I currently weigh 205 and am about 5'3.5. So I am considered a "low bmi" bander. I cannot lose weight during this 6 month required weigh-in phase so that is a little annoying...well I could lose weight but insurance would not cover the cost So for now I have been doing lifestyle changes to get me ready for surgery. I struggle with P.C.O.S. and that was a determining factor for me wanting to lose the weight and begin a new life (I cant wait to have babies!). My surgeon's office is thinking I will have surgery late Sept early Oct depending on how fast insurance approval happens and what not. I am excited to get this journey going and become a more healthy me! Anyways, enough with my long rant, thanks for reading!

Hey everyone! Just thought I would introduce myself. First, I would like to say thank you to everyone who is active daily on this site because you all give such great advice and are an inspiration! I attended the seminar in early April after my PCP brought up lapband around 1 year prior. Since then I decided that this is the best choice for me to take charge of my health. For knowledge and insight I have been reading the forums on here daily. I am (almost) 25 years old and in the process of doing my insurance required weigh-ins at my surgeon's office. I currently weigh 205 and am about 5'3.5. So I am considered a "low bmi" bander. I cannot lose weight during this 6 month required weigh-in phase so that is a little annoying...well I could lose weight but insurance would not cover the cost So for now I have been doing lifestyle changes to get me ready for surgery. I struggle with P.C.O.S. and that was a determining factor for me wanting to lose the weight and begin a new life (I cant wait to have babies!). My surgeon's office is thinking I will have surgery late Sept early Oct depending on how fast insurance approval happens and what not. I am excited to get this journey going and become a more healthy me! Anyways, enough with my long rant, thanks for reading!

Hey everyone! Just thought I would introduce myself. First, I would like to say thank you to everyone who is active daily on this site because you all give such great advice and are an inspiration! I attended the seminar in early April after my PCP brought up lapband around 1 year prior. Since then I decided that this is the best choice for me to take charge of my health. For knowledge and insight I have been reading the forums on here daily. I am (almost) 25 years old and in the process of doing my insurance required weigh-ins at my surgeon's office. I currently weigh 205 and am about 5'3.5. So I am considered a "low bmi" bander. I cannot lose weight during this 6 month required weigh-in phase so that is a little annoying...well I could lose weight but insurance would not cover the cost So for now I have been doing lifestyle changes to get me ready for surgery. I struggle with P.C.O.S. and that was a determining factor for me wanting to lose the weight and begin a new life (I cant wait to have babies!). My surgeon's office is thinking I will have surgery late Sept early Oct depending on how fast insurance approval happens and what not. I am excited to get this journey going and become a more healthy me! Anyways, enough with my long rant, thanks for reading!

Hey everyone! Just thought I would introduce myself. First, I would like to say thank you to everyone who is active daily on this site because you all give such great advice and are an inspiration! I attended the seminar in early April after my PCP brought up lapband around 1 year prior. Since then I decided that this is the best choice for me to take charge of my health. For knowledge and insight I have been reading the forums on here daily. I am (almost) 25 years old and in the process of doing my insurance required weigh-ins at my surgeon's office. I currently weigh 205 and am about 5'3.5. So I am considered a "low bmi" bander. I cannot lose weight during this 6 month required weigh-in phase so that is a little annoying...well I could lose weight but insurance would not cover the cost So for now I have been doing lifestyle changes to get me ready for surgery. I struggle with P.C.O.S. and that was a determining factor for me wanting to lose the weight and begin a new life (I cant wait to have babies!). My surgeon's office is thinking I will have surgery late Sept early Oct depending on how fast insurance approval happens and what not. I am excited to get this journey going and become a more healthy me! Anyways, enough with my long rant, thanks for reading!

Hey everyone! Just thought I would introduce myself. First, I would like to say thank you to everyone who is active daily on this site because you all give such great advice and are an inspiration! I attended the seminar in early April after my PCP brought up lapband around 1 year prior. Since then I decided that this is the best choice for me to take charge of my health. For knowledge and insight I have been reading the forums on here daily. I am (almost) 25 years old and in the process of doing my insurance required weigh-ins at my surgeon's office. I currently weigh 205 and am about 5'3.5. So I am considered a "low bmi" bander. I cannot lose weight during this 6 month required weigh-in phase so that is a little annoying...well I could lose weight but insurance would not cover the cost So for now I have been doing lifestyle changes to get me ready for surgery. I struggle with P.C.O.S. and that was a determining factor for me wanting to lose the weight and begin a new life (I cant wait to have babies!). My surgeon's office is thinking I will have surgery late Sept early Oct depending on how fast insurance approval happens and what not. I am excited to get this journey going and become a more healthy me! Anyways, enough with my long rant, thanks for reading!

Hey everyone! Just thought I would introduce myself. First, I would like to say thank you to everyone who is active daily on this site because you all give such great advice and are an inspiration! I attended the seminar in early April after my PCP brought up lapband around 1 year prior. Since then I decided that this is the best choice for me to take charge of my health. For knowledge and insight I have been reading the forums on here daily. I am (almost) 25 years old and in the process of doing my insurance required weigh-ins at my surgeon's office. I currently weigh 205 and am about 5'3.5. So I am considered a "low bmi" bander. I cannot lose weight during this 6 month required weigh-in phase so that is a little annoying...well I could lose weight but insurance would not cover the cost So for now I have been doing lifestyle changes to get me ready for surgery. I struggle with P.C.O.S. and that was a determining factor for me wanting to lose the weight and begin a new life (I cant wait to have babies!). My surgeon's office is thinking I will have surgery late Sept early Oct depending on how fast insurance approval happens and what not. I am excited to get this journey going and become a more healthy me! Anyways, enough with my long rant, thanks for reading!