My dh and I have been together for 15 yrs. this surgery aside, there were times that I ( and probably him) wanted out or thought, "what am I doing here?". Each time I gave it some time, reevaluated, and thought is this worth fighting for? People change and not alway at the same times. So I would give it some time, and each time it seems that we grew back together. For me it is worth it. For all the things that annoy me about him, I'm sure I annoy him just as much. But he is there for me and loves me fat or thin, and visa versa. So really take some time and make sure you are making the right decision for yourself. If I'd have followed through I would have missed out on some fantastic memories over the years. A quote from an old couple when asked how they stayed together for so long " we never fell out of love at the same time". Or, " the grass is greener where you water it". Love that one too;) anyway good luck with your decision, I hope it works out for you either way;)