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First, I can understand how you might feel-- not adequate etc. Some of us feel that way, when guys look at porn. In fact, porn is something I will not tolerate. If my man cannot get off to my body, then he is not the one for me. Next, I would say unless a man has a sexual dysfunction, then he will orgasm everytime he has sex. For ladies, if we don't orgasm as many times as we want before our man finishes~> we are left out in the cold. NOT COOL! How would you feel if you were married, and a lot of the time never got to find that release? Frustration would set in! I would venture to say a man would masturbate, to fix this problem. I think it is a man's responibility to make sure his woman's needs are taken care of and met, completely. If a lady doesn't finish when her man does, the vibrator should be in hand's reach. She will probably need you to kiss her, and still act like you are having sex with her~> in order to get her to where she can find that release. By all means, do NOT get up out of the bed and let her fend for herself. We need to feel that close intimate bond with the man we love. If we have to do things all by our lonesome, what is the point in being married?

In the first years of my marriage, I reluctantly gave into my husband regarding this topic. I was always worried about what he was thinking etc. I had four children with him, so my weight fluctuated throughout the years. No matter how embarassed I would feel~ he would always make me feel like the queen of the world. The longer I was married-- the more comfortable I became with my husband. It was not until I trusted him completely, that I finally let go of my insecurities. This lead me to became more open about my sexual wants and needs. I am glad that he taught me to be secure in who I am. A few years ago, we divorced; and I figured I would be uptight about it, again. I have had one long term relationship since then. At the beginning, I was a little nervous. However, becoming secure in my own skin is very freeing. Best wishes to you!

I am sorry that your principal is being a jerk. Unfortunately, if you go against your principal's instructions-- it will leave a bad taste in her mouth. If you are not tenured, then your job could be on the line. Once, I missed a few professional development days, and the BOE let me do alternative training later on in the school year. If you do not go, try not to let your frustration show toward your principal. She will pick up on it. Also, I found that venting only to a select few family and friends, helped out tremendously. I hope the best for you.

I was excited about going to a weight loss surgery seminar, which was my first step in the process. However, the surgeon talked negatively about the lap band. At the end of the seminar, I asked him why he was so against the lap band. He told me that after the first thirty days, complications and such arise. Further, he said that he would not be surprised if the lap band would eventually be pulled from the shelves. One woman spoke up and said, "How many of us here already have the lap band?" About four women raised their hands. These ladies had gained their weight back. One came up to me after the seminar, and raised her shirt up and said, "the doctor could not find a needle that would go into my fat; since I have gained all of my weight back." The lady was not very big at all. I left there very let down. Can someone explain to me why the surgeon told us he does not recommend the lap band surgery for anyone?