CJ_Redux

DH = Darling Husband If you're anything like me, you'll be (as the title of this thread states) a horny lil toad LOL! They say that fat blocks the hormones, so I guess with the weight loss my hormones are running around having a party inside of me. That's fine by me. Just wish I could get my rocks off... Sorry, TMI...

LMBO I bet he misses it too!

I'm jealous... Sigh...

LOL I think I'd be like Samantha from SATC. "If I could I'd color all day long!!! I'd color with every crayon in my box!"

@nyxa, you have SCHOOLED me! I've seen those glass toys but I always imagine they would feel cold. I may have to try them out cuz at this point, ANYTHING would be worthwhile. LOL!

@Kalimomof3, thanks. I do think it's time to get back out there. I haven't dated in years... It's a scary thought.

Lol if ur talking about what I think ur talking about...I really do need to get one (or two) of those. And a 50-pack of batteries!!!

Wow, I would really like to know what all goes into a $46,000 price tag!!! That price sounds insane compared to what I paid in Mexico. I do wish I had follow-up care, though.

I can totally relate to what you're feeling, kelliecalgary. I'm 8 weeks post-op and I struggle with not being able to eat like before. I find myself saying at times, "I wish I could have 1 day off from VSG to really indulge in food." But the truth is, my emotional attachment to food is just really strong, and THAT is the problem! But it's a journey to find out who you are without excess food in your life. Food has been my constant companion for many years, probably most of my life. And navigating the world without it's comfort is scary. I find that I can't put up with the same things as before. Not from others or myself. I now see how food really helped me cope. But that's not the life I truly want. It's just that now, I have to show up. I understand that my relationships with others will have to change as I change. A part of me welcomes it, and yet a part of me is afraid of the unknown. But I'm thankful for the journey because ultimately, this surgery is going to make me be a better me and it will do so for you too. Keep the faith that you are on the right path, regardless of how bumpy the road feels.

You look amazing! Congrats to you!!

Have you tried any gummy vitamins?

I sure wish I had known about these options when I went in to surgery. I threw up for about 48 hours after surgery and now I suspect it was the anesthesia. Though at the time, I just thought I was slowly dying...

Yes, it must be weight distribution because I'm 5'8" and at 344lbs I was in a size 28 and it wasn't loose! But I'm very hippy and bootylicious.

Yesterday food as anything more than nutrition. The opportunity cost, the trade-off of having my stomach reduced in order to lose weight, is that I can no longer satisfy the void(s) in my life with food. I should rejoice, yes? This is what I wanted so desperately, right? Now I finally have a tool to help me lose weight. So why should I even consider a loss of anything other than pounds?? For anyone who does not struggle with food addiction and over-eating, this is probably incomprehensible. But to anyone who can relate, to anyone considering taking the so-called easy way out (i.e., weight loss surgery), this is definitely something to consider.Mexico for weight loss surgery, and counseling was not offered. Psst!!! I didn't really think I needed it anyway. But now, as the days go by and I continue to heal and get back to living life, I find that the thing that used to provide a source of comfort/peace/familiarity/companionship is gone. I mentioned before that it's kind of like mourning the loss of something or someone, and it is so true! I find that now I have a lot of free time, because what I used to do just doesn't work anymore. I can't watch TV and really plug into it like I used to. I didn't know the food I was eating while watching TV was such a huge factor. Don't get me wrong. I am so glad I had the surgery. I don't regret it at all, because with it I can change my life. But that doesn't change the fact that, without food, I feel a little lost. I'm out here on my own now. My old friend Food, is gone. And while that is most certainly what I wanted, I didn't consider the opportunity cost of not having that scapegoat. So what do I do now?? I ask myself. Living a Redux Life is about more than lip service. Now that I don't have my food crutch to lean on, I have to stand on my own two feet. And that's...scary. I now have to face my life, rather than be numb to it. And I want to! Yet at the same time, I don't want to... The opportunity cost of having weight loss surgery is that if food has meaning in your life other than nutrition--and let's face it, if we only used food for nutrition we wouldn't be in this situation--then you MUST do the work of evaluating how you will navigate your world once you don't have that source of comfort. What will you do when you are uneasy with your surroundings? Eat slider foods? Start consuming more alcohol? Or will you finally get your head and heart in the game and do the work to resolve your issues? If you can answer those questions BEFORE surgery, then perhaps the opportunity cost won't be so high. And maybe this "tool" won't feel so much like a hammer, but more like a massage.

Ditto!

You're asking the questions. Questions I didn't ask myself beforehand. You'll be find, and now you are more aware.

Thank you for posting. I need to see that there is hope and that I will adjust. Every day gets better...but it is a struggle.

I said the same thing. Only now I can move better and I still find excuses not to hit the gym. Not saying you will, just saying. It's a lot of work to change. Period.

Thank you. The preop-er's are why I wrote this.

OK, I need to vent... I asked ONE THING. Just one thing I asked for help with after surgery: and that's to get help carrying my laundry to the laundromat. I currently don't have a washer and dryer, so I asked someone in my family who, of course, I'm ALWAYS there for financially and emotionally to help me carry my laundry. Don't have to load the machines, I can do that. Just carry the doggone basket. Here I am 3 weeks out from surgery and need clean clothes. And here I sit...and wait...and wait. It's hot as Hades outside and I really wanted to get this done first thing in the morning, so I could then go to the gym and then get on with my day. But unfortunately, it's almost 11am and I've neither washed clothes or been to the gym. It is frustrating for me cuz I'm very independent. I don't ask for help unless I absolutely need it. So when I don't get the help I ask for and NEED, it just makes me feel so...unloved. I'm tempted to just take the laundry myself, but I don't want to end up hurting my sleeve. But damn! I just wish I had people in my life who would consider my needs once in a while.

Oooohhhh me likey!!! :wub:

Half a mill did you say??? See, that's why it's my dream home and not my actual home. LOL! But one day I would love to have a big old house. I love the charm, and I wonder about the generations who might have lived there before me. On the other hand, forget about what I said about other generations. Now I'm thinking ghosts! LOL! This post has gotten SO OFF TOPIC! But this is a better convo, though.

Congratulations! So happy for you and can't wait to join you! When I lose 100lbs...I'm gonna shout and cry and run down the street screaming YEAH!!! LOL!

I was sleeved on 6/23 and have lost 20 pounds since surgery (34 from highest weight). For all the "slow losers", are you getting in as much Water as you should? I've noticed that when i get my liquids in, I see a loss more often then when I don't drink enough. Today I added gym exercise, so I'm hoping for a better number next week cuz I only lost 4lbs this past week and I believe it could have been more.

AND I went to the gym too! Only did 30 minutes, but this was my first time back since surgery. Yay!!! Now I just need to clean my house. Boo!