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Thanks for all your support. I especially like the conversation starter "I need to discuss something with you that has been on my mind but i need you to do me a favor and hear me out completely and then take some time to think about what i have said before you respond." I’m going to call my insurance company today to see if it will be covered. Is there anything specifically I should be asking?

Hello! New here. I’m 25 years old, a wife, and mother of a 2 year old and a 7 month old. Like most everyone on here, I’ve been overweight my entire teenage and adult life. I’ve never, that I can remember, been below 235. I’ve always had problems with my knees since I was a teen. Last September I was training for a 5k and was experiencing severe pain so I went to see a doctor. I was diagnosed with Patellofemoral Syndrome and early onset arthritis in both knees. The doctor told me if I didn’t lose 100lbs within a reasonable amount of time, he predicted I would need a double knee replacement by 40. That scared me because my dad just had knee replacement at 40 and needs another knee replacement next year. So I wanted to go to a nutritionist. I went to my primary doctor who was a bit overweight herself and I didn’t get the feeling she really supported me going to a nutritionist. But she weighed me and everything, my BMI is 39 (I’m 5’9 and 264lbs) and diagnosed me as obese with the recommendation to go to a nutritionist. I took that letter to the nutritionist who turned it into my insurance (they ended up not paying for the nutritionist but I didn’t follow up to why). I went to her once and didn’t go back. She didn’t seem like a good fit. I’ve recently started exercising but my knees are killing me. Even sitting here at the computer is painful. Enough background: My husband is really fit and in shape. He’s thin and has no issues with food or weight what so ever. He doesn’t understand what I’m going through and I’m afraid that he will brush it off as me just needing to get motivation to lose weight on my own. I want to go and see two weight loss surgery programs in my city (at two different hospitals- Syracuse, NY) but I want his support. I want him to go with me or at least not think I’m silly for wanting to do this. Like I just gave up. He honestly believes that with enough will power and motivation I can do it...But when I exercise my knees hurt for days, sometimes even a weeks. I don’t really know what I’m asking...I guess, how did you all talk to your significant others? Were they supportive? Did you move forward anyway and they joined in later?