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apricot1119

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  1. It's been a year this week. I am headed to the beach. It's also my husband and my 5 year anniversary. My surgon never set a goal and my personal goal was based on bmi. I haven't technically hit reached that personal numbers goal yet but here are some goals I have met:

    I can now run 20 minutes comfortably without walking so I jog 40 mins 5-6 days a week. Couldn't even shuffle quickly forward (what jogging used to look like) for 3 minutes pre surgery without gasping like a fish out of Water.< /p>

    I had to buy all new clothes. All new. Bras undies and shoes too!

    I sleep naked and walk around naked IN FRONT of my husband. I used to be too ashamed and would change clothes quickly hiding in the closet. Extra details probably belong in the ladies forum but you can imagine there have been other improvements...

    No more fat girl waddle.

    I feel pretty. Out and out pretty. Men smile at me. People are nicer. That goal is harder to explain but it impacts every facet of my life.

    I have low blood pressure.

    I am no longer pre diabetic.

    I don't snore any more.

    I am not dreading the bathing suit part of the beach. Not wearing a two piece, but even at 19 I wasn't a two piece kinda girl.

    Goal is a Fluid concept. Would do this sleeve again every time.


  2. I am noticing the start of a cross over addiction. When I drink I don't stop. I can... I just don't. Or maybe I can't. Anyway it is enough to raise a flag for me so I am actively not drinking. But I have two family trips coming up. One with my husbands family and one with my mom. Both will include lots of social drinking. I am worried about not being able to just social drink and not being able to choose not to. I want to commit to myself to stay in control.


  3. I can relate. I have a diagnosis of major depressive disorder and anxiety. food addiction and binging were a major part of this for me. I have had success with the surgery for weight loss, but will probably always be on medication. After experimenting with many types I have found great success with my current mix of SSRI and anxiety meds. For me it is genetic and environmental. Like is so often said on here the surgery was on our stomach not our brains. Seek help. Don't be ashamed. Know you are not alone!


  4. Some of it is the change in you, some of it is just being human. When I went through my pre sugery stuff my doc asked me to rate my marriage 1-10. All relationships feel the stress of this. I thought no way it would mine. My husband is incredibly supportive and I value him. Them I lost the initial fun fast loss. All of a sudden I wanted attention. I sought it from outside my marriage. I got busted early and felt relatively relieved and we worked through it. I couldn't believed I had even open the door, but I can see what happens now. It really is that you come through a different person. The reason you feel bad is because you still love her. The reason all those "little" things seem annoying is because you want out. I know this seems weird, but if you are sure you want out, dragging it on hoping to fall back in love with her is unfair to you and will turn in to torture for her. Staying in a loveless relationship kills your self esteem.


  5. My husband and I are on the same page thank goodness. We enjoy being dinks ( dual income no kids). I teach high school special Ed. I enjoy it but need my grown up time. We have done the pros and cons, and I am good with my choice. It is just so polarizing. I am so interested in how other people came to make the choice and then how they feel about their outcomes...

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