Kristina J.

The **** shaming is by far the most disturbing part of this whole discussion.
I've read plenty of disgusting judgmental posts claiming, "she should have kept her legs closed" or "what did she think would happen having sex with a guy 4 days after she met him"... All implying she deserved to used because she was so willing to put out!
Where are all these high and mighty women with their posts of disgust that this man hopped into bed with someone after 4 days?! Where is there judgement that he should have kept it in his pants? Why don't any of these women believe that, just like she "got what she deserved" and should be have karma "bite her in the a$$," that perhaps he got what he deserved for hopping into bed with someone so quickly and breaking the rules at work?!
People really disgust me. We are SO fast to knock other women down. I get it. He was kind and friendly. I had a good experience with him as my doctor too. But seriously?! Because he was good to you, there's no way he could have used another patient? Come on. So over all this ignorance.

Thank you. I had WLS and couldn't be happier with my choice and results.

Way to go! I can't wait for size 16. Happy for u!

Wow, thank you all SO much! I really appreciate all your congratulations! I haven't shopped in "regular" sizes in so long.
And farmer, there is SO much to know for after surgery that it can't really be summed up in a paragraph, but I can definitely say it is the hardest, most challenging, difficult, rewarding and amazing gift you'll ever give yourself!!! Good luck to you!!!!

Are you f-ing kidding me?!? I have EVERYTHING that YOU sent me!!!! I don't delete conversations, so I have all of ours from the last 2 months, including pictures and forwards. You are a liar who has hurt so many people and apparently stirred up just enough mess to get your boyfriend back. And the ONLY reason I hadn't sent it to Garcia on my own was because I had promised YOU that I wouldn't!!! But you've made it perfectly clear how much my friendship means to you, and how foolish I was for thinking there was something to salvage.
I actually felt BADLY for not being in touch with you this week while I navigated my way out of your BS retraction and was thinking it would be worth salvaging what's left of our friendship, but at this point, I couldn't be more done with this, him or YOU.
Seriously, good luck but don't contact me or have your friend contact me again. I can handle a lot of crap from people, but this is too much even for me!!

March 21, 2012
Today...
I love my sleeve! Best thing ever. Just wanted to post some pics to help the new sleeves see a light at the end of the tunnel.

You look amazing!! Truly awesome wishing you continued success!

Looking awesome!!! Keep it up!!

You look wonderful! Congratulations!

Congrats! You look great. I'm so happy for you!

Wowsa!!!! That is incredible

Wow! 16!! That's like in the 'normal' section of the store . I can't wait to see you over there. Way to go!

Tell me something.. Is it really so hard to understand what my comparison was? I mean, come on people. I'm not trying to insult people's intelligence outright but this is just ridiculous. READ. All I was saying is that s1ut shaming and victim blaming can happen to anyone regardless of the circumstances and no one deserves that.
And as an FYI, in doctor - patient sexual relationships consent is irrelevant. The doctor holds at the very least psychological power over the patient. This is why most medical establishments either fire or discipline physicians who are caught. Don't just take my word for it, take it from my time I worked in the hospital compliance office.
You should know all about s1ut shaming being you were in the military. My brother, who is in the marines at first was disgusted every time he heard his fellow soldiers refer to a female marine as a walking mattress, but now he's so used to it, he doesn't bat an eye. For shame.

I am just shy of 2 months post op and down a total of 56lbs including pre-op!!!! I feel incredible and have so much more energy. And as of this week, I am down from a size 26/28 top and 24W jeans to size XL top and 16 jeans!!! SIXTEENS!!!!
Was going to wait until 2 months or Onederland for this post, but its been a long week and I'm going to focus on the wonderful things that have been happening in my life!
Love this sleeved life and all the amazing friends I've made along the way!

I am just shy of 2 months post op and down a total of 56lbs including pre-op!!!! I feel incredible and have so much more energy. And as of this week, I am down from a size 26/28 top and 24W jeans to size XL top and 16 jeans!!! SIXTEENS!!!!
Was going to wait until 2 months or Onederland for this post, but its been a long week and I'm going to focus on the wonderful things that have been happening in my life!
Love this sleeved life and all the amazing friends I've made along the way!

I am just shy of 2 months post op and down a total of 56lbs including pre-op!!!! I feel incredible and have so much more energy. And as of this week, I am down from a size 26/28 top and 24W jeans to size XL top and 16 jeans!!! SIXTEENS!!!!
Was going to wait until 2 months or Onederland for this post, but its been a long week and I'm going to focus on the wonderful things that have been happening in my life!
Love this sleeved life and all the amazing friends I've made along the way!

I am just shy of 2 months post op and down a total of 56lbs including pre-op!!!! I feel incredible and have so much more energy. And as of this week, I am down from a size 26/28 top and 24W jeans to size XL top and 16 jeans!!! SIXTEENS!!!!
Was going to wait until 2 months or Onederland for this post, but its been a long week and I'm going to focus on the wonderful things that have been happening in my life!
Love this sleeved life and all the amazing friends I've made along the way!

Are you f-ing kidding me?!? I have EVERYTHING that YOU sent me!!!! I don't delete conversations, so I have all of ours from the last 2 months, including pictures and forwards. You are a liar who has hurt so many people and apparently stirred up just enough mess to get your boyfriend back. And the ONLY reason I hadn't sent it to Garcia on my own was because I had promised YOU that I wouldn't!!! But you've made it perfectly clear how much my friendship means to you, and how foolish I was for thinking there was something to salvage.
I actually felt BADLY for not being in touch with you this week while I navigated my way out of your BS retraction and was thinking it would be worth salvaging what's left of our friendship, but at this point, I couldn't be more done with this, him or YOU.
Seriously, good luck but don't contact me or have your friend contact me again. I can handle a lot of crap from people, but this is too much even for me!!

I am just shy of 2 months post op and down a total of 56lbs including pre-op!!!! I feel incredible and have so much more energy. And as of this week, I am down from a size 26/28 top and 24W jeans to size XL top and 16 jeans!!! SIXTEENS!!!!
Was going to wait until 2 months or Onederland for this post, but its been a long week and I'm going to focus on the wonderful things that have been happening in my life!
Love this sleeved life and all the amazing friends I've made along the way!

Are you f-ing kidding me?!? I have EVERYTHING that YOU sent me!!!! I don't delete conversations, so I have all of ours from the last 2 months, including pictures and forwards. You are a liar who has hurt so many people and apparently stirred up just enough mess to get your boyfriend back. And the ONLY reason I hadn't sent it to Garcia on my own was because I had promised YOU that I wouldn't!!! But you've made it perfectly clear how much my friendship means to you, and how foolish I was for thinking there was something to salvage.
I actually felt BADLY for not being in touch with you this week while I navigated my way out of your BS retraction and was thinking it would be worth salvaging what's left of our friendship, but at this point, I couldn't be more done with this, him or YOU.
Seriously, good luck but don't contact me or have your friend contact me again. I can handle a lot of crap from people, but this is too much even for me!!

I have said a few times here (and even reached out to a few people privately) that I do understand the conflict people have based on their positive experience with him. I had a very positive experience with him as my doctor. And obviously the retraction makes a lot of this hard to swallow for everyone, but especially those that care for and had positive experiences with him. But I do hope people can see that the retraction doesn't even make sense. It's definitely not something to cast aside and ignore, but when looked at in context, is hard to take at face value (even without inside knowledge or proof).
And Laura said that she wondered if everyone seeing the evidence would put the issue to rest, and I thought the same thing... I've thought about it a LOT actually, being one of the few people that actually has it in their possession. However, after thinking about it a lot, I came to the same conclusion as Laura did. First, posting the evidence I have would be breaking my own moral code based on promises I made and plan to keep unless it's needed in my own defense (legally or what not), or unless it is specifically requested by the authorities at his company. And second, no matter the evidence, people have gotten so heated here that I know the arguments would continue. Especially since a lot of the arguments don't seem to be mainly focused on whether the story is true or not anymore, but rather, if the punishment fits the crime.
So, yes, I understand the hesitation based on personal experience. I actually do. But as people have pointed out, even sexual predators and serial murders can have seemingly normal lives with interactions and relationships that make people doubt their guilt. Is it so hard to believe that a medically qualified and competent doctor could personally be a bit of a cad who let his personal ways bleed into his professional life this once or even from time to time, while still maintaining perfectly appropriate relationships with the majority of patients?!

The **** shaming is by far the most disturbing part of this whole discussion.
I've read plenty of disgusting judgmental posts claiming, "she should have kept her legs closed" or "what did she think would happen having sex with a guy 4 days after she met him"... All implying she deserved to used because she was so willing to put out!
Where are all these high and mighty women with their posts of disgust that this man hopped into bed with someone after 4 days?! Where is there judgement that he should have kept it in his pants? Why don't any of these women believe that, just like she "got what she deserved" and should be have karma "bite her in the a$$," that perhaps he got what he deserved for hopping into bed with someone so quickly and breaking the rules at work?!
People really disgust me. We are SO fast to knock other women down. I get it. He was kind and friendly. I had a good experience with him as my doctor too. But seriously?! Because he was good to you, there's no way he could have used another patient? Come on. So over all this ignorance.