Jlewis229

Recently berieved gastric bypass 2005. Michael passed away October 2013. Lonely and not sure how to date with body issues and extra skin. Michael and I were together for 25 years. Friends and family are telling me to get back out there and date. Any advice? Live in Atlanta. 41 years old size 32 pants from size 60.

I am so very sorry to hear you lost your partner! I always made my surgery known upfront! I don't want it to be an issue after I found someone and truthfully, if it is an issue, they don't really care about you, but I know it's very intimidating! Atlanta is an awful city to try to date in, men here are extremely vain! My boyfriend knew about my surgery upfront, knew my body wasn't as desirable as I wish it could be but, be said he thought I was cute then and now, so I knew it wasn't a problem! You can and will find another man, good luck!!!!

In my profile under my gallery. My main pic is a new one.

Haven't been on in a LONG TIME! I posted some new pics! For some reason they are all F*#K@D up as far as being upside down, etc and I have rotated them and saved them but they still revert back :-/ but you can rotate them to view them. Anyway just wanted to update and share my progress...I am down to 170! 5 lbs to my original goal! I'm thinking I may try to get to 160 though depending on how i feel/look at 165. Hope everyone is doing GREAT!

Johnathan

Hey Everyone!

Just wanted to make a quick post with my stats since it's been FOREVER since I've posted!

I am currently 173, I am 101 down from when I had surgery 7/25/12. I've got 8 left to go until my personal goal of 165.

<3 my sleeve!

Hope everyone is doing well!

Would love to hear from some of you I used to talk with a lot.

Johnathan

Was looking through and had a question. Is testosterone stored on men's fat cells as well? It would explain why I always want to have sex lol. Sometimes I think I drive my boyfriend crazy Ha!

My last month is when I really started feeling really good about myself. Believe me, I don't discount it! Lol

I tell everyone! Lol I don't care if they don't like or approve! I'm proud as hell and nobody will take that from me! But it's different for everyone. I'll talk to anyone about almost anything lol

GURRL! Idk how I would have reacted but I think i would have felt insulted. Actually I know I would. They have no business talking to patients about that sort of thing with patients! You did good though, I don't know if I could have kept my composure had I been told my sexuality is nasty.

Johnathan - I figured it out. I was using the app and that doesn't have as many features as the full website. Awesome pics!

Shange - Keep up the good work! I feel the difference in my life already. It's amazing!

James - I'm central California about 2 hours from the bay.

I'm so surprised at the amount of people on this forum. I had no idea...let's keep it going!

Thank you! Just wait til u get close to goal! You'll feel so good about yourself! I'm much more confident than I've ever been! I want b*****s to look when I walk in somrwhere! Lol

Jlewis how do I find your pics

You have to be on the main website, go to my profile and vote my albums/gallery.

I'm new to this. Where do you post pics at? Where is everyone from? I'm in California.

You go to my galler/albums and that is where you post.

I'm from Atlanta, Ga!

Thank you!

I posted some new pics btw!

Welcome tlj483 & Grek79Ital! Glad to see more guys on here! The board is pretty sporadic with posts, maybe it'll start being a little more lively!

Johnathan

Btw- since I haven't posted an update in quite some time, u started at 274, and am now down to 195 just 5 months later!! Only about 25ish to go!! Couldn't be happier to have made this decision!! Good luck to everyone that has just started out!

Just thought I would update.

I started at 274 and am now at 198! Wow that feels good! I've lost 76 lbs since July 25th, that'll be 5 months on Christmas. Was really wanting 185 by first of year but I'm good with the track I'm on.

I stalled for a Few weeks. And I hated it!! But it's over thankfully!

I'll do my best to revive this thread a little:

Just wanted to share that I recently told one of my gay besties about my intention to have WLS and, so far, he is the only person that is 100% supportive of my decision. He just wants me to be happy and healthy.

I am so happy to hear that for you!! I only had 1 bad response from a "Friend". The week or so before surgery, I went to Gondolier, which is an Italian restaurant that has absolutely amazing pizza, specifically the one I love, Feta, Mozzarella & Spinach! Well I took a pic of the pizza & said..."Gonna miss this pizza..last one for at least a few months!!" He responds with something to the effect of, "Well if your just gonna eat pizza again in a few months what is the point of even having the surgery."

Needless to say, that lead me to responding, and then he got personal and told me I was using the money we received after my brother died for personal gain, etc etc...this made me EXTREMELY mad because it was only 4 months after he passed, I cared for my brother for 2 years before he passed, It wasn't about personal gain, It was about getting myself healthy and being happy with myself. Of course I said quite a few harsh things to him because he has used his mother more than anyone I've ever known! Anyway, I ended up removing him from my friends on Facebook and then blocked him and then deleted his phone #.

The thing is, we don't need "Friends" like that! Those are not our true friends, Or true friends support us and encourage us, not try to bring us down.

Good luck, I hope you are very successful! I am out 17 weeks and am down 70 lbs! I LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE MY SLEEVE!!!

You look GREAT!! Congrats!

OK Men, I created a page! Below is the link to the Gay Sleevers group. I made the first post, please respond and lets get more posts going & make this group busy!

https://groups.google.com/forum/?fromgroups&hl=en#!forum/gay-sleevers

Johnathan

Wow.. I was 215 now after a month 158 i cant wait to be size 4 or 5 .. Any tips ?? Any diferrent diet??

You lost 57lbs in a month????

YOU GO!! That is so awesome!

I agree. Having a breakout space would be cool. I've never used Google groups (I don't think)...is it easy to use?

Yea it'll be easy

Lol I don't think having more men post is a problem. This thread is mostly men. I've decided I must be one of the very few "token lesbians" on VST.

I don't necessarily mean more men but ONLY men lol. Somewhere where we can talk about anything!!

Attn: Gay & Bi Men:

Would you all be interested in joining a google, yahoo, etc. group (whichever platform i try and see what works best)for ONLY Gay/Bi men that have had or are having WLS, so that we can all post whatever it is that we may be going through that we may not nevessarily want written on vst. Of course nothing would be off limits and it would all be with confidence that it's just us men, it would be private and I'd be happy to run it. What do y'all think???

Johnathan

So glad to see you guys using this forum! The other night I posted on Atlanta Craigslist on the M4M section looking for other guys that have had WLS and some FU*#ER flagged It so it was deleted! All i was trying to do was find others that were gay and had WLS so I could find locals to talk to!! Pissed me off but anyway, I hate to hear your friends are not wanting you to lose a certain amount of weight bc u identify with the bear community, other communities, etc. .

Honestly I've always been into the muscle bears anyway, just not other overweight guys, I've always liked thinner guys.

As you all probably know I had my surgery 28 days ago today(4 weeks ago July 26th) and ive lost 26lbs as of Monday this week. Feeling better about myself already and I think it shows in my personality bc I seem to be getting more attention already, I'm actually on my way to Mississippi now to meet someone I've been talking to for almost 3 years who is the most amazingly sweet and Absolutely GORGEOUS guy!!!

I myself have no problem not identifying as a bear anymore, I want to be thin! I want to feel comfortable walking around without a shirt, or getting completely naked and just strutting my stuff in front of other good looking men LOL...Bottom line no matter what, I'm me first, not a bear or anything else first, just me and that's most important, you all remember that!

I hope this works out with this guy, we've both wanted each other for a while, We both thought the other wasn't interested after he stopped talking to me when my brother was really sick and before he passed. He stopped talking to me bc he knew I was stressed but I sure wish he had told me how he felt lol. Anyway, wish me luck! I'll post later to update y'all on how it's going.

Peaches and Cream by 112

Thank you guys for wondering! I'm doing better! I've lost 12lbs since the day before surgery! Can't wait to eat some mashed potatoes or oatmeal or something with a little texture to it other than jello! Blah!! Tonight I was running a low grade fever but it's gone now. I've felt pretty good for theist part and appreciate you all for caring!

Johnathan

You're one of the most kick-butt posters here. You're going to do great!

By the way I'm straight and I'm into everyone who is into getting healthy

LOL