☠carolinagirl☠

sorry you have had to endure such a trying time

that being said....being upset/frustrated wont solve the issue at hand.

YOU....you have lost weight before and you WILL do it again.

remember how?

the band basics?

eating your Protein first, your veggies, some fruit

(your band allotment should be about a cup or cup and a half)

and just because we can eat a whole pizza doesnt mean we should

start right now

get rid of the boxed items..not good for you

think fresh, think clean....drink often (to help fight head hunger and keep you hydrated)

and the most important thing.....MOVEMENT

walk.....even if you just go a half a block..its something

pick yourself up...

right now

whats done is done

the last 3 years are never to return..or get back

but you can change your future.

seems to me, if you dont follow the rules and expect to lose 25 pounds per week,

the the band (or WLS) fails and it sucks and its off to the races with negative.

granted some things happen sometimes but in this case...i feel the patient herself

made the lap band fail

great loss so far..but the pre op is not really about losing (weight)

its more to get the body ready for surgery..larger BMI people can lose more

and sometimes some people hardly lose anything...its basically liquids...and it happens

fast and also on the post op.....and then when people start to eat again (slowly) because

one is just in drinking their food, they can gain or (even not lose anymore) and then they

start the whats wrong stuff.......AND that is where you need to realize, inches lost mean actual weight..

measure yourself now.......and then again a couple weeks post op.....use that guide as a sign..

all the best.

you know what guys

if one of use can encourage or make someone who is scared or struggling smile or feel good

and let them know they are not alone

then we did good

as we all were once (new)

Spent the day in emerg yesterday. Pain still under my left rib cage. All tests said I was good except there is still some Fluid in my abscess but not enough to worry about..Okay we will see!

That is not what got me. The attending physician asked me if I had Bariatric surgery. I said yes and he said so this abscess has been here a while then. I said yes.

Then he looked me up and down and asked when I had the surgery. I said almost 2 years ago...Hardly got the words out when he said, 'how much did you lose?' I said 211 lbs.

He replied, 'ummm not bad I guess.' in a drone voice....

What the H*ll! I was gob smacked. I did not expect him to do a dance of joy but it would have been nice if he had at least said how do you feel about that. Or are you happy you have lost that much. What would have been the magic number to get him to say terrific... What a idiot!

RJ

a beautiful woman inside and OUT ♥

How long should I wait after a meal to drink some Water?

depends on what your own doctor recommends

some say 20 mins and some say 30 min and some say 45

and some say no time at all

i personally wait 20 min but if i need a sip, i take it

use your best judgement...what did your doctor advise you?

i dont know..hadnt thought about that aspect of it.

now that i dont eat out hardly (except on fridays)

i tend to shop more for clothes and also spend more $ on

better quality foods (tbone steak, 96% beef patties, chicken breast)

so it could be the same or even more some times.

went home from work, waited on the ole man to get home....once he did

we got kabo the doberman and off we went for our walk....granted it wasnt 5 miles or 3 miles

but it was a mile...and i enjoyed every step..every step makes me stronger mentally and physically..

every step helps...just step forward...not backwards..

I have had two concerns or questions over the past 3 weeks and while a whole lit of people view or read my concern, no one is willing to answer or reply to mt post. Am I posting my concerns in the wrong place. I thought this forum was full of veterans who have been through all this and succeeded!! Should I just ask another forum? Bc I'm getting nothing on here.

what type of questions?

i am sorry you did not get the answers

and devint is also offering great advice

the only thing i would add is that YES YOU CAN.......if you TRULY want too

the WLS is merely a (helper).....the tool that brings one success if the one we already have

ourselves

mind over matter is how i see this

just because its there does not mean we have to eat the whole bowl

have a couple, enjoy and move on..(3500 calories is a pound/ate or drank)

we are stronger than we know or give ourselves credit for

we are not dieting, we are living..

your doctor should have gave you a hand out of what you can and cant have

for my WLS, Tomato Soup was not on my clears but on my full liquid segment.

i would ask your surgeon about shakes etc instead of listing to an EKG person

just my opinon...and shakes are your fuel/your food/your Protein...i continue

to use them every day....they taste good also

best of luck

So I started my diet 3 days before the doc told me to, and have been sticking to it... until Saturday when we were cabin camping and I had a burger with a slice of cheese and ketchup. I also had 5 pieces of Halloween candy, and probably 2 servings of Doritos.

Yeterday, I was back to my good habits. My date is Halloween. Did I blow it?

prob not but its over and done w/now

you are stronger thank you know or give yourself credit for

best to do the best you can up and until then

(maybe even let your doctor know)

the pre op is to help your liver get smaller to give better

access to your surgeon...its not to be a diet..its for a reason.

ps, cheating after surgery could harm your insides so for

best results, follow your doctors advice...because if you dont

you only are cheating yourself....and we've all cheated on our

diets havent we??

you know what you need to do

eating (making better choices and exercising)

certainly a fill can help but you can still eat crappy with a fill..

so dont...you have the tool to help you get well...use it...

and i am not talking/referring to the lap band...

are you losing inches?

are your clothes getting loose?

are they getting too big on you?

if so, then you are losing actual/real weight

regardless of what the scale says or does not say

keep doing what you are doing as it will soon enough

ps, dont weigh all the time if you are...look how you feel now

it will happen...hang in there

only lost a pound?

how about being able to live comfortably

its about health

not about being skinny or a size...

if you are able to walk.......that is a NSV

if you can wipe your ass.....that is a NSV

if you can put your own socks on.....that is a NSV

if you can sit on a chair or bed no longer fearing it breaking...that is a NSV

these are some of my personal NSV's after i had WLS

i did not care what the scale said (still dont as i go by losing inches/clothes getting bigger on me)

i did not care if i ever got to be a size 2

i wanted to be able to do those things

merely WALKING without fear of passing out due to heavy breathing

merely sitting down somewhere not being scared the chair would break

(like in the movie shallow hal)

trust me, those NSV mean a lot MORE than a stupid ass number on a scale

when you go from wearing a TIGHT size stretch 30 to a snug 12/14 ......you understand

when inches lost means losing TRUE weight...

hey sharpie

we call chick/dumplings (chicken pastry) where we are from

and although i dont like the pastry part, i so love the chicken/brothy part

those all sound great. I love pumpkin and like the idea of low cal /sugar free treats. now if I could find a way to make chicken n dumplings low cal I would be happy...lol

alex i cleaned my plate because i wanted too

and went back for 3rds, 4ths until it was all gone..GLUTTON

that is the truth...now my WLS wont allow me to do that

so now since i cant do that (clean a plate eat a lot (which is what i did)

you dont get up to a BMI of 62 by eating a small side salad btw

i make sure i eat good things for me (lean Proteins, veggies/fruit)...i do not deprive

but let my WLS of choice say when i am done...(*it tells you if you listen*)

great post my friend

well, its my 30th wedding anniversary so i wont be (thinking of candy) LOL

but to me, candy doesnt do much

i eat some when/if i want it

3500 calories is a pound (ate or drank)

if one takes in more calories than ones burns off

they are going to gain (candy or slice cheese or steak or mcdonalds sweet tea etc)

i say have a couple and move on and BOO

if you are losing (inches), you are losing weight regardless of what the scale say or not

if your clothes are looser

if you are feeling healthier...doing more...then its working

hang in there..all the best

i went for a walk today with my hub and doberman...

FYI

i had to reset my phone...please text me your name/phone to my cell so i can have it again (sorry)

or pm me your phone (and address for christmas cards) and i will respond with mine

always best to call and tell dr what is happening ALWAYS

i had #2 big time after surgery (and before) liquids in means liquids out

if dr gives ok, see if you use immodum AD and also try a probiotic as that helps the digestive track

i open the capsule and put in my Protein drink every morning

make sure you are drinking/sipping (use SF popsicles to help)

drinking too much too fast can make you feel sick.go slow and use the anti nausea tabs they gave

you to help ..this was major surgery, its going to hurt but each day you will get better

hang in there