Nikki613

thanks everyone!!!

This has been an eye opening and exhausting thread....thank you everyone for sharing your experiences and advice. Good luck to you all

Sorry phone doesnt like me to quote and reply. Anywho what you just wrote felt sincere. Some of the other comments felt judgy. And considering the fact that i am thinking of keeping work in the dark i am sure you can tell im sensitive. All in all i want to scream it from the mountains but I am not strong enough for that, who knows maybe after surgery I will be.

Comment was not directed twords you. If you read through all the posts you would see why I am annoyed. Its one thing to state an opinion in a nice way as you have done. It is another thing to continue on and on amd on about your opinion and calling people liars ect.

Well by all means, post away, post away. I tend not to give a negative opinion unless asked for it, but go ahead. Seems you are changing lives right here. :/

It is judgements...like these....that keep people from wanting to share. Omitting the part about surgery or telling people you are having a different surgery is up to each person. We do not deserve to be judged for it. So take your opinion and judgements elsewhere if you dont agree with the topic. Nowhere in this topic did myself or anyone ask "is it ok to keep it to yourself". These types of statements come across as sitting on your high horse, judging people that you were.not asked to judge. Thanks

Falls...are you stalking me .....you know how I feel about you dear friend.....you are my inspiration.

So happy that there are people here that are already confident and "dont care what people think". I hope to someday be just like you. But...to be honest, I started this thread to ask how people have faired at work when not wanting to share the news of thier surgery. I dont feel the need to share this with people who are not family or friends, and that I do not know personally. I do not feel it is my responsibility to help anyone decide they want surgery. I do wish everyone luck on their journey

There is a reason a lot of people are overweight, a lot of it has to deal with emotional issues, and with that comes lack of confidence and insecurity. I know how stupid it is for myself to care so much what others think or say about me. I know I shouldnt value what snotty b*****s think about me, but unfortunately, I do. One of things I miss most about being healthy is confidence! Even after surgery and weightloss.....i probably wont tell people at work though. I feel it is too intimate to share with people I dont know, or people who dont care about me.

I am a firm believer in either both people working really hard to fix their relationship or walking away. Sometimes all it takes is one person to start treating the other person better and being more loving....even if they dont deserve it now. Shower them with support and love and if they dont start coming around well, then its time to give them the ultimatum, therapy or divorce. I left my ex after doing everything I could for 3 years. My daughter is still devistated at times and it was rough on her. I decided it was better she didnt grow up seeing her parents miserable and fighting. I am married now and she will grow up seeing a healthy relationship.

Omg this thread is awesome. Fyi...growing up my grandma called it my "twinkie". haha " wash your twinkie" she'd say. Did I also mention that I loved the hostess cake twinkies? Every day at lunch I would open up my lunch box and then think about my Vagina. Dang now I want a twinkie....the snack cake...not a vagina

Oh wow. I am so sorry your husband did that to you. My husband have gone round and round about him wanting to tell his parents. I have decided that I dont want them to know, only because i am new to the family and I worry his mom will tell everyone. She is a medical gossip tells everyone about everyone elses medical issues ect. (Shes a nurse). I just dont know the rest of the family well enough to not feel uncomfortable. I dont even know most of them by name yet. Lol. I really wish you the best of luck.

That is awesome for you. Unfortunately, not everyone is in a place where they feel theycn be as open and confident with their decision as you are. Not everyone has people who would be supportive or non judgemental. People like myself from abused backrounds are harder on themselves and are brought up feeling loads of shame and the thought of more people judging them gives them anxiety and pain. And some people are just private in general.

I understand. I feel fine telling my friends and family....no problem there, but honestly a lot of the women at work are super judgemental. Take today, it wasva coworkers and my birthday so they got us cupcakes. You should have seen the nasty up and down look two of us got from a member of management as we were eating out cupcakes . First she looked at the cupcakes on our plates, scoffed then looked us up and down. Another time, we were discussing at lunch that we needed to get ourselves into the gym and our gym patterns ect. Well another snotty memeber of management scoffed and said " well dont stop going, I havent missed a day at the gym in 16 years" then walked away. Just rude. If it was some nobody at work I could care less, but management is different. Some of these women are extremely snotty. I would prefer they didnt know.

There is so much that will be different, the 3 weeks of liquids only, then mushy, then tiny meals following with weighloss as well. Seems like it would be a dead giveaway. I mean is there anyway to be discreet about this lol?

Just figured I would post this interesting fact that I learned on a documentary on obesiety recently. If you have ever been overweight, in order to maintain your weightloss you will have to eat 20% less than someone with the exact same body type, height/weight that has never been over weight. My suggestion is to contact your NUT or surgeon and talk openly about your diet. They can help you come up with the correct calories to eat in order to acheive more weightloss. BTW...you both look Fab!!!!

I grew up with a very negative mother. Nothing i ever did was right. I felt like my entire family judged me even when i was pretty small. I was the annoying kid noone wanted around. Iwas spoiled with things but not with attention or emotion......this has made me a very scared about everyones judgements. I care way too much what people think or may think. I was not as bad when i felt better aboit my weight. Bit at my all time high now my self esteem is broken. So my husband gets annoyed when i worry about what people will say about me having surgery. Or even hmthat inviting his parents over for the super bowl sends me into worry....i cant eat unhealthy...i have to clean the whole house...ect ect. He doesnt care what anyone thinks but i freak about it. I tried to tell him that i need him to be very supportive and understand that im extrememly fragile right now. Im making this huge decision to fight for my life and the last thing i need is for him to roll his eyes or say "really?!"...the smallest tine or look can really hurt me right now. I know this is my issue but i feel he should try and be more understanding that i am under a lot of stress and fighting my way back from deppression.

I learned something interesting on a obesity documentary on HBO. If 2 people the same exact height and weight eat the same exact meals, but one was previously over weight and the other has always been normal, the person who has lost weight has to eat 20% less to not gain weight. The Doctor said this is forever....because after losing weight our body is always trying to get back to that previous point.

Oh my!!! Im glad you pulled thru and I will pray that you continue to see improvement! I have been wanting to quit smoking for years.I quit for a few months awhile back, but stress got me. This time I am praying it sticks.

Its been just over 48 hours since my last ciggarette. I have been using an electronic ciggarette, but its nicotine free. It is helping with the anxiety. I am hoping in the next 2-3 days I will be off the electronic cig too. Doc put me on Wellbutrin last week but I dont notice a difference. It has been SUPER stressful at work too. Lissa, what do you mean it almost killed you?

if you read what I highlighted in red you will see that the requirements are: 1. You have participated in a minumum 3 month supervised diet in the last year. 2. the rest of the evaluations must have been completed in the last 6 months, this is your recommendations /clearances ect.

Mel2643 I think you are reading it wrong.

Thats funny, i just contacted my pre op Dr today to tell them i am having trouble quitting. He is going to write me a script for Wellbutrin an antidepressant that also helps you quit smoking. Talk to your Doc...theu may be able to help