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I Love This Scripture Please Remember it Today!!!!
Luke 6:26
Woe unto you, when all men shall speak well of you! for so did their fathers to the false prophets.
This Scripture States; To Always be Careful of People who speak well about you for it may not be true in their Hearts!! They may be a False Prophet waiting for your down fall!!! or Failure with this Lapband Process!!! Love You Happy Wednesday!!!

What's the most annoying thing your partner does? My boyfriend freaking puts his dirty laundry RIGHT next to the basket! Lol, could be worse, but why? Just.. why?
Cutest thing? He grabs me in his sleep and pulls me close...aaand then snores in my face. Lol. Or when he wakes me up by petting my hair or face and saying "Good morning beautiful", or how literally every day this year he's told me that I was gorgeous or beautiful or sexy.. Without make up or hair done, he actually gets mad when I primp, he's a natural, tshirt and jeans type of man. I think my ex told me that I looked good maybe a handful of times during the 3 years, but none while I was natural, so it sure is nice! It hasn't made me conceited or anything, but it's definitely made me more comfortable as myself. =)
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Girl you lie! You know your conceited! Jk! Isn't it wonderful to be adored. My hubby of 20 yrs is still like that. As for annoying habits well... Where do I begin.
I'm missing those habits right now though because he got a call from his family in Italy the day before my surgery that his mom was in a coma from a virus and that evening he was on a plane. I've been going it alone and I could use his cheers right about now.
Oh yeah did I mention that he cheers me on with a thick Italian accent.. Oh yes, it doesn't get better than that!!

I go to support group every week and although I am a new bandster, I'm one of the smallest and at 41, youngest, people there. I do feel judged in the group, which is too bad. I continue to go though, as I have learned so much from them. I figure if I am ever questioned, I will remind them of their own words. Nearly all of them have said repeatedly that their only regret with getting the band was not getting it sooner. I am thankful that I was able to start when and where I did... My only regret is not getting it four years ago when I first considered it.

That sounds like the smart thing to do. It is unfortunate we all have friends and family who are unsupportive. I try to remember that they are the way they are because of them....not because of anything I did. We cannot pick our relatives but we can control the way they interact in our lives. You mother is insecure, jealous or resentful of you for some reason. That would motivate me more actually... But in the meantime I would politely say... Mom... I got this. I think its best if we do not discuss my journey. You will just have to see the results.
Good Luck

The replies are really good and spot on. There is one other thing I'd like you to consider and that is your want for your moms approval. See, no one can make you feel anything so if she triggers a reaction out of you then you need to do the work to change the reaction.
I have a very similar relationship with my mother. In our family dynamic I was the one that everyone dumped on. I was the one that was always asked to do all the favors even if others were in a position to do so and I wasn't. I feared disapproval and could not say no. One time when I was in a physically abusive relationship I called my mom in tears after getting beat up, and said that I didn't understand how anyone could be so cruel. Her reply, I kid you not was " Men like thin wives. You should lose some weight" .
It wasn't until I went to counseling that I realized that I needed to change. I needed to be the one who taught people how to treat me. I did not, nor will I, tell my mom that I had surgery. It is my business and I know she could not handle knowing because of who she is.
Believe me I know that it is a work in progress but setting the boundaries and changing the rules of interaction is so much healthier especially now since you are on a new journey JUST FOR YOU. you can have a talk with your mom, show her all the information in the world but the trash is on her side of the street and you can't reach far enough over to clean it up. She'll have to do that herself. In the meantime, set yourself up for success!
Bug hug to you!

Please Read!!!!! Today; When Your Back is Up against the wall,when people try to mess up your day,when you want to over eat knowing your on a diet,or it will mess up your Lap Band, And People are pushing you to Go Back to that habit!! Just remember that all these things are designed to mess with your head and keep a negative strong hold on you! But I got a Remedy for You!!!
" CALL ON THE NAME OF JESUS"!!!
2 Corinthians 10:4
(For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strong holds;) Have a Great Day!!!

I love that your always positive and uplifting and that is what so many of us especially in the early stages of the lap band need. Thank you for your inspiration.

Read post you like!!! Pick and choose!! If you don't like a post, then move on and read one that interest you!

I'm sure we could go thru post and find hundreds that could be posted someplace different. To each their own, if you don't agree with someone that is your right. Be respectful and let it go, no one is being hurt, if you do not agree please read a different post that does not offend you.

This message is for all those who see my inspirational posting as too Religious for Lap Band. Elcee. I just want you to know that My postings may not be for you since you think they are too religious so I would give you the advice to block me off your page. Because the way I see God is apart of this process and if you don't have him. The way I feel failure process of losing weight will be an option if you don't have the right guidance and strength. What works for me may not work for you!! To All those who like my inspirational posting I will keep them coming!!!! Smooches!!!
Lets Go bandsters!!!!

Must Read!!
If something is for you! God will give it to you and you wont have to even fight for It!! Just Have Faith and Learn to Trust and Believe in God!! He knows whats Best For you!!! Trust Me!! I Promise!!! And Just Love God!! For God is Love!!
Know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to {His} purpose. Romans 8:28
If any of you need me, I am Here!! And Real About It!!!

I am with the group as well! You think this is a fix, but it's not! I payed cash for mine also....I I was 197 and I am now 169. The only reason for me to have the surgery was because I've gained weight and all on my back. I injured my back several years ago and I started gaining weight and not losing. I gained so much weight that it was hurting my back more and I knew it would help some to get the weight off. The band helped me psychologically but I am still doing all the hard work that I could have done if I would have just followed the same rules as if I didn't have the band! I guess it took the band to give me motivation..... I don't regret getting it done and if that is what it takes for you also then do it
I have learned with the band a new way of life and I don't know why it took the band to show me!
It took the band to get me off carbonated drinks, bread( I love bread) and exercise more!!! Don't know why I couldn't do it before??? Oh, I also am still learning to eat slower ..... Still working on that!

Just thought i would leave a little note to encourage you all. I was banded this last February and have lost 60 lbs. Normal BMI now and have only a few more lbs. that I would like to lose. I was like most of you in that I struggled with this same weight for many many years and could never drop more than a few pounds.
People also told me to just cut back and surgery was not "big enough" blah blah blah.
My clothing has gone from a 14/16 to a size 6 and that is getting too big now LOL.
It is amazing they amount of clothing that needs replaced. Even dropped a whole shoe size!
I am very happy with my decision, best one I ever made in my life. They only trouble I am having now is that I really need a Tummy Tuck and boob lift and don't want to spend all the money on new clothes just to have my size change again haha.
There are worse problems one could have.
I wouldn't listen to other people because you have to do what is right for you and it would seem silly to wait to have something later when perhaps there would be even more to lose and more health issues to contend with.

That's just being rude and this site is a place to go to for support. We're all entitled to our opinions but let's try to have a little respect.

So I was reading a post the other day and someone showed a fork with a pea sized bit on it. I thought to myself. I will never eat a bite that small. To me that would be rediculous. I would rather have some sort of self control then live like that. That is not normal in my opinion. My question is. Do any of you feel the same way? Has anyone learned some sort of self control so you don't have your band tight as can be? I know for a fact I will never eat one pea at a time.

Hi Susie I'm 2 years out from surgery and down 100lbs with only 10 pounds to go till I hit my personal goal. I have never in the past two years eaten a bite as small as a pea. I've taken regular sized bites and chewed as much as possible. Of course I have had occasions where I bit off more than I could chew, literally, and I paid for it. But those occasions were few and far between. Just be extremely conscious of chewing. Start with small bites and work your way to what is comfortable for you. Everyone is different. You'll find you niche and when you do stick with it! Good luck!

You are not going to influence other individual's opinions; so don't allow yourself to be "irked" about it. It's just a waste of your time and energy.
There have been spirited discussions on this forum in the past with some members feeling that they could "not relate" to forum participants who began their weight loss journey weighing "only 200 something pounds", and actually referred to people weighing in the 200-250 pound range as "skinny", when the member had begun their journey at over 300 pounds.
I assured her that anyone who was "5 ft something" and weighed 200 plus pounds was definitely not "skinny", and that the individual's reasons and needs to loose weight were different for everyone. No one should be judged about the WLS surgery based on their size; there are too many mitigating reasons which are not common knowledge to judge others.
I don't judge others, and expect the same courtesy in return...

I just got banded on August 9, 2012 and I couldn't be happier. I have been dealing with my weight my whole entire life, and I am only 24. I have 60-70 lbs to lose. I hold my weight pretty proportionally too.
When making the decision to get the lapband, I got a whole lot of "you are too skinny to get the lapband", or "you should just be happy with yourself the way you are", or "you should just diet/exercise, surgery is too drastic", yet, when someone who is 300 lbs says that they are going to get WLS, people are always so supportive of them. It's like telling that 300 lbs person that they can have the lapband, but only until they get to 190 lbs... And then they are going to have to take it out because they wont need it for the last 60 lbs they need to lose. Ya know?
I don't really worry about it anymore, because I've made my decision and I am happy with it, but it still irks me.

I heard many of the same things. My weight is well proportioned. When I'd tell people how much I weighed, many would be shocked.
I'd say, so I should continue to gain until I am in full blown diabetes and heart disease? I don't deserve treatment because I just barely qualify? You don't walk on my knees, hips, and feet every day.
If I only had one blocked artery in my heart, rather than four, do I not deserve to have it treated? Or do I have the heart attack? My appendix was only a little infected, so I should have waited until it burst? Our society is still biased.
I thank them for their concern and say that surgery might not have been the right decision for them, but after all my research, with my medical history, and on the advice of my primary care doctor and my surgeon, whom I trust and respect, I have decided to proceed. (Using the medical team's name usually shuts them up, as they are not doctors!)
Now, 4.5 years and 75 lbs later most people agree that I made the right decision for me. It might not be right for everyone. I don't tell anyone that they should run out and get surgery. If asked about my experience I gladly talk about it, but I don't encourage anyone to have surgery. I tell them to research and make the most informed decision they can.
I had to learn to shut those conversations down in a polite way. It's sort of a debate-team type of thing. But it really isn't open for discussion. When you say it in a matter of fact way that I have done my research, my doctors agree, and it is the right decision for me, maybe not for you, but thank you--then change the subject...there really is no reply for it.

Wow, that is the smallest bite of food I have ever seen lol. I personally, take a bigger bite than most people probably would, still at least half the size of the bites I would take pre-band. I like to chew and taste the food, and I just can't seen to enjoy it if it's the size of a pea.
So anyway, I take larger bites but I swallow it in stages. So I won't swallow the whole bite all at once. I know I run the risk of accidently swallowing the entire bite, but so far I've had no issues

The other night as part of my follow up with my nutritionist I was required to attend dinner with her and others with the lapband. The idea behind this was to bring up issues we all had and to show us the types of food to eat, how much to eat, how slow to eat and also the types of food to eat when dinning out. We were served five different dishes and we all shared a dish between three or four of us. Wine was also served with our meal and we were given oyster forks to eat with. Initially I was like arghhh I don't really want to go as I'm not comfortable dining out with a group of strangers. All I have to say is what a fun night, we all had the lapband in common, ages ranged from early 20s to 60s, the conversations didn't stop flowing all night, we had a good laugh, good food and a vino or two. We all had such an enjoyable evening that we decided at the end if the night we are all going to meet up every few months to do something together.
Even though it was a mainly educational dinner it was so relaxing not worrying about anyone questioning what you were eating or how slow or how little you were eating. There twelve of us and the dietician. This is something I think all nutritionist should do with their lapband patients, get them into a restaurant environment in small groups and actually show food portions, bite sizes etc.
Can't wait to meet up with the group again!

I've only been banded for 5 weeks. I have lost nearly 49 lbs with the loss included in the preop diet. I can see times when my old habits will come back if I'm not careful. I try to be vwry aware of myself and try to resist things it is hard and I'm still on the thrill of the loss. But remember that feeling of losing all that weight and use it to push yourself to start again. Get a fill or whatever you need to do to jumpstart yourself. You went through a great deal to get your helper (the band). It would be a shame to lose that now. We all have issues we need to work through use your friends and us for suppo

THANK YOU to whomever invented lapband!
My sex life with my partner was never dull..never same ol same ol....however now!
Holy Moly! Fanfreakintastic! :wub:
He likes to call it "mad passionate porn sex" haha!

Sorry...I haven't gotten the hang of quoting yet!
I love what you say about awaking from the spell of fast food cravings! I know just what you mean.
As far as telling people, my mantra is "You can't UN-tell someone." It has helped me keep my mouth shut about many things through the years.
I am not ashamed about my surgery, but I also don't wish to share what I feel is a personal decision that I arrived at after much thought, prayer, and research. I don't need to hear negative reactions from misinformed people who feel that I've taken the "easy" way out. (Ha!)
Before you tell a person, think about what their reaction may be...AND the reaction of anyone they will tell, because news of your surgery will spread.