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OH I have one of those,...my MIL.
Oh look, the kids and I made 5 (Yes! Five!) loaves of banana nut bread...here they are for you
But I'm just as bad.. I turned to her and said no thanks and handed them back.
She uses my kids all the time as the carrier or an excuse to bring crap into my home. I've pushed back and it stopped. Just say, sorry, I cant physically eat that anymore and carry on. We cant stop what they do. And yes, there will be sabotagers who don't want you to leave them behind, or worse, be their new competition. But hey, we can't control that aspect of their lives either.
Just take pleasure in everything you have accomplished and are becoming.

A really dear friend of mine gave this advice Years Ago:
People come into your life: for a reason and a season.
(When you've reached a fork in the road where your lives need to take different paths you sometimes just have to let go!)
You don't have to be mean; your don't have to be ugly; you just need to distance yourself.
With that being said: like mis73 said; sometimes these situations are unavoidable or not on purpose and in reality we cannot expect everyone to change... fast food places aren't closing their doors just because of our nation has an obesity problem.
BUT, we have a pretty good ideal who is actually unaware and who has dealt us a hand of sabotage. To those whom you know are sabotaging your wt-loss, well you just may need to add a little distance ... it's called self-preservation and there is nothing wrong with that! ..even when it's family!!!
-- I have never been one to easily believe, "oh, I am so sorry! I forgot you cannot have that". REALLY because no one has EVER forgets we are OBESE, so nice try!

For what it's worth, I've lost almost 90 pounds and people are only now starting to notice! I was little pissed off in the beginning, when I lost 40 pounds, that nobody was saying anything. Based on their reactions now, I realize that they just simply didn't notice... I guess nobody is looking as closely at me as I am.

For me , it was hard on my co-workers since we do potlucks and what not. I told them and I think they have finally got on, that they can cook and bring whatever they like, I can eat what I can and bring my own healthy foods. I don't have to eat everything (like I used too) and its true not everyone outside our families understand what we look at in the the foods we eat. And someones birthday is tomorrow and I suggested cheesecake. But I know I won't be around to eat it as I'm leaving early...

Happens all the time, when I was on mushies my MIL offered me FUDGE! she said well its soft and easy to chew UGH!

This is an event in our lives where the true friends rise and the frauds show their colors. I feel so fortunate to have 2 lifelong friends who will go out of their way to make sure my food needs are accommodated whether it's a night out or food in. This is a good time to weed the riff-raff out of your life!

It's frustrating, but I realized early on that I could only be responsible for my own actions and behavior. I couldn't allow myself to get wrapped up in what others were or weren't doing.
Like the Breakfast incident with the Bagels and danishes- we have to remember that the rest of the world doesn't follow the same food guidelines we do. Your friends can't be expected to give up favorite foods at social functions just because you don't eat them anymore. Our entire life we will be surrounded by foods we know we should stay away from. They'll be served at parties and holiday functions for decades to come. We have to make smart choices based on what we know is best for us regardless of what others around us might be eating. Expecting others to change their menus or meals based solely on our needs is unrealistic.
As far as people not mentioning your weight loss, it's likely because they're afraid to mention it. I found that until I lost a really huge amount of weight, people just avoided the topic. Weight is a very touchy subject and a lot of people won't bring it up for fear of offending you accidentally. I mean, if you say "wow you've lost weight!" to someone who hasn't, that person might just snap off "are you saying I'm fat?" Weight is a scary, delicate subject. I'm sure the people around you are just playing it safe, not trying to diminish your success.
Best wishes

Sorry you're going through this. I know it's hard. For the little bit of time Ive cheated, I actually am finding that I feel yucky. It's like I feel better when I eat better. When you go for whatever junk food, maybe try to drink a Protein Shake before you do. Then at least you won't be as hungry. I too have rid my closet of fat clothes. I've bought stuff that I want to fit into. Something to look forward too. I've hit a plateau, I've been the same for nearly 3 mos. it's very frustrating. Good luck to you. Try to search within yourself why you did the WLS, maybe it will give you that little nudge to go in the right direction. My doc told me, if you're having problems, go back to the post op diet and slowly go to where you are. Sometimes that helps. Hang in there

Sorry you're going through this. I know it's hard. For the little bit of time Ive cheated, I actually am finding that I feel yucky. It's like I feel better when I eat better. When you go for whatever junk food, maybe try to drink a Protein Shake before you do. Then at least you won't be as hungry. I too have rid my closet of fat clothes. I've bought stuff that I want to fit into. Something to look forward too. I've hit a plateau, I've been the same for nearly 3 mos. it's very frustrating. Good luck to you. Try to search within yourself why you did the WLS, maybe it will give you that little nudge to go in the right direction. My doc told me, if you're having problems, go back to the post op diet and slowly go to where you are. Sometimes that helps. Hang in there

Sorry you're going through this. I know it's hard. For the little bit of time Ive cheated, I actually am finding that I feel yucky. It's like I feel better when I eat better. When you go for whatever junk food, maybe try to drink a Protein Shake before you do. Then at least you won't be as hungry. I too have rid my closet of fat clothes. I've bought stuff that I want to fit into. Something to look forward too. I've hit a plateau, I've been the same for nearly 3 mos. it's very frustrating. Good luck to you. Try to search within yourself why you did the WLS, maybe it will give you that little nudge to go in the right direction. My doc told me, if you're having problems, go back to the post op diet and slowly go to where you are. Sometimes that helps. Hang in there

Try to go for a fill, and follow the diet, but most of all exercise.
I was also banded in nov 2012. Look what you're eating. It isn't easy. The band is a tool, not magic.
Good luck

I met with a trainer. He said to do cardio for at least 30 mins - do more than that if you really want results. Strength training is also important. Watch the calories too!
I've been in a plateau since end of may. Let me tell ya, I'm frustrated.
I'm trying to turn a new leaf. To be stronger, not cheat, and most of all more active. I got here, 50 lbs less and I know I don't want to revert back.
I know this will pass, and I will be thinner in the process!
Hang in there

Argh, the yummy goodness is back! My kid brought one home...!!!!!!!!
But I'm strong. I walked out of the room and grabbed a Water bottle.
I'm ok, I'm ok...!!!!!!
This is huge for me. And no regrets.

Argh, the yummy goodness is back! My kid brought one home...!!!!!!!!
But I'm strong. I walked out of the room and grabbed a Water bottle.
I'm ok, I'm ok...!!!!!!
This is huge for me. And no regrets.

Argh, the yummy goodness is back! My kid brought one home...!!!!!!!!
But I'm strong. I walked out of the room and grabbed a Water bottle.
I'm ok, I'm ok...!!!!!!
This is huge for me. And no regrets.

Has anyone noticed since you've dropped a decent amount of weight how people are around you??? For instance, I have a friend who invited me over for Breakfast and offered me: Danishes, Bagels, and assorted other carbs which are a huge no-no. I even attempted to "bring" healthy food such as omelets, and she still brought out coffee cake. It was so over whelming I wanted to leave. She isn't the only one either.
Another thing Ive noticed is many people don't say anything. Like "you look great". Instead they say comment on your hair. The people I'm referring are extended family members. I hadn't seen some of these people, and others react like WOW, and family are like, "oh your hair is cute". I'm standing there thinking, "really, my hair is what you notice".
I know I still have a way to go, but people stink. Which is why we probably are where we are. No support from friends and family. (Don't get me wrong, my kids and hubs are wonderful)
Thanks for letting me vent.

MandaMom pretty much summed it up perfectly for me. Only my family and a very select few. And I regret telling the select few. One was banded, and when she hit goal, she went out of control. She has attempted to sabotage me with high calorie drinks and makes snide remarks about "I hit goal and I can have this now". When really she can't. Then she complains she's gained. I dislike her so much now, and feel shed spill the Beans on my WLS. It also doesn't help that I have hit a plateau. I'm stuck and frustrated. But I'm doing things to loose more. So, for me to tell anyone else, that would be a no. Another person I told was my boss. She is a tiny little thing, and clearly doesn't understand. In fact, she denied my time off. It went to her boss and he approved it. I have my regrets telling people outside my family at home. People are too cruel, I'm fighting my demons now, I don't need others to give me crap while I go through this process.